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CherryDarling -> What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 4:32:27 PM)
What does being a submissive mean to you? What qualities does a good submissive have? Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration)

DVsFox -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 4:39:57 PM)
What does being a submissive mean to you? It means that I have a submissive personality and prefer that my Owner have the majority of the power within our relationship. What qualities does a good submissive have? They have whatever qualities their Owner deems good. What is great and wonderful for one person may be different for another. Why should you be picked as a submissive? I already have been, so no need to answer the question...but if I were to tell my Owner anything(and I wouldn't). You should pick me because you love me and I love you, silly. DV's Fox

breatheasone -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 4:56:36 PM)
Being submissive to me is being yielding.... Being a good "s" type to me, is the same as being a good me.... i do my best to be honest, and kind. i have zero answer for why i should be picked.

WestBaySlave -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 5:00:46 PM)
"What does being a submissive mean to you?" To me - I'm not going to define it for others - it means a certain mindset and way of relating where I follow another's lead, direction, command, guidance, etc. And actively seek it as a part of my life. "What qualities does a good submissive have?" The qualities a compatible dominant seeks. "Good" is very subjective, I've found. One person's "perfect submissive" is another's "doormat" or "brat". It all depends on how well their respective dominant and submissive natures' mesh. "Why should you be picked as a submissive?" Because I meet the needs of the dominant, and we make a good match as people.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 5:49:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? What qualities does a good submissive have? Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) I'll write your paper for $150. [8\|]

littlewonder -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 5:51:46 PM)
It means I yield to his dominant nature. It means I surrender to his power. I wasn't "picked". I chose because I was attracted to him the moment I saw him and knew he was the man I wanted to submit to. It really wasn't anything more difficult than that really.

Wolf2Bear -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 7:46:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? Means I am acknowledging all facets that is me. What qualities does a good submissive have? To be the best person I can be which others want to know and be around. Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) If the qualities I posses are compatible with the qualities a potential Master seeks then that is reason enough.

Llyren -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 7:48:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? What qualities does a good submissive have? Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) I'll write your paper for $150. [8\|] I'll do it for $125, and make sure it's spelled correctly. (post corrected for formatting)

lucylucy -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 8:38:07 PM)
Dreamerdreaming and Llyren, I don't think she wants us to write her paper for her . . . here's my theory. Her profile announces that she is under consideration by a Dom. Thus, I think she wants us to ghost write her emails to whoever is considering her. Given the stakes, I think $125-150 is damn cheap.

Llyren -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/16/2009 9:12:26 PM)
Heck, we can do that. We can even give her a variety of literary 'voices'. Hmm... Forget trying to find a job, I could just ghostwrite posts here on CM for a reasonable fee. Sliding scale, of course. And I'd make a mint just coming up with good opening cmails for CHDWBs and HNGs to send to unsuspecting women. (CHDWB = Clueless Het-Dom WannaBe, and HNG = Horny Net Guy. It was originally Horny Net Geek, but that was 15 years ago when only geeks were online.)

elleX -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 12:15:26 AM)
Hi Cherry, to me, been submissive mean a power to yield to a specific Man , the power to stand ,soul naked before that Man And about the submissive qualities , i would say her total acceptance of who she is I am in a relation to a Dominant Man, if i was alone , i think i would lower my defences more easily to certains chosen Men so they would see me more easily, the rest would belong to them .

agirl -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 6:25:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? What qualities does a good submissive have? Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) I'm not entirely sure as I'm not. They seem to have the qualities that the bloke they're with thinks are good. I would imagine that actually being able to submit would be a helpful one. I did ask someone......The only thing I was presenting was the person he knew. I assumed that if he wanted to own me then he'd accept the job. I didn't give a single moment's thought as to WHY he should take the job on......so I can't really answer that beyond * If you want to and you can*. agirl

OsideGirl -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 7:37:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) I wouldn't want to be "picked" by someone that would put me "under consideration". Personally, I believe in getting to know each other and seeing if it works. As in it goes both ways. It's not a decision made by one person.

DesFIP -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 7:39:41 AM)
First off all, it's a relationship, you don't present yourself blindly to someone who will consider you. You learn about each other and see if there's enough liking, loving, compatibility and commonalities to fit each other. And if there's sufficient chemistry also. Beyond that, do you feel submissive to him? Do you feel a sense of power in him that you intrinsically respond to? In order to give him control over my life, I needed to know that he knew what he was doing. So I asked a lot of questions which he answered fully because he understood that if he didn't know what he was doing I could wind up maimed or dead. A man you don't know who demands blind trust without having earned it doesn't deserve my submission and won't ever get my trust. Does he have a good track record? Does he treat waitresses kindly or does he demean people with less power than him? Does he have fits of anger and blow up at his boss and quit jobs or get fired frequently. Being promoted or sought after by headhunters for higher positions is a different story. Submission is not a one size fits all. Are you a people pleaser? Do you get fulfillment doing things for others without any external rewards? Do you volunteer? Do you prefer to have people tell you what to do when they want it done or do you operate better with more autonomy? Do you seek to be emotionally vulnerable to someone and have them fully open to you in return?

stella41b -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 8:25:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? For me it's two things. First is that need to serve someone else, to make something easier for them, to empower them, however generally it's basically giving someone else what they need, want and desire without setting any conditions or wanting anything in return. quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What qualities does a good submissive have? Humanity. quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling Why should you be picked as a submissive? I disregarded the bit in the brackets because I'm not 'just' a submissive, but a complete whole person. Looking at someone as a dominant or submissive to me seems about as rational as looking at a loaf of bread as just flour.

Mercnbeth -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 8:44:52 AM)
quote: What does being a submissive mean to you? a lifetime of encountering folks who assume she is weak, devoid of intellect or opinion, mentally ill and in need of "fixing", exploiting or destroying. failing miserably at conventionally based relationships. finding joy and fulfillment, anyway.[:)] quote: What qualities does a good submissive have? it depends on who and what they are submitting to. quote: ...Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration)... this slave wouldn't tell a Master she was presenting herself to what He should do...she is either pleasing and useful to Him, or she isn't...what He "should" do, with that knowledge, is up to Him.

agirl -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 9:26:55 AM)
Almost everything Stella said applies to the person that owns me. Me, less so. agirl

Hierodule -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 3:25:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling What does being a submissive mean to you? To me it means I gave myself to someone. quote: What qualities does a good submissive have? a good submissive is limber and has no gag reflex ummm I mean... The qualities her partner wants quote: Why should you be picked as a submissive? I believe I was picked because I was born to make him happy.

Llyren -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 3:51:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hierodule [ a good submissive is limber and has no gag reflex Well, I'm in trouble. I have an awful gag reflex. I tried warning them before the endoscopy that I did, but they refused to listen. Even under anesthesia, I fought them so hard they couldn't get the tube down my throat.

CaringandReal -> RE: What does it mean to be a submissive? (11/17/2009 6:34:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryDarling quote: What does being a submissive mean to you? Putting someone else's desires before my own and getting aroused sexually by that fact. quote: What qualities does a good submissive have? Mental and emotional flexibility are good places to start. Better than average intelligence doesn't hurt, but is not required in most situations. I think a really good submissive pays very close attention to her dominant and grows to know him or her better than she knows herself. quote: Why should you be picked as a submissive? (Answer as if you were presenting yourself to a Master who has you under consideration) Because I don't mind the feel of a collar around my neck? :p (That wasn't serious, btw, although for some dominants it might be important!) I think two attracting qualities might be because I learn from my experiences and because I can be extremely entertaining. I also have a high tolerance for, well, pretty much anything the right person chooses to do.

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