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So who did the work? - 11/26/2009 12:27:51 PM

LadyPact

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Yes, this is something of an American themed thread. I hope those of you in other countries won't mind a little fun on our parts.

Today is Thanksgiving. The great American tradition of thankfulness, and entirely too much food. Many people will spend DAYS in preparation for this one meal. Personally, I've spent a good number of hours in the kitchen Myself this week. Baking, cooking, chopping, cleaning, cutting, arranging trays, etc, etc.

Now normally, clip would be here and would have a hand in darn near everything. It takes him being thousands of miles away to get him out of the kitchen. LOL.

So, just for fun, who did all of the preparations for your holiday dinner this year? Who's coming to your table? Is there a certain dish that you s type makes that you just love?

Happy Thanksgiving and let's hear how the holiday works in your dynamic.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/26/2009 12:41:22 PM

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Great thread topic!

We do the bigger holidays with family so typically a matriarch (mother, mother-in-law) runs the show in the kitchen. What's different about our dynamic is that my husband is usually a leading kitchen-helper, where usually all the women are helping, but I stay far away. I don't cook at all or know my way around a kitchen in any way, shape or form, but he's regarded as one of the most knowledgable cooks in the family so he's generally high up in the ranks with kitchen duty.

Admittedly, this isn't a problem MOST of the time, but I do feel very, very awkward in social situations where either people don't understand our dynamic as a couple (even taking kink out of the mix), or if I am by myself. I don't like being in a kitchen and I am of no use to anyone, but I also don't like to feel like I am not "pitching in" - and it's still expected, in some areas, that the woman/wife knows at least enough in the kitchen to proactively help without even being given an instruction. In other cases, we may get some odd looks if it's time for cleanup and he goes to do dishes with the group and I do not.

When it's an all-woman situation like a baby shower or bridal shower it's especially uncomfortable, but usually my friends say, "oh, her husband does all the cooking, trust me, she's useless in the kitchen" so I can volunteer for a safer "task" if they need help.

The domestic issues for me are an area of discomfort if I am out of my realm. I never like to be unhelpful when being hosted, as I find that rude. At the same time, I am not comfortable in a kitchen. There have been cases, while rare, where this becomes a "joke" to the Betty Homemaker types who think it's fun to take pity on me for not knowing my way around a kitchen, but that's fairly petty and I just don't go there.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/26/2009 4:34:22 PM

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We went OUT, huzzah!!

On Xmas we are having a few guests. My mother, The Only Competent Person In The Universe, will do most of the work. I will do most of the cleaning up, the prepping that dad doesn't do, and some things like dealing with gnocchi and moving stuff from the downstairs kitchen to the upstairs kitchen. So will Dad. Yeah, we have two kitchens, because we are DAGOES. How you folks with only one kitchen manage holidays is an amazing and wondrous thing.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/26/2009 5:41:30 PM

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I had a protein shake for lunch. There was no one around, so I had to shake the damned thing myself. Really, how the mighty are fallen . . .

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/27/2009 5:23:29 AM

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I am the cook in the family.... I however am not the clean up crew I leave that to the other family members which I feel is only fair( they have other thoughts on it)... I create in the kitchen., it a joy for me and fairly relaxing.. Im what is called a messy cook... but the food comes out pretty good if I do say so myself.. We are having it on saturday this year rather than thursday and it will be a small group of friends and family... I will do the cooking which is already begun.. the stuffing bread is spiced and tossed drying out in a large bowl... the pecan pie is in the fridge... Im debating on making a fruit cobbler... the turkey is in the fridge as is the homemade cranberry relish.. For me I need stuffing for it to be a holiday meal.. down in the south they do dressing which is made outside the bird and generally with cornbread. I prefer the sage and onion stuffing that I grew up with that and mashed roasted garlic potatoes which is a fairly new addition to the menu. I think that holiday meals are about that traditions and memories. A way to remember those who are no longer with us, to commerate the traditions of famuly and create new bonds of family.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/27/2009 7:16:04 AM

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Good topic Lady Pact.......

I was fortunate enough to have been my daughters primary care giver for eight years until she was in school and doing very well on her own for the most part. Her mother and I have since separated(6 years ago). During this period, we lived in Canada and my ex was capable of making far more money than I so she wanted me to do the house dad thing. It was rough at first, but after catching on to the "taking care of the needs of others first" part of the job, it went well. I endured a bit of teasing and ridicule from others who knew the situation, but overall, it was the most sacred period of time in my entire life. I did the laundry, cooking, cleaning, daughter duty, raised our husky's, chickens, built managed greenhouses/gardens and etc. It was indeed a life based in service, and I was the happiest I can ever remember being. I no longer function as a house dad, but I developed a new-found admiration and respect for the women in my life who had traditionally performed these tasks for us men.

Thanks for the cause to reflect!

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/27/2009 7:23:17 AM

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Lady Hib, being Jews we have extra fridges and freezers, not full extra kitchens. We reheat extra stuff on the barbecue set on very low.

The teens run up and down the stairs.

My sister does the turkey and stuffing. I do the baking and the special twice baked potatoes. Whoever sits on the kitchen side of the table stacks the dishwasher since you can't easily get in and out on the other side.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/27/2009 9:40:31 AM

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I just wanted to thank those who wanted to chime in. It's always nice to hear about those things that are in day to day life.

On the kitchen topic, I just have the one, but it's literally made entirely of counter space. One person can be completely away from the stove area while preparing anything you would plan to bake. Think of a "U" shaped area with the refrigerator in the back and counters running the length of the rest with and additional counter set above one side. Then more running parallel as a counter with a rolling pantry cover that can still have use for work space. It doesn't have walls, just counters. It's great for baking, which I actually prefer to other types of cooking.

Maybe in a couple of weeks, we'll have to talk about who makes the holiday treats and the favorite ones that you or your s type make.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 5:28:20 AM

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Let me summon my butler, and inquire as to which staff was responsible for preparing which course, decking the banquet hall, currying the grounds...let's not forget the ice sculpture...

I made the food and I ate it. *sigh*!

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 5:42:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

I had a protein shake for lunch. There was no one around, so I had to shake the damned thing myself. Really, how the mighty are fallen . . .

Brava, Lady! Bravely done! We can rough it!

GUENEVERE
What else do the simple folk do
To help them escape when they're blue?

ARTHUR
They sit around and wonder what royal folk would do
And that's what simple folk do

GUENEVERE
Oh, no, really?

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I have it on the best authority.

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Yes, that's what simple folk do

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 5:43:15 AM

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Oh sheesh! Two kitchens! Miles of bench space! Just as well we don't celebrate Thanksgiving here as heck, how would I manage in My tiny caravan kitchen LOL! You folks have never truly been challenged until you've had to turn out meals with a 3-burner hotplate, an oven that has gone on strike, and now the microwave's decided not to work on Hi (but it will at 90% power!), there is 1 foot of bench next to the stove, the only other bench space is found on boards placed over the sinks (but then where do you put the dirty dishes?). The fact that there have only been 2 disasters in the 7 months we've been here is something to be proud of I reckon! And before oven went on strike I was still baking cakes and slices too! Hoping to get someone to look at that when we settle in one spot for a while over Christmas.

Speaking of Christmas, will be having that at a friend's place so will share the costs and preparation. I think she'll be roasting the chicken and pork! Hope you didn't all choke on your turkey

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 6:08:25 AM

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Happy Thanksgiving All
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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 6:26:16 AM

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My sister did most of the cooking and setting up. We usually do holidays at her house, because she has the room, so she does the bulk of cooking at all holidays. This is good because she is a great cook and seems to love doing it.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 6:32:01 AM

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The night before Thanksgiving my son and I made pies while my daughter made blueberry muffins for Thanksgiving morning. Thanksgiving day all three of us pitched in and helped cook which wasn't easy considering we have a small kitchen and no real counter space. As food went into serving dishes my daughter washed the dishes, while her brother set the table. Their godmother and her g/f ended up coming over so we made room from them at the table. My son cleared the table once everyone was done, I put left overs away, while my daughter washed the last of the dishes. We simply nibbled on left overs for dinner.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 9:30:30 AM

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as my Mistress has said i would normaly have been in the kitchen all day cooking and having great fun doing it. this year i was able to help a bit here by serving for the other soldiers on the base. its too bad we cant have fresh egg nog here i love making it.

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 9:38:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

as my Mistress has said i would normaly have been in the kitchen all day cooking and having great fun doing it. this year i was able to help a bit here by serving for the other soldiers on the base. its too bad we cant have fresh egg nog here i love making it.

Hey clip- its too bad you're away for the holidays. Thanks for your service and know that many of us here at home have you guys in our thoughts quite often. I know it must be rough at times, but hang in there.........

Be well..........

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 12:08:36 PM

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i did all, shopped, cooked, cleaned, it was a grea day, nice and quiet, mistress, the folks, i take great pride and joy in preparing meals for family and friends and mostly taking care of mistress

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/28/2009 2:09:56 PM

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I called Dominos. So.. did I do the work by dialing the phone? or did they, by making th4e pizza and delivering it?

*waves hi to clip* warmest wishes to you and all your fellow soldiers!!

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RE: So who did the work? - 11/29/2009 1:01:46 PM

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I'm currently trying to figure out how to make a fruit filled cheesecake. THAT will be my staple. XD

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