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How to... - 11/19/2009 1:10:04 PM   
starletprincess


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Status: offline 		So being that I am quite new to this, (I was on here for awhile before, but got really turned off of it by the wierd messages, and didnt talk to many people at all) I was wondering, how do you tell the difference between a spam bot message and a message from a real person? I have seen the other thread here with all the weird demands and such and was just curious.

Also, why is it that their are all these Doms out there that cant seem to either A: grasp what you say in your profile, or B: just wont read it at all. It seems to me that alot of times they either see a pretty picture, they think they can pull you away from your beloved Master and change you into their numb minded little slut, or then there is my favorite thus far, of people insulting my master which in its self is quite irritating since I am extreamly protective of my Master.

I just want to figure it out because I really love the sense of community from the people that do take time to read profiles, have normal conversations, and just like to talk about anything. I want to make it work thi time!
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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 1:22:13 PM   
mefisto69


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Status: offline 		Ignore and delete are your 2 best internet friends. The problem is - everyone has access and women get deluged with trash and trash talk. Take note of some of the women that frequent the fora... most are safe and sane. If you feel you have something to add to a post.... go right ahead. Enjoy the best you can.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 1:33:56 PM   
Llyren


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My new rule is to ignore any messages from people I don't recognize from this side.  I think it will cut down on a lot of spam, and reading useless one-line messages, to which I will be compelled to give snarky replies. 

You can't stop the HNGs and CHDWBs from cluttering up your inbox, nor the various varieties of scammers.  So just take them with a plain of salt, and enjoy hanging out  with us here. 


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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 1:40:32 PM   
wisdomtogive


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren


My new rule is to ignore any messages from people I don't recognize from this side.  I think it will cut down on a lot of spam, and reading useless one-line messages, to which I will be compelled to give snarky replies. 

You can't stop the HNGs and CHDWBs from cluttering up your inbox, nor the various varieties of scammers.  So just take them with a plain of salt, and enjoy hanging out  with us here. 



I like your idea Llyren. Also you cat is beautiful.

Starletprincess,
I can't give you very great ideas. Why Dom's don't read what is written, I guess they feel it doesn't mean them. Just use your common sense, come to the boards if you get confused, because people will help you. And if you didn't pay attention to your own red flags(like me), hug yourself and know we all make mistakes. Point is to not repeat.

Welcome back.
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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 1:59:00 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Just because someone checks a box on a free web site does not mean that person is a Dominant.  In other words, those weird messages from "Doms" who don't bother to read your profile are most likely not Dominants at all.  They are just horny net geeks trying to get their rocks off, and if that is done at your expense it's okay with them.  They hope you'll react to their message and send them something back worth jerking to.  They don't want you.  They want the wank fodder.  

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 2:39:25 PM   
Mercnbeth


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...Also, why is it that their are all these Doms out there that cant seem to either A: grasp what you say in your profile, or B: just wont read it at all...


perhaps because checking the Dom box isn't a guarantee that they are dominant.  checking that box also doesn't make them instantly polite or intelligent or many of the adjectives that have nothing to do with dominance that folks like to attribute to those they deem "real".
 
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...I just want to figure it out because I really love the sense of community from the people that do take time to read profiles, have normal conversations, and just like to talk about anything. I want to make it work thi time!...


Welcome back!!!  it sort of helps to have thick skin when you hang around this place.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 2:47:30 PM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: starletprincess

So being that I am quite new to this, (I was on here for awhile before, but got really turned off of it by the wierd messages, and didnt talk to many people at all) I was wondering, how do you tell the difference between a spam bot message and a message from a real person?


Trial and error mostly.
Just stick with it and maybe get used to the people in the forums and work your way out from there.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 3:26:07 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		You will know a spam message when you see it. Anything said in the message will bear no resemblance whatsoever to anything that you said you were looking for in your profile.  Assume anything that is from outside the US is scammers and you won't go too far wrong.

Good luck!



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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 3:44:58 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		My philosophy actually stemmed from a Dom I met pretty much the moment I made a profile. He warned me 1. there are many fakes on this site and 2. I should not put up a picture.  I took his advice.  I wrote a long profile about who I was, my values, and beliefs. I wrote about what I was interested in, and the type of person I was looking for. When I did my interest list, I did NOT include anything sexual. 

Did it cut down on my responses? Absolutely! Did it weed out a lot of potentially undesirable responses?  Definitely.  In fact, I even took it one step further and hid my profile, browsing those of others, and msging people I thought seemed interesting, or attractive.  Someone told me once for every 9 Dom men looking on this site, there is 1 real female sub.  I don't know if those figures are accurate, but I found no lack of people to engage in conversation with.  If I had a few exchanges with someone, and I liked what they had to say, I'd unhide my profile while they were online, long enough to let them see who I am. In that time, I'd get msgs!

My advice to you. You are young and attractive, and have every right even that aside to be picky.  MANY people will want to talk with you and more, but only a few will be right for you. Persistence on their part is not enough for you to warrant accepting them.  Take your time, be polite, and demand respect.  Most of the fakes and losers will fall by the wayside when you are in no rush, b/c that's what they want, immediate gratification. 

Oh and don't limit yourself to one site, I had profiles on Alt and fetlife and CM before I found someone worth taking it further with.

Best of luck!

< Message edited by HisSweetElysium -- 11/19/2009 3:47:01 PM >

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 5:20:01 PM   
KateyCaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starletprincess

So being that I am quite new to this, (I was on here for awhile before, but got really turned off of it by the wierd messages, and didnt talk to many people at all) I was wondering, how do you tell the difference between a spam bot message and a message from a real person? I have seen the other thread here with all the weird demands and such and was just curious.

Also, why is it that their are all these Doms out there that cant seem to either A: grasp what you say in your profile, or B: just wont read it at all. It seems to me that alot of times they either see a pretty picture, they think they can pull you away from your beloved Master and change you into their numb minded little slut, or then there is my favorite thus far, of people insulting my master which in its self is quite irritating since I am extreamly protective of my Master.

I just want to figure it out because I really love the sense of community from the people that do take time to read profiles, have normal conversations, and just like to talk about anything. I want to make it work thi time!



Ohhh, i can relate, absolutely !!! When i first started on the boards, i literally received a deluge of Private Messages from people perporting to be Doms/Masters wanting me to serve them, on my knees as their owned collared slut and property. A lot of time to build a rapport - Not !!. None of those sleazes actually ASKED if i already have a Master, which i do, with whom i have found true joy and love. Some even started off with "Hi, slut"; or "Good morning, slave" as their intro. i'm not joking. It used to piss me off no end, not to mention the fact that Master Charles found these messages quite yuck.

It was only when i made mention of being (happily) owned and collared by Him, both in my profile; and as my signature for posts, that the creeps finally got the message and backed the hell off. Thank god. Honestly, it was getting tiresome.

k.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 5:24:04 PM   
KateyCaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren


My new rule is to ignore any messages from people I don't recognize from this side.  I think it will cut down on a lot of spam, and reading useless one-line messages, to which I will be compelled to give snarky replies. 

You can't stop the HNGs and CHDWBs from cluttering up your inbox, nor the various varieties of scammers.  So just take them with a plain of salt, and enjoy hanging out  with us here. 




Your cat IS gorgeous - i am a cat person too, Llyren :) i have four :)

k.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 6:46:18 PM   
sophiesback


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mefisto69

Ignore and delete are your 2 best internet friends. The problem is - everyone has access and women get deluged with trash and trash talk. Take note of some of the women that frequent the fora... most are safe and sane. If you feel you have something to add to a post.... go right ahead. Enjoy the best you can.


Did you really just lie to this poor young lady and tell her we were mostly safe and sane?  That is sooooooooo not the case, dear. We are mostly insane, crazy, slutty wenches. i say most of us will welcome you to join us in that, though


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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 9:46:24 PM   
lucylucy


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ORIGINAL: sophiesback


Did you really just lie to this poor young lady and tell her we were mostly safe and sane?  That is sooooooooo not the case, dear. We are mostly insane, crazy, slutty wenches. i say most of us will welcome you to join us in that, though



And we're proud to be insane, crazy, slutty wenches. But we have big hearts.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 9:49:12 PM   
sophiesback


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ORIGINAL: lucylucy


quote:

ORIGINAL: sophiesback


Did you really just lie to this poor young lady and tell her we were mostly safe and sane?  That is sooooooooo not the case, dear. We are mostly insane, crazy, slutty wenches. i say most of us will welcome you to join us in that, though



And we're proud to be insane, crazy, slutty wenches. But we have big hearts.


*nodsnodsnods*

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 9:59:36 PM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		Sane?  PFFT!  You came to the wrong place for that kind of nonsense!  We'll have none of that around here my dear ladies and gentlemen. 

However, yeah, hey again Starlet.  Yeah, I'm everywhere.  All knowing and all seeing.  >.>

And a little drunk.  Gotta love 2L. of screwdrivers!  LOL

Don't worry about the spambots, you get used to them.  Anything that has "yahoo" in it, figure it's a spambot and you'll be about 99.9998% accurate. :)

Overall, just common sense and gut feeling.  If there's something that feels a little odd about the message, there probably is.  And nothing wrong with popping in on their profile too, to take a peek.

People being rude out of nowhere and insulting your master, don't be afraid of the "report" button.  Pretty sure there's a "harassment" option in there.  Not sure though.  It will fit under something in there though. :)

Although not even remotely sane, we are actually pretty safe.  Mostly.  Look out for Bear and GT though.  They're mean!  They'll spank anyone that comes near.    And even if we're kind of odd, very odd really, we're mostly pretty cool people. *HUG*

< Message edited by BKSir -- 11/19/2009 10:02:25 PM >

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 10:10:53 PM   
lucylucy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starletprincess

Also, why is it that their are all these Doms out there that cant seem to either A: grasp what you say in your profile, or B: just wont read it at all. It seems to me that alot of times they either see a pretty picture, they think they can pull you away from your beloved Master and change you into their numb minded little slut, or then there is my favorite thus far, of people insulting my master which in its self is quite irritating since I am extreamly protective of my Master.



They confuse "submissive" with "MY submissive." They think that because you are submissive you will submit to anyone who calls himself a Dom. It's all wishful thinking and adolescent fantasy. My advice is that you delete emails from anyone who doesn't treat you with respect off the bat. Anyone simple enough to assume you'll submit to him simply because you're submissive and he's dominant is an idiot and not worth an email in reply. Just delete.

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 10:27:45 PM   
starletprincess


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the awesome responses! they have helped me understand quiite a bit better.
As for sane. I never claimed to be sane either. Im perfectly insane!! :P

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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 10:32:38 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BKSir
Although not even remotely sane, we are actually pretty safe.  Mostly.  Look out for Bear and GT though.  They're mean!  They'll spank anyone that comes near.    And even if we're kind of odd, very odd really, we're mostly pretty cool people. *HUG*


HEY, NOW!!!  Dont make me come span... erm, never mind...

(I'll get you later.. and try wrapping the sweet potato loosely in cling wrap without poking a hole in it, then tossing it in the nuker.. that should get it to explode without splattering all over)


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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 10:59:01 PM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		Greeeeeedy! *HUG*  How are you?  Have I mentioned how awesome your new pic is?  Yes, that one, the one with the overalls also...  Can you tell I dig the tomboy look?  And bear is trying to molest me on another thread!  I'm not sure if I should make him stop or say "Bring the lube, muppets, and a turkey." 

What?  I've got 3L. of screwdrivers in me now...  cut me a little slack.


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RE: How to... - 11/19/2009 11:09:06 PM   
WyldHrt


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And bear is trying to molest me on another thread!  I'm not sure if I should make him stop or say "Bring the lube, muppets, and a turkey." 

I vote for option 2... with video

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