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How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 5:50:51 PM   
glamgirl72205


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Joined: 11/22/2009
Status: offline 		I am very new to this (yes I'm submissive only in the bedroom though) and unsure on how to go about ... So to speak finding a Dom. I live in Arkansas. I have dabbled a little but want to further my experiences & knowledge. I'm interested in the D/s aspect. Can you please help me?
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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 7:21:33 PM   
CaringandReal


Posts: 1397
Joined: 2/15/2008
Status: offline 		I met my former master online. It was back in a time when nobody did that and everyone who knew me or heard about this thought I was crazy for doing so.

Your post is a little strange. (stares at you like like L. at Light-o) I imagine you must be getting lots of messages from dominants. Well, you just read the messages and then you reply to the ones that sound right to you. You wait and see what they say back, see if you like it or if it fits what you want, then write some more. When or if you feel comfortable enough, you meet them.

What else do you want to know about meeting doms?

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 7:28:01 PM   
AquaticSub


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Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline 		College party. He supplied beer and kept me from having sex while drunk. Friggin' cock blocker...

(And yes, I did actually meet him at a college party. We knew each other for years before starting date. I just felt like being flippant though he really did cock block me. )

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 7:28:27 PM   
S2


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Joined: 11/26/2009
Status: offline 		I would suggest that you talk to as many people as you can, but be careful who to give personal/contact information to. Eventually, after having talked to a variety of people you will get a better sense of what kind of people you are looking for, or more specific aspects of D/s that you wish to explore in more detail.

I guess I should add this:
I met my Master in a site not too different from this one. At the time, I had written a short story in my profile, a fantasy of mine. My Master's first message refered to the story specifically, and that seperated him from all the rest. Then I was very fortunate it was happily ever after from that point on.

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 8:02:40 PM   
KateyCaine


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Joined: 5/7/2009
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i met Master Charles on the Official Saw fan club Forum. i put a post on one of the boards about 20 months ago that was essentially me "coming out" (it was where i made mention of some D/s aspects that were very clear in Saw 3 that i had noticed instantly, for those who are familiar with the movies). He welcomed me to the boards, and encouraged me. We began private messaging via the Saw Forums, then emailing to our respective email addresses. We became very close friends, and He became my confidante and my rock, who never judged me, not once. This sounds crazy, but something told me to open up to Him and let Him know that i am a submissive/slave. He replied, letting me know that He is a Dom, and BDSM-oriented like me. We eventually moved on to talking on the phone every single day, for up to three hours We began discussing aspects of BDSM and D/s, what we feel about various aspects, what things we are both new to. We began to feel a mutual attraction to eachother sexually, and our emotional connection and "meeting of minds" continued to strengthen, as i let Him into my heart, laying my soul bare to Him, the things that had happened to me over the course of my life that had shaped my fears, insecurities and longings.

We eventually fell in love, and our love, trust, respect and commitment to eachother has deepened over the past year. i spent five weeks over in the States with Him, exploring our every desire, in eachother's arms, waking up next to Him every morning, preparing His clothes, loving and serving Him. i have never felt so at home and so safe as i do with Him. i knelt before Him and asked Him to spend the rest of His life with me, and He said yes :)

i go back to the States for Christmas and New Year on the 11th December, and i am moving over to Pennsylvania in July 2010.


Miracles DO happen, and beautiful lifelong relationships are sent to us - sometimes they are right under your nose, and the one you've been looking for your whole life is right in front of you.


Master Charles, this post is for You.....:)

katey

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/26/2009 11:34:10 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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Status: offline 		Ever see the movie, "Weird Science"???  There ya go.



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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 2:21:51 AM   
subtlebutterfly


Posts: 2230
Joined: 6/15/2008
From: Not your hood
Status: offline 		Well I was gonna buy that movie Mill on the Floss and it was da last copy n me n this dude were both gonna take it but there was only one copy so we were like..we gotta watch it together!
n so i bought it n we watched it together n then he was like..
..no ok I lied I'm single..sorry couldn't help myself.


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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 2:27:39 AM   
Tinkerer


Posts: 136
Joined: 7/18/2008
Status: offline 		I met her here, on this site.

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 4:12:09 AM   
Elizabeth666


Posts: 288
Joined: 10/14/2009
Status: offline 		I met Sir on a vanilla dating site, it just so happened that we had a lot in common kink wise.

As far as meeting people goes, take it slow. Read as much as you ca, talk to as many people as you can, subs, Dom(mes) etc. Try going to munches or sloshes in your area and make friends with people before getting into anything.

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 5:44:57 AM   
kanina


Posts: 147
Joined: 11/19/2009
Status: offline 		i was in ocasional sessions with a Dom and was not working for me, was empty, we  hadn´t had one session in many month... and i am in another BDSM forum where a Dom introduce himself , and as i do to everyone i welcome him, and we i started to talk first by private message then i gave him my msn and we talk some more, for some weeks, i in between left the other one and when i notice i was in his hands   it was very quick...

but what i and everyone should advice is that people should at least meet in a public space, research the people, as about in the communite etc etc there are many dangerous people out there...

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 5:58:42 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		OP, I'm confused.  Your post here states you want to find a Master.  Your profile hints that you're only looking for information, and then specifies that you're only looking for sub women and friends only.  When I read your profile I assumed that you were already spoken for.

Anyhow, the best way to meet someone is to find out what groups are local to you and go to their munches and get togethers.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/27/2009 10:50:57 AM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

OP, I'm confused.  Your post here states you want to find a Master.  Your profile hints that you're only looking for information, and then specifies that you're only looking for sub women and friends only.  When I read your profile I assumed that you were already spoken for.

Anyhow, the best way to meet someone is to find out what groups are local to you and go to their munches and get togethers.


i agree about the confusion. i would only add that you should be sure to mention that you are a "bedroom" only "s" type..... Just to avoid any confusion as to what it is you are looking for.


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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/28/2009 10:42:04 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		There are lots of groups in Arkansas - in various locations. Find one you like the look of and contact them.

and i met Sir on collarme, and Barnes and Noble.

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/28/2009 12:11:13 PM   
magdalenaxx


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Joined: 11/28/2009
Status: offline 		I met my Master when we were both just in high school english class :)
Then we worked together.
Then we dated, started out as vanilla but quickly quickly, he led me to who i truly am.  6 years together, 2 and a half married :)

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/28/2009 5:42:31 PM   
HisSweetElysium


Posts: 600
Joined: 11/12/2009
Status: offline 		We met on alt.com He msged me, and distinguished Himself above the rest with His intelligence, patience, honesty and interest in learning about me before meeting me.  I went through A LOT of frogs to find Him, many from this site but it's worth it. Just learn from my and others mistakes and take things slow, anyone who rushes you is not worth your time, and above all, be safe, whether it's check in calls, etc.  

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/29/2009 3:13:54 AM   
HimNbabygirl


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Joined: 11/4/2009
From: Knoxville, TN and Somewhere, WV
Status: offline 		This is a long version of a short story. i am married to the person who introduced me to the BDSM lifestyle. He is also 23 years older than me. 9-10 years ago he lost interest in what he had awakened in me. i tried for years to just sweep who and what i am under the rug and have a nice normal nilla life with my husband. Unfortunately, that wasn't working, i became bitchier, he became distant. So after years, and i do mean multiple years of not having any sex of any kind (he trained me not to have an orgasm without his permission when he was into BDSM, and it stuck) i told him i had had enough! i informed him he could either take comand again, or give me permission to seek someone who would. He chose to give me permission as long as i agreed to stay with him until his elderly mother passed.

So to make a long story short i somehow found out about fetlife and from my profile and blogs, Master became interested in me and contacted me. W/we became friends and more. The main thing is W/we were both honest about who we are and what we were looking for. W/we have continued being honest with each other, and Him, very tolerant of my mistakes as He knows while i have been in the lifestyle before have been "non-practicing" for years and basically He is starting from scratch with me.

my $.02 worth

His baby girl

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/29/2009 7:21:37 AM   
lapgirl


Posts: 116
Joined: 1/5/2006
Status: offline 		i met my Sir in a chatroom on AOL many years ago.. the room has long ago vanished. He started as more of a friend and mentor, eventually it turned into RT... and now it is a complicated situation. We enjoy what we have, when we can have it...we have known each other over 7 years i believe.

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RE: How did you meet your Dom/Master/etc..... - 11/29/2009 8:55:22 AM   
DomImus


Posts: 2004
Joined: 3/17/2009
Status: offline 		Online on IRC.

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