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Kooth -> RE: Dacryphilia (arousal from tears) (9/2/2004 9:58:20 AM)
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I am aroused by tears, whether joy or distress, emotional or physical, if it is in the right context, as several have said. If it was not intentional, or was from unwanted pain, from an outside source perhaps, then I too would probably want to soothe and step in to "fix" the problem. Often, though, I have been told that I shouldn't or couldn't fix it, that though the tears were a sign something was wrong, I should just be empathetic, a shoulder to cry on.
In a similar vein, I learned from my ex that to accept her tears, and not be in a rush to "cure" them, was a sign that I accepted all of her, not just the good, joyous times. We grew closer because she felt able to be more open with me all of the time, in all ways, and didn't have to hide or alleviate her distress in case it displeased me. I didn't enjoy this kind, because they were the result of growing pains, but we went on to explore intentional frustration, and that was very powerful indeed. She did a lot of digital self-portraiture during this time and some of her work was amazing, she captured expressions I had always thought too fluid to see in one snapshot. I'd like to share that, I'm going to see if I have permission from her to do so.
I think there are probably different expressions that go along with the tears, depending on what caused them. A spanking will cause you to screw up your face (I mean tighten the muscles - lol) in different concentration, thinking about the immediacy of the pain, than orgasm denial will, because that frustration goes on for longer and the end may not be in sight. And I think tears of joy, caught by a smile below, are the most expressive of all, because it's usually from sudden relief, and you get to see the change from one feeling to the other in their face. The corners of the mouth waver back and forth uncertainly, tilted down, then up, the forehead wrinkles ease and fade...
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