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IronBear -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 9:25:20 AM)
If we are getting close enough that you want to meet me in person, you'll either live here or be visiting, In which case I'll give you the details to a local munch or you'll know people who know me. In either case you can hear the latest gosip and we can meet face to face.. No big deal.. References on profiles? No! I agree with JW and ES on that one.....

SadistDave -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 12:50:38 PM)
References are absolutely useless. Frankly, I would rather someone not waste my time by providing them for one very simple reason. References are used to make someone seem more desirable. No one in their right mind is going to provide you with a bad reference, because it defeats the purpose of the whole reference game. What they *will* do is give you a list of names of people who will blow sunshine up your ass about what a wonderful human being they are. Do you honestly think that the person giving you references is going to use people like their parole officer, the lover they cheated on, or the boss who fired them for incompetence? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that anyone who would do so knowing they will get a glowing reference is probably more worth knowing than someone who just gives you a list of their friends. -SD-

FangsNfeet -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 12:56:52 PM)
quote: In some ways i kind of agree with Amayos...you do seem somewhat obsessed with the whole refernce idea ..have you had a bad experience with a stalker of some sort or..do you think with references you may have more responses from submissives?I dont know there just seems to be more here than meets the eye...be well..Tempting. Was this reply directed at me TemtingNviceSub? Amayos didn't respond to my post and I have no idea of what you are talking about with me being obsessed with a reference idea.

ExistentialSteel -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 1:04:44 PM)
Fangs, they were talking to the OP. Hey, I do that sometimes, too. Don't worry about it. You post some funny stuff. Keep up the good work.

JohnWarren -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 1:30:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SadistDave References are absolutely useless. Frankly, I would rather someone not waste my time by providing them for one very simple reason. References are used to make someone seem more desirable. I'll give you a technique I used to use when I was hiring people. I'd call the listed references and ask them only one question "Do you know anyone else who knows this guy and I can I get in touch with him or her." Might not work in an online environment but I found it to be a sound business tool.

RiotGirl -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 2:06:15 PM)
quote: I am wondering would it be a good idea to put people’s e-mails on your profile or journals as reference only once you get their permission of course. A way for those you are interest in could contact these peoples so they can ask them question about me or if I am for real. I figure it would be a good way to help those looking to weed out players and wannabes on the site. nah cos i'd email the references just cos i was bored

DragonNphoenix -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 4:34:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio I am wondering would it be a good idea to put people’s e-mails on your profile or journals as reference only once you get their permission of course. A way for those you are interest in could contact these peoples so they can ask them question about me or if I am for real. I figure it would be a good way to help those looking to weed out players and wannabes on the site. There is not way that I would have my personal contact information on the site. I just think that this is asking for lots of trouble. 1st Girl Phoenix

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/14/2006 8:01:50 PM)
Sir FangsnFeet,,,No I was responding to the OP..apologies for the misconception..I have read many of your posts and find most to be quite enlightening or very amusing...be well..Tempting..

SadistDave -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/15/2006 12:50:46 AM)
ROFLMAO! Thats a good idea John! I may have to ask someone for references just to see what happens, LOL! Love it. -SD-

MichMasochist -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/15/2006 3:39:05 PM)
Aside from the TOS. One problem. The old snake oil salesman trick comes to mind. Open several email acccounts yourself and sing your own praises. Kinda like, some, pro dommes who will put a couple of refferences on their web sites that atest to the skill, experience, and quality of the domme. Hmmmm.... Maybe I aught to start rocking a few lyrics myself. :P quote: ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio I am wondering would it be a good idea to put people’s e-mails on your profile or journals as reference only once you get their permission of course. A way for those you are interest in could contact these peoples so they can ask them question about me or if I am for real. I figure it would be a good way to help those looking to weed out players and wannabes on the site.

MichMasochist -> RE: Would it be a good idea to put reference's or contacts on one's profile. (3/15/2006 3:44:20 PM)
LOL ...... Yep, you wouldn't be the only one. bor-DOMM.

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