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RE: Do you think sex is expected when sceneing?? - 3/11/2006 9:18:58 AM

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1. The sexual stimulation (often before or after the fact -- and this has been my experience)

When I say "sexual stimulation" I mean getting aroused by thinking about scening beforehand, I don't necessarily mean having sex with that person before or afterward. That hasn't happened with me unless we're in a relationship already. The scening has just about always been separate from sex (your mileage may differ).

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RE: Do you think sex is expected when sceneing?? - 3/19/2006 12:56:40 PM

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no and yes

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RE: Do you think sex is expected when sceneing?? - 3/19/2006 1:47:57 PM

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I generally agree with alot of what has been said...BDSM is sexual and sex can be a very important part of it...but I've also had very satisfying scenes that haven't included or culminated with intercourse.

This is what pre-scene negotiation is for.....IMHO, very little should actually just be "expected", except the basics, i.e. respecting limits and safe words, general safety, things like that. Everything else should be negotiated beforehand so you (and the Dom/Domme/Top) have a pretty good idea about what is or isn't going to happen in a scene, and you can spend the time enjoying the scene, not stressing out about what someone is or isnt' expecting.

If a Dom or anyone else pressures you to have sex when you aren't into it, run, don't walk, away from them, especially if its not a regular partner. A good Dom will understand and respect your wishes/limits.

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RE: Do you think sex is expected when sceneing?? - 3/19/2006 2:32:05 PM

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Sex is not part of sceening normally, and not normally allowed in a bdsm event, however if there is more to relationship, it might develop, it might happen, or it might not. Some can not seperate the two things, some are merely looking for kinky sex, some are using bdsm to look for sex. So it depends on who it is ur talking about, all are different. Take ur time and ask lots of questions.

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RE: Do you think sex is expected when sceneing?? - 3/19/2006 6:48:10 PM

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I dont expect sex when i am scening with my Dom. For us, BDSM isnt about sex, it is not what we focus on, its more about the growing part.

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