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LadyPact -> RE: Submissive Training. (11/23/2009 4:10:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Now, it could be the fact that I'm having a bit of insomnia tonight, but could you be a little clearer on the objective you are attempting to achieve?
The objective here is to move from casual play to living togather.
In My opinion, you're skipping a couple of steps there. That could be due to the fact that I term 'casual play' as a top/bottom scenario where there isn't necessarily a dynamic involved. I would be establishing the D/s first before I moved someone into My house. Then again, that's just Me.
In the methods that I favor, I tend to think the physical really comes last. Establishing D/s on a mental and emotional level is really before the moving in part. Having him submit to Me in the heart and the mind is more important than the street address. My boy is currently located half a world away. This doesn't negate the fact that I have authority over him. There's no doubt that he submits, even though he isn't in the same four walls.
Can I tell you how I created that dynamic? Not exactly. I could share with you what methods I employed to derive that result. Whether or not they would work for you is a crap shoot. My boy isn't your girl (I assume) therefore, there's no guarantee it would foster the same feelings of submission, obedience, loyalty, or relinquishing of authority in her. Not to mention, it would be a hell of a lot of typing work on My part.
Thankfully, a number of authors have already taken the time to do such a thing. MFM's booklist is rather good, as well as the one that I mentioned by ResidentSadist. That, and I'd suggest reading and participating here more often. For those of us not willing to write books all at once on the matter, you'll find that bits and pieces come out in threads from time to time. Somewhere in those 9,000 plus posts of Mine, there are a few mentions of things such as protocol and ritual, establishing trust, compatibility, and I can't tell you how many other topics where I and other posters have had the opportunity to expand our thoughts on the matter and what works for us. There's a wealth of information out there.
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