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Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smother ... - 11/8/2009 7:42:27 PM

amy19808

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I am a sissy crossdresser, and enjoy having my face smothered/sat on. I am still trying to figure out why its so erotic to me, and wondering if you have had any slaves/sub who enjoy this.

Do you enjoy giving the face sitting/smoothering?

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/8/2009 7:44:37 PM

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Do I find them? yes, often. Do I understand the interest, sure. Its a major turn on for someone who enjoys being powerless, since they are giving their ability to breathe to someone else for the duration of the scene.

Do I enjoy it? No, its uncomfortable, and I am unable to concentrate on the feelings I get and enjoy in a position like the one needed for face sitting, and so I dont bother with it.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/8/2009 8:30:13 PM

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One possibility:
having nose firmly up into woman's anus
needing to breath in
not wanting to know, or admit, that one loves the smell
having no choice but to know it
being forced to admit it to oneself
feeling sexually aroused by the smell
feel the shame about enjoying the smell
feeling ashamed that one is sexually aroused by the smell
feeling the shame of knowing that she who is sitting on top of you can see the truth of all these things and see your embarrassment
feeling the humiliation at her watching your discomfort with your conflict
feeling terribly turned-on by the humiliation of having being found out
found out to be someone who loves to have your nose up a woman's ass.
found out to be someone who gets really turned on doing that
not wanting to be thought of as this kind of person...
feeling ashamed to find oneself to be this way.

At least according to theory.

but then... what do I know?

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/8/2009 8:49:08 PM

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This topic has been discussed endlessly. If you click the search button in the upper right hand corner, put in "facesitting" as a term, search by "topics," then search by "subject," you will find dozens of threads relating to your inquiry.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/8/2009 9:23:07 PM

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You are young and it seems filled with a lot of fantasy and confusion. You also seem to be in a hurry. Your profile has a few contridictions... like you wish for someone to take you over just during the session and then you state that with training you might be able to be a full on slave. (You also weigh fifty pounds at five feet eleven. That will get you a few odd looks/emails/comments.)

You wish to be forced into being dressed as a girl and yet you like being dressed as a girl. What is that about? Think about it. You cannot force the willing and it isn't really a good idea to use someone else and the excuse of being forced to do something you really want to do.

I've seen a number of your posts... all about what you want and need and are in a hurry to get into. What about the person you would have doing these things? What do they get out of it?

Slow down, breath... think and stop the fantasy long enough to see that you are not being realistic and need to balance everything out. If you continue as you are... it is going to be very difficult to find a decent dominant.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/8/2009 9:44:40 PM

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In addition, I think you're going to find a number of people enjoy these types of activities more when there is something between the two people, rather than just a random act. Sex and kinky activities aren't hard for most Dominant women to get. Some of us just prefer only to engage in them with our s types not just any person who's willing to be a "seat".

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/9/2009 6:23:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VampiresLair

Do I enjoy it? No, its uncomfortable, and I am unable to concentrate on the feelings I get and enjoy in a position like the one needed for face sitting, and so I dont bother with it.

DV

I've never tried this, and I've always wondered how one could do it comfortably. It makes my knees hurt thinking about it.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 9:23:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

You are young and it seems filled with a lot of fantasy and confusion. You also seem to be in a hurry. Your profile has a few contridictions... like you wish for someone to take you over just during the session and then you state that with training you might be able to be a full on slave. (You also weigh fifty pounds at five feet eleven. That will get you a few odd looks/emails/comments.)

You wish to be forced into being dressed as a girl and yet you like being dressed as a girl. What is that about? Think about it. You cannot force the willing and it isn't really a good idea to use someone else and the excuse of being forced to do something you really want to do.

I've seen a number of your posts... all about what you want and need and are in a hurry to get into. What about the person you would have doing these things? What do they get out of it?

Slow down, breath... think and stop the fantasy long enough to see that you are not being realistic and need to balance everything out. If you continue as you are... it is going to be very difficult to find a decent dominant.

"Slow down, breath... think and stop the fantasy long enough ..." Really Lockit? Maybe not the most mind-clearing advice to give the boy while under Buttocks..... LOL.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 9:31:21 AM

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I am not sure if it is fortunate or unfortunate... but a fantasy still cannot smoother someone. lol

(Danger/warning... Brat crossings. Do not yeild... run them over! hehe)

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 11:22:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AnnePrimrose

One possibility:
having nose firmly up into woman's anus
needing to breath in
not wanting to know, or admit, that one loves the smell
having no choice but to know it
being forced to admit it to oneself
feeling sexually aroused by the smell
feel the shame about enjoying the smell
feeling ashamed that one is sexually aroused by the smell
feeling the shame of knowing that she who is sitting on top of you can see the truth of all these things and see your embarrassment
feeling the humiliation at her watching your discomfort with your conflict
feeling terribly turned-on by the humiliation of having being found out
found out to be someone who loves to have your nose up a woman's ass.
found out to be someone who gets really turned on doing that
not wanting to be thought of as this kind of person...
feeling ashamed to find oneself to be this way.

At least according to theory.

but then... what do I know?

If I could combined what I quoted and LadyPact’s excellent post is where most of what happens.

For people into power exchange in terms of relationship based with power dynamics within the relationship the kinky things discussed in this life have way more then one thing that is attractive to them, sexual arousal. We are not any different then other people and especially women that even if we find them sexually arousing we still very strongly prefer doing them with people we know and have feelings for and not just do them to do them.

Another big motivation and in particular can be for this specific kink is that often these things are not done out of they specifically trigger like something in AnnePrimrose list but these things have a domination/submission aspect to them. Many dominants and submissives, particularly ones drawn to significant power exchange relationships, enjoy kinky things as physical manifestations of the power. That doing them can simply be done out of wanting to feel or see the domination and submission take place in a physical aspect and that feeds the people.

Kinks can often be arousing for themselves but they can also be arousing because of what they communicate to the people doing them. Face smothering is one where this can often play out as it pretty much reverts back to childhood where two children wrestle until one cries uncle.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 3:28:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kccuckoldmist
... these things have a domination/submission aspect to them. Many dominants and submissives, particularly ones drawn to significant power exchange relationships, enjoy kinky things as physical manifestations of the power. That doing them can simply be done out of wanting to feel or see the domination and submission take place in a physical aspect ....

I really like that statement in red font.
(I changed the color to emphasize it).
Yes, a physical manifestation of the D/s relationship.
That's really an important part of this sort of thing,
at least for me.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 3:58:34 PM

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Has to be a Hot , skinny , Mistress........

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 4:01:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IBused

Has to be a Hot , skinny , Mistress........

On that note, I'd like to ask someone's vagina a question.

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RE: Do you find subs/slaves who enjoy face sitting/smot... - 11/10/2009 7:00:55 PM

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Damn Red... I hope it is multiple choice.

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