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Phases - 11/6/2009 6:38:10 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Do you find that you go through phases in what you do together? For a while we were in a phase where all he wanted to do was to cause pain and marks. We've realized that we're now in an intense rope phase. As we get deeper into the rope phase, almost all of the hitting and slapping has stopped. Do your phases overlap? Do they last for long periods of time? Just curious. Or is it like a buffet for you? A little bit of everything at any one time.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 7:08:56 AM   
CollaredLisa


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Status: offline 		Hmm... Sort of, I guess. Sometimes it's a certain activity, like you said, sometimes it's just a certain object.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 8:31:27 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		We started and are still in the rope phase. I'm a bondage slut, what can I say?

He's had time when he's been a little more interested in some pain, that seems to come and go; and as far as I can tell is mainly related to whether he empties the toy bag and sees the hitty things on the bottom or not. But we've always been into rope and sex.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 9:47:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		i guess i would have to say yes.... because We used to do BDSM stuff.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 11:52:32 AM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Do you find that you go through phases in what you do together? For a while we were in a phase where all he wanted to do was to cause pain and marks. We've realized that we're now in an intense rope phase. As we get deeper into the rope phase, almost all of the hitting and slapping has stopped. Do your phases overlap? Do they last for long periods of time? Just curious. Or is it like a buffet for you? A little bit of everything at any one time.


 Not so much phases, as such .....we dont do the same thing over and over and over. We tend to do what lends itself to the *day in hand* and how we feel. We've tried and experienced a hell of a lot over quite a few years and one of us will get a *thing* about *something or other* and want to experience it again in a different way......and off we go. We've never been that into any specific activity, that we want to do it week after week, though.

The type of people that the pair of us are tends to dictate what we do. I could be branded one week , pierced the next , suspended in some way another time.................. we rarely do *nothing*. It's all about what life is doing and what we *feel* like at any time.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 3:57:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Do you find that you go through phases in what you do together? For a while we were in a phase where all he wanted to do was to cause pain and marks. We've realized that we're now in an intense rope phase. As we get deeper into the rope phase, almost all of the hitting and slapping has stopped. Do your phases overlap? Do they last for long periods of time? Just curious. Or is it like a buffet for you? A little bit of everything at any one time.


I think its kinda like... you love sushi, so you have sushi and you eat it every night for a month, but then, even though you love it you get bored of it and maybe want some steak so you eat steak for a while but still have some sushi every now and then becuase you still love it even if you have become bored with it. Soon you will get bored of steak maybe you will add more sushi into your diet to liven things up and maybe you will add some chicken in as well.

OK now Im hungry and have lost my line of though...

Im going to get dinner!!

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 4:11:39 PM   
Surrenderwithin


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Status: offline 		I cannot say that I can identify any phases we have gone through, in relation to play, in the last ten years.
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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 4:49:41 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I think we both go through phases depending on what I can take and what he feels I or he may need at a certain time, what our moods are and other such distinctions.

Then there are other times when it's a little bit of everything. It just depends on what he wants the outcome to be if any at all.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 6:03:26 PM   
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Rip an arm off, sew it back on, rip an arm off, sew it back on.

Every now and then they'll set my hair on fire just to see me blow smoke rings.

It's okay though, I think it's just a phase.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 6:35:53 PM   
sophia37


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Status: offline 		We don't go thru phases, as much as we explore a new found idea then move on the next idea we'd like to explore. Sooner or later some idea will seem like it needs to be explored again, since its been so long since the last time. Fun really.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 6:58:19 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Rip an arm off, sew it back on, rip an arm off, sew it back on.

Every now and then they'll set my hair on fire just to see me blow smoke rings.

It's okay though, I think it's just a phase.

chia* (the pet)



Is it a phase if it's a different arm though?

agirk. .........edited to add..agirl...lol


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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 8:38:38 PM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Rip an arm off, sew it back on, rip an arm off, sew it back on.

Every now and then they'll set my hair on fire just to see me blow smoke rings.

It's okay though, I think it's just a phase.

chia* (the pet)



Is it a phase if it's a different arm though?

agirk. .........edited to add..agirl...lol



You bet. They call it Phase II, or as it's lovingly known, Mr. Potato Head has interchangeable arms.

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RE: Phases - 11/6/2009 11:01:23 PM   
pompeii


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Status: offline 		Hell, I go through phases on Collarme, let alone with real people! (real as in not online) ... 

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RE: Phases - 11/7/2009 9:48:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		We don't go through phases. Its more like a slow progression over time from a vanilla service relationship through a descent into the TPE we now enjoy. Over time we come up with new ways to control Dainty turning him into the most submissive pet he can be. We are very patient in this pursuit but steady progress continues. We keep a formal contract which is updated every few months adding the new things agreed to by all parties involved. It is a guideline to how we agreed to live together but its also neat to go back and read the previous contracts we had as a kind of record of his descent into slavery.

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RE: Phases - 11/8/2009 9:11:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Everything old is new again...then it gets old again. Variety, variety, variety.

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