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RE: This thing called service. - 11/8/2009 6:59:35 PM

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Since I started working, I don't do so much service. I contribute what I can to our mutual upkeep, but I don't see that as service as much as what one does in a relationship. When I'm working alot of extra hours, Sir actually does more for me than I do for him. He makes sure I eat well, does most of the cooking and alot of the shopping, does my laundry, and keeps the house picked up. He says thats not service, but taking care of his property.

On my days off, I'm especially careful to get Sir's breakfast the way he wants it. To me, thats a service. He could just as well do it himself. I make the bed everyday, and bring in the newspaper. Many days, he gives me a list, and I get it done. Some days, he says we're just going to enjoy the day, so I do that with him. Beyond that, I obey, no matter how I'm feeling. He's made it clear that that's my greatest service. I do what he tells me to regardless of the circumstance (excluding hard limit areas). Beyond the practical, I also care for his well-being, something that involves a lot of intangibles. (Sir asked me to include this)

We lead kind of a nuts and bolts existence. It works well for both of us.

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RE: This thing called service. - 11/8/2009 9:14:49 PM

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What IS service to you? When you *serve* your dominant, what actual form does it take?

To me, service is merely placing the needs of another ahead of your own needs. The actual physical manifestation of that commitment can take many forms.

i have been in this lifestyle for many years, and i have served many Dommes. The form of that service has differed with each Domme.

My most recent Domme was married, and so there was very little sexual contact in our relationship. my role was to do work for Her to make Her life easier. i primarily cleaned Her home, maintained Her lawn, removed leaves in the fall, removed snow in the winter, ran errands for Her, and massaged Her. i also served as Her guinea pig anytime She purchased a new toy for Her dungeon.

Prior to that, i was a 24/7 live-in sub for a dominant girlfriend. The mere fact that She was also my girlfriend, and that W/we lived together, made things very different. In that relationship, i did ALL of the housework, cooked all of the meals (or took Her to dinner), chauffeured Her anywhere She had to go, and paid all of the bills. i bathed Her most nights, and massaged Her most nights. i also served as Her sexual servant. She initiated all sex, and dictated when, where, and how often W/we had sex. In short, She was in charge of every aspect of O/our lives and had the final say in all decisions.

Both relationships were enjoyable, but both were very different. The nature of the service was defined by each Domme. Each of my relationships before those two were equally unique. The nature of the service was a unique as the Dommes themselves.

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RE: This thing called service. - 11/9/2009 7:51:37 PM

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What IS service to you?

You go first

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RE: This thing called service. - 11/9/2009 8:16:08 PM

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With the distance between, my service primarily is an emotional nature. I'm there for her when she needs me, ready to listen and be supportive.

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RE: This thing called service. - 11/10/2009 2:24:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: antipode

quote:

What IS service to you?

You go first

I thought I had, by saying this ...

quote...That's really what I was interested in discussing. He does tons more for me in every way than I have ever done for him.....neither of us call what we *do* for each other *serving*. I was trying to have a peek into what people *see* as their *servy* thing....unquote

But in the spirit of your post, I'll add that the only time I would ever consider that I'm *serving* him, is if he directly asks for something specific. It's very rare .....I can only think of one time, offhand..and it was a pedicure.

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RE: This thing called service. - 11/10/2009 8:50:02 AM

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Would you say he serves you too , in that way, in that case?

Carol serves me by doing things to make my life easier. Some of those things are at my request and others are initiated by her. Honestly, it's pretty much the same thing I do for her. There are, of course, some vast differences in the WAYS in which we serve each other -- along the D/s angles, she serves me by submitting and I serve her by dominating.

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