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Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/17/2009 9:18:09 PM

KittyKat89

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I need some ideas!

I have just met someone and I am trying to show them what I am into, but I want to start with the light things first.

I have a massage table that I use as a 'bondage table' as it is really easy to use the legs to tie ropes to and the like. Here are some things that I have done to give you guys an idea of types of things I consider sensual bondage... since that defintition tends to be pretty relative per person.

I have quick restraints so that they aren't inescapeable... and use the hooks on them to tie to the legs of the massage table. I have bought a feather for that light tickling sensation.. I have a wine glass that I fill with ice and use as I wish along the parts of the body... sometimes I will hold the ice in my hand and let it melt while letting the cold water droplets from it touch the skin... sometimes I will let the ice trail up and down the body... sometimes i Put it into the palm of his hand and let him press it against my nips while he is still in his restraints... sometimes i press the whole cold wine glass against his body. I spank softly with an open hand... I think that toys or gear such as paddles etc would still scare him a bit at this point. I tease his man parts too and then if he is a 'good boy' I let him turn over...

THen I am at a loss of what to do. I can blindfold, and i will continue to tease him etc and make him beg me to remove it...

Sometimes I will make him please me orally while still blindfolded before he can take the blindfold off and please the both of us *winks*.. I have practiced slight orgasm control and denial by making him ask me before he releases and if I say no he has to find a way to hold it.

Beyond that, I have no idea how to further this without getting too rough. I really would like more teasing ideas to keep the sensual bondage foreplay from becoming routine... variety is always good... I like to keep him nice and heated so that the good hard fun can begin.

Any ideas? This can include objects/things that would provide different sensations. Also, keep in mind I am on a budget! I like to keep things simple with regular objects that you would often see laying around just anyone's house like... I enjoy the thought of spanking with a hairbrush because he will see me using it one morning and smile, remembering that I used it on him before. Can also include little games like the "ask mistress before you release" thing...

Much appreciated in advance!

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/18/2009 7:08:22 AM

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well... you can do some wax play... but you have to use the right sort of cande. http://www.kufs.org/waxplayinfo.htm has some good advice

Vibrators are also fun especially the small finger tip kind that are cheap enough...I think you can even buy them in pharmacy now... use them against his balls and cock.. against the frenum and even his ass... on his nipples.. thats alot of sensation

You can also use different oils on his different parts..KY has several products and I like tea tree oil.. you blow on it and it sort of heats and tingles..

those are some quick ideas

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/18/2009 8:05:55 AM

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Think about where you can give him these experiences. You have his skin but you also have his mind.

A nice one is to blindfold him and then touch his lips with a finger then perhaps a strawberry then your own tongue and then a dab of cream, the back of a spoon, your belly button, a nipple and then.... well I'm sure you can think of something else!!

Warm some oils or better still heat up some stones and run them through oil and onto his body. Mix this with ice play.

Wax is good but if you want sensual and not hot you need to find soya or lanolin wax. Lanolin massages into the body after it has dripped.

Smells are good. you can buy little bottles of things like vanilla, coffee, lavender and other things in the health store. Whilst you are playing with him waft a scent under his nose. This plays with the senses and throws them around a little.

Wash him like he was a baby.

Smear cream over him and lick it off.

Have fun

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/18/2009 10:48:26 AM

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Pervables...like hair brushes are great for this stage of the game. As far as "paddles and gear" this is the ideal time to start their introduction. Get him used to being rubbed at different levels and tensions with various objects. If he's blind folded WHAT he's being rubbed with is your discretion. Letting him see that the delicious rubbing sensations came from "gear" will just make him more curious about what it is, how it works and how it feels. Sensual, there is no reason to swing a flogger when your goal is the erotic tension of his mind not knowing what is causing that fun feeling.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/18/2009 7:00:17 PM

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Pervertables:
textures
—exfoliating bath gloves or loofahs or…
—satin, velvet, skin, fur, terrycloth

tickling objects
—toothpick tips, bamboo skewers, well manicured nails, blow air through a straw
—daisy or other multi-petalled flowers, woolly lambs' ear leaves or similar fuzzy leaf, whole fruit (surface textures)…peach, apple, avocado, banana, grapefruit

light impact objects
—wooden spoons enable light taps as much as stinging ones
caress or swat with the rounded side on meaty areas
swat with the cupped side over nipples to tease (especially if nipples are slightly or more erect)
caress cupped side over smaller rounded surfaces like heels of hands or ball of foot or scrotum
reverse and tap balls with handle if escalating

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 12:11:49 AM

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the use of finger taps against his balls, gently gently, but now and then HARDER, and then moving his balls, slowly, maybe one ball, moving it slowly and then hold both, and faster and faster, and then... finger tap tap tap tap gently gently, TAP and tap tap tap. You'll get his attention. Do that for 20 minutes. tap, moving, tap, moving.

find his prostate and really gently, press your finger tip onto it
learn how his prostate feels and when he is ready to cum, then press the flat of your finger against the prostate, and YOU will stop the orgasm.

When you WANT him to cum, instead of the flat of the finger, go with the pulsing updown of the prostate and play it like a little drum and you will MAKE the orgasm CUM! and CUM!.

be in charge of the orgasm. That finger tapping is CBT, I assure you. Blue balls result after just a few taps, but if its gentle, he will never complain, and after each several taps, move the balls slowly to create circulation and then move faster when you want him to cum. You can blow on his cock head while you move the balls faster and faster and he will nearly cum just from the blowing action.
place one finger on the prostate while you do all that and monitor how its going. The prostate will let you know when he's ready. You will control him via his prostate.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 4:32:27 AM

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Oh! I'll have to read this when I get time.

I had always wondered... after you spend all that time getting a boy trussed up like a Christmas goose.... Now What?

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 8:35:00 AM

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sensual massage is good to use as well. this uses lotion or preferably massage oils to highten the senses during the olay. alternate the sensations from cold to hot sting to thug gentile to hard. audible sounds and smels, tase as well. there are so many things to do think about each sense and use diffrent aspects of it, diffrent combinations. think about it and have fun

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 9:23:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mirror88.

be in charge of the orgasm. That finger tapping is CBT, I assure you. Blue balls result after just a few taps, but if its gentle, he will never complain, and after each several taps, move the balls slowly to create circulation and then move faster when you want him to cum. You can blow on his cock head while you move the balls faster and faster and he will nearly cum just from the blowing action.
place one finger on the prostate while you do all that and monitor how its going. The prostate will let you know when he's ready. You will control him via his prostate.

A point of clarification, please. Really? Literally just blowing air on the head of his cock?

I love the detail in your post. But I'm skeptical. Fortunately, the only way to defeat skepticism is to try it.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 11:16:10 AM

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This thread is eight days old and it's only got eight replies. What on earth is going on? Perfect for some feverish postings by both subs and Dommes - yet only a handful of takers!

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 11:17:45 AM

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A point of clarification, please. Really? Literally just blowing air on the head of his cock?

Just a hunch, but I think the bit about 'placing a finger on the prostate' explains a lot, Lucienne.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/19/2009 12:39:04 PM

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Put him naked before a fan blowing on high,caress him lightly with the different objects,let one of the objects be an electrical clip from the auto parts store( alligator clip maybe$2) run it up and down the SIDES of his body and have him tell you how badly he wants to serve you,when he becomes hard then clamp the clip on to his nipple!

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 8:10:28 AM

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I have to say that for me, this lends itself to teasing and denial in a big way. My wife / domme and I have been experimenting with the more sophisticated elements of T&D including massage and edging and she's gotten very good at it. As a male sub, I have to say it is an amazing feeling which emphasizes someone's helplessness while overloading their senses in a very good way. After 20 years of play, we've only recently come to understand how many techniques there are in taking a helpless and willing male to the edge and back - not for 5 minutes but for 30-60 minutes or more. It becomes an incredible experience for the man and one that allows you to develop some unique and incredible skills and techniques that will leave him breathless and wanting more. For more details, you might want to check out http://www.orgasmdenial.com/forums. Lots of great techniques and stories which I think would lend themselves to the stage you guys are in.

Good luck and enjoy.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 4:41:52 PM

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ahem...teeth or at no cost, if you have them? Nibble begins with a lick...then more pressure, then more places and then more ....ahhhsss and oohhsss....stop please, don't stop please and then comes from you....your nuts are in my mouth and I can't hear you, did you say stop or not? Aha, Up to you now...He is UP.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 5:20:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

sensual massage is good to use as well. this uses lotion or preferably massage oils to highten the senses during the olay. alternate the sensations from cold to hot sting to thug gentile to hard. audible sounds and smels, tase as well. there are so many things to do think about each sense and use diffrent aspects of it, diffrent combinations. think about it and have fun

Thug gentile Lady P ? With the number of spelling errors, which is unlike you, I think your thoughts may be otherwise occupied

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 6:48:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

A point of clarification, please. Really? Literally just blowing air on the head of his cock?

Just a hunch, but I think the bit about 'placing a finger on the prostate' explains a lot, Lucienne.

Agreed. I giggled at the way that was presented almost as an afterthought when it struck me as a primary, um, driver.

ETA: I'm still going to try it without the finger on the prostate. For science. You know.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 7:07:26 PM

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Well, my basic kit is a piece of rabbit fur, a wartenburg wheel, two chain floggers (one in ice, one in hot water), and two leather straps on handles. They make a lot of noise and sting pretty lightly. I also like a suede flogger for this part. I have hair that will touch what I'm sitting on, so I use that as a sensory play item, but if you aren't into that you may want to use a silk scarf too. And, of course, fingernails and teeth. (grin)

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 7:48:58 PM

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Hi.

I love the concept of having a guy tied down so I can do what ever I want to him. I'd use a crop or whip on him, squeeze his nipples, smother him, make him do oral on me, and may be dribble some hot wax on him too. Oh the possibilities are endless. Have fun with it!!

Hope this gives you some ideas.

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RE: Sensual Bondage : What to do!! - 11/20/2009 8:03:31 PM

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Ooooh I like these posts... thank you!!

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