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severity - 3/12/2006 11:16:38 PM

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whats the most servere punishment you've inflicted on your slave,and what was the reason.

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RE: severity - 3/12/2006 11:21:56 PM

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The worst I've ever done is dismiss someone. The reason was lying. I did not take them back.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 4:43:55 AM

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Have to agree, dropping an unspecting slave is probably the worst thing you could do..

However, I will say. I did know this one Mistress in the United States who was communicating with a slave in Canada. Anyway, found out that he was playing the field of Mistresses and was going to drop him before he dropped her. So the plan was this, He was to drive down from Canada ( about 10 hours ) Meet his Mistress here in a motel and play for the weekend there. In stead he gets there, She decided to tie him up , leave him in the room with no clothes. She did leave a note saying what she knew he did , a pair of kids scissors to cut himself loose and notified the down stairs desk that his clothing and his keys were found . But trust me he was freaked out .And since he was dressed as a sissy when all this was being done, he really didn't want to make abig stink about what happened.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 6:17:22 AM

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quote:

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The worst I've ever done is dismiss someone. The reason was lying. I did not take them back.

This is what I've done too -- dismissal.

I've done it once for lying and once for not getting the professional help that person needed when they fully knew they needed it.

The first person, the liar, was cut completely out of my life.

The second person, who needed help, remains my friend to this day but she still has not gotten the help she needs and I still refuse to train or scene with her again.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 6:39:02 AM

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Dismissal is more along the lines of a final judgment.

Punishment would be more along the lines of correcting one's unwanted behavior or action.

In this case, dismissal is not necessarily a form of punishment... giving a submissive a time-out, ignoring them for a set period of time... that would be punishment (but only if it corrected the behavior) & it would be the most severe form of punishment that I would utilize.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 6:40:17 AM

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I wonder if the answers to this thread are really what you were hoping for? There is some part of me that wonders if you were not simply hoping for some cyber-thrill. Sometimes the truth is not so much fun. I have to chime in with dismissal also. Without further contact.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 6:54:41 AM

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I agree with what you said Cloudz... this may not be what the poster was looking for, but it does offer a chance to discuss the results that we do post.

Does anyone else follow the line of thinking I expressed?

Is dismissal an actual form of punishment? Is a behavior corrected by an abrupt end to any further interaction?

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 7:10:42 AM

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Passion,

I suppose dismissal is the ultimate form of punishment...which in my mind is different than discipline. Discipline has a purpose - to teach or help someone learn or change or correct a behavior.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 7:18:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cloudz
I suppose dismissal is the ultimate form of punishment...which in my mind is different than discipline. Discipline has a purpose - to teach or help someone learn or change or correct a behavior.

Dismissal can also help teach someone the consequenses of their actions. The last girl I dismissed I hoped that she would learn from it and not repeat the.... I won't call them mistakes, they are not mistakes when you fully know what you are doing is wrong.... errors of judgement that had caused the ending of our relationship.

Unfortunatly from what I heard since, she is still doing the same kinds of things and the next relationship has gone west for similar reasons. One day she will stop 'playing games' with people, then main person she is hurting is herself.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 7:27:13 AM

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punishment/discipline

I was looking at both words in the same way.

A punishment is established for transgressions. If the transgression comes about, I will then discipline them with said punishment.

Dismissal is the end. No further correction, no further interest, no further contact. Nothing is resolved. It is just eliminated. I don't know about the rest of you but I have felt pretty beat up after a dismissal & tend to 'punish myself' ever so slightly with a few lingering thoughts... "what could I have done different, should I have done something different, was there anything that could have prevented an end."

I have only had 2 dismissals from 'relationship' endings. Neither were for bad behavior or failure of the relationship thriving. Those two releases were for completely different reasons. The dismissals that have resulted from frustrations or lack of progress were in involvements that were more along the lines of part-time play partners or training sessions where there was no intension of ever forming a relationship.

In the end... maybe, just maybe the one dismissed because of undesired behavior will learn an ultimate lesson... you keep doing this & you will walk a lonely path.

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RE: severity - 3/13/2006 7:43:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

Dismissal is more along the lines of a final judgment.

Punishment would be more along the lines of correcting one's unwanted behavior or action.

In this case, dismissal is not necessarily a form of punishment... giving a submissive a time-out, ignoring them for a set period of time... that would be punishment (but only if it corrected the behavior) & it would be the most severe form of punishment that I would utilize.

Maybe I'm just lucky but I don't have slaves or submissives that I have to punish often. Instead I say "Do it over" and the error is corrected or, if its an attitude issue, we talk about it.

So it is hard for me to think of the rare times I have punished.

What have I done?

Well, in general, its writing out my rules over and over and over again.

Since I do SM for my pleasure, I don't use physical punishments with one exception.

One time Fox was banned from orgasm for two weeks. We weren't living together yet and he failed one too many time to refrain from orgasm without permission so this was his punishment. He had to call me every night to tell me how many time he was aroused during the day but he was not to orgasm. He took these two weeks to work on controling himself this way but by the end he was pretty strung out and in need.

I'm sure for some who practice orgams denial regularly this seems silly but I don't -- its another level of management I don't want except when the orgasm might happen around me. So in a situation were a young many is used to jacking off once or twice a day, two weeks without was all he needed to get the motivation to learn to control himself.

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RE: severity - 3/16/2006 10:47:23 AM

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I tend to agree with Mistress Passion. outing someone is never part of the game plan and the day it's done, like she say, is final. In other words it's become vanilla.
I will however, if really punishing, make my sub vanilla for the day. If they dont play the game then we dont play the game.
I did punish my femme sub on Sunday for being a right little princess in front of my house boy. She know's she is my number one sub and sometimes thinks she can take that to extremes, so on Sunday she had to be his puppy for the afternoon!. The resentment on her little face was a picture!.

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RE: severity - 3/16/2006 11:02:38 AM

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