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JBGolden -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 7:21:00 PM)

So I sometimes talk a lot when I have discussions and explain things.

Is that really a bad thing?



DesFIP -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 8:06:22 PM)

JB if someone writes me and I don't respond at all, I don't hear from him again.
If I do respond to say no thanks, then 4 out of 10 men will write again. Some will assume I really am interested and being coy, and the others send nastiness. The ones who assumed I really did want them will always come back later on telling me I'm too fat to fuck. That's the nicest thing said. I've gotten people telling me they hope I die, get murdered, threaten to track me down and knife me slowly etc. Now obviously most of them just say fuck you bitch and then go away.

But the point is that if I don't respond I don't have to deal with any of that. At all.

It's another reason the only picture I've put up is of  a peony. If you put up a picture you get a lot more comeons from men who are looking for an easy no morals slut right this minute. Because otherwise why are we on a sex site?

No response is a response.



JBGolden -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 8:13:55 PM)

Yeah, I figured as much.

But that story... damn. All I can really say is I'm sorry. [:(]



greenman59 -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 8:26:43 PM)

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She thinks THIS guy is just working another angle to get a free piece of ass and tells him to piss off or ignores him. He slinks off into the darkness because he has been rejected. She thinks "See? I knew you didn't really want to talk to me. You just wanted sex. You don't give a damn about ME either." <snip> Guys. If you ACTUALLY LIKE a woman, then TALK TO HER! Keep talking to her 


So...you are suggesting that, if the woman tells you to piss off but you ACTUALLY LIKE her, to ignore her request to piss off and continue to talk to her.

Really? That would work, or would you end up calling the bouncer/cops?



DesFIP -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 8:41:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JBGolden


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ORIGINAL: Acer49
" I have a highly active libido and a wide open imagination" is the first thing you really want to say to a woman? Many will look at the profile before ever looking at the email. If I were you, I'd work on your profile before you waste time sending out letters that will likely never be looked at.



Well, it's obviously not the first thing I say, especially when I message somebody, nor is it all I wrote. I've even been complimented on my profile a number of times. But I've never been one to shun advice. What do you think I need to work on?



Put the sex stuff at the bottom of the profile. If you go to a party, you don't walk up to the most attractive female and tell her about your libido. You comment on what a pretty color dress she's wearing, or ask how she knows the host. You talk about the horrible weather and the last raise in subway fares. You save discussion on your sexual interests until you know there's enough chemistry between you that it looks like you'll be heading that way on the next date.

Here you do want to list in vague terms what you like, just for general  compatibility. Vague meaning one line tops. More interested in sensuality than sadism but find my partner's responses lead my interests. Or not into sadism, but heavily into rope. Or really love humiliation and objectification play.

The problem with you posting here about what others shouldn't do, is the guys who do all the wrong things don't read profiles, journals or forums. They see new female member and send out their one liner. With a dick pic usually.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 8:49:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JBGolden

I've noticed something in the couple of days I've been here.

I'll be perusing profiles, come across one that I've seen before and see a journal entry or profile edit about people insulting them. It's not only here that I've seen it happen and it's somewhat frustrating. (I put people because even though I generally mean guys since I'm looking for women I've seen mentions of some rude Dommes as well)

My main question is: Do you think some people don't like to respond back (especially when they're not interested) because they're so jaded they might get insulted or tore into?

I ask because it's frustrating since I like to get responses when I message somebody. Even if they're not interested. I'm man enough to know that just because I don't fit their needs that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me. And it pisses me off when somebody else is ruining my search for somebody because they don't know how to pry their head out of their ass. Hell, I even wrote a journal entry on this just before coming here. Not sure if anybody'll read it but if it gets one person to act less dumb I'll be pleased.

I always try and craft a unique message to anybody I would like to talk to and, I have to admit in a moment of weakness, there's times when I feel like it's wasted when I don't hear anything back. But, then, I just buck up and move on. Dwelling on the 'what could have been' won't bring on the future.

I'm curious as the the insight of others regarding this. I've never gotten a rude message during dating (Except for the other day but that was through phone text and involved a vanilla date. Long short story. [&:]) so I'm wondering if my thoughts on this might prove right.



Hmmmm....4 days.  What can I say?

(I believe it speaks for itself).



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 4:20:03 AM)

JB I tried the polite no thank you, it results in either an attempt to convince me I'm wrong or a rude response. It's not worth it. To give an example, I got one the other day in which the guy asked if I'm in Ontario and if so where. I wrote back "no I'm in Quebec". He responded "well if you're ever in the Greater Toronto area, I'd be glad to fill your mouth with cum" Nice....I blocked him"

Zeph



UncleNasty -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 10:08:05 AM)

You're all wrong!!

This is all that bastard Bill Clinton's fault!!

Uncle Nasty



BrokenSaint -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 11:53:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JBGolden

So I sometimes talk a lot when I have discussions and explain things.

Is that really a bad thing?



Nope, I do that too, if people don't like it, fuck them, and not in a festive manner.

Related: I always personally try to respond back to people. Though sometimes I do forget, and am generally ludicrously busy, so.. takes a while. I even respond to the hey UR CUTE WANT TO CYBORZ? messages. Even though they make me rage, and thus my response is generally unfavorable. Same with the "hi" messages. If someone can't be bothered to write more than one line, they're not getting more than one back. But if someone puts thought and effort into writing me, I appreciate it, regardless of whether I'm interested in them as anything more than a friend or not. Thus I respond in kind.



aphotic -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 12:21:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint


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Same with the "hi" messages. If someone can't be bothered to write more than one line, they're not getting more than one back




That's not even one line. That's one syllable! Even the bifurcated "hell-o" is too complicated for these types of mountain dwarves, and they should never be responded to. You can see exactly where this is going when you do...

"Hi"

-Hi

"How r u?"

- i c y u r single!



BrokenSaint -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 1:07:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: aphotic

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint


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Same with the "hi" messages. If someone can't be bothered to write more than one line, they're not getting more than one back




That's not even one line. That's one syllable! Even the bifurcated "hell-o" is too complicated for these types of mountain dwarves, and they should never be responded to. You can see exactly where this is going when you do...

"Hi"

-Hi

"How r u?"

- i c y u r single!


Hahaha yes, it generally goes like that.



girlygurl -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/18/2009 2:08:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Women get lots of men contacting them.  I've read some journal entries saying that they got several pages of cmails after joining.  And a lot of them are "U r cute.  Wanna fuck?"

If you take the time to craft an individual letter, your chances go up but I still have something like a 5%-10% response rate to unsolicited contacts.

I'm going to just try vanilla dating and see if I can pervert vanillas now.  I figure my odds are better.



Now, if I received an email with that statement I might respond [8D] Instead I get these silly emails like "wut r u n 2".



pixidustpet -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/19/2009 12:30:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aneirin

I got one for you, anyone who receives a rude c-mail, report them. Or how is it people expect this place to become more polite and realistic.

Now I don't know what the action is when a profile is reported, what exactly happens, but if rude people are brought to the attention of the management, who knows it might actually help, it might go some way to ridding the scrotes and cleaning this place up a bit, self policing if you like.

If no one complains, no one in charge will know and there nothing will be done, except real people will become disillusioned and probably look elsewhere for a website that does offer something different from here.




i'll gently disagree.  what about the person who has a very prickly written (deliberately) profile reading VERY clearly that s/he is NOT interested in unsolicited mail, that they are very mucn taken/collared/married/in a closed relationship....who then gets a message from some mindless gorm who saw a photo and then decides that "i wanna nail that, lets see, here's the message button!"??

i think *that* person has every right to send a rude email back.  i *have* sent rude emails back.  if someone doesnt have the brains to check the profile?  cause mine (for example) is short and claims right there at the top that i am not looking...and fortunately most of the people who view it now, havent messaged me.  not to say i dont reply politely to polite emails about general matters, just dont email trying to claim you're the dominant of my dreams.  cause....chances are, you arent.  [;)]

kitten



MsStarlett -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/20/2009 12:05:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JBGolden
Your words do make sense, MsStarlett, and I do employ them to an extent.

The only thing is when you're not even responded to: Would it still work in this instance or would you just be seen as a pest? That's part of my conundrum.


Sorry, I forgot which thread this was on.

Personally, I have never considered anyone who was polite to be a pest.  But then, I tend to be a bit more friendly than some. 



Hierodule -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/20/2009 12:21:47 PM)

 I don't respond to anyone who says "nice tatts" and that's it? I feel like thanking them is an invitation to talk further. I don't always want that so I stopped responding to "nice tatts" all together. Is that rude?



BrokenSaint -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/20/2009 9:37:41 PM)

Well, they are nice tatts. But someone should say significantly more than that if they want a response. So no, I don't think it's rude at all.



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