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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 9:10:20 AM

IronBear

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How to approach a slave on the net?

Good question…..

First you causally saunter around the net surreptitiously checking all the lifting ropes are attached.
You toss hers bag of chocolates to keep her occupied.
You gather the ropes and attach them to a large iron ring.
The ring is then quickly placed on a hook dandling from a suitably placed crane.
Whistle the signal code.
The crane driver lifts the hook.

Hey presto you have captured a slave….. Well netted her really and now you approach cautiously incase she tries to chew her way to freedom.. What you do next is entirely up to you.

< Message edited by IronBear -- 3/14/2006 9:11:01 AM >

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 9:32:12 AM

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It seems that people assume a great deal just because someone identifies him/herself as submissive. While it is true that many people online are poorly educated and inarticulate, there are others, both dominant and submissive, with a great deal of both education and experience in the world.

The most offensive approaches are the ones that make demands without even learning whether there is the slightest interest in the dominant. Saying "Do you want to be my bitch" as an introduction indicates that the dominant really doesn't know what he or she is looking for, or they simply want someone to abuse.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 9:35:07 AM

caitlyn

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You should always use a net when approaching a slave.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 10:54:53 AM

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Hummm never though about having someone use a net and chocolate!..*fantasy mode approaching*..under the preference list on your profile ,maybe we should add a net to it!...:0)~~~...be well Tempting

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 11:56:10 AM

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The e-mails that capture my attention and recieve a reply that amounts to more than "thanks but no thanks" have several characteristics:

1) It's polite and remembers that I'm A sub, not YOUR sub - I don't think this needs explanation.

2) It uses good English - usage, spelling and grammar. If you can't take care of the English language, how can I trust you to take care of me?

3) It tells me why you liked my profile. This way, I know you haven't just e-mailed every submissive woman within 100 miles of you, I know you're interested in me.

4) It tells me why I should be interested in you. I have never gotten fewer than three e-mails in one day. Most days, it's more like ten or fifteen. If you don't stand out, you're likely to get a "Sorry, but I don't have time to respond to you personally but thank you for your interest" e-mail.

5) It is attached to a profile that is filled out. Collarme has a great list of things that you can rate. Rate them all, it only takes about half an hour, and you don't have to do it all at once. If I see we have common interests in the lifestyle and outside the lifestyle, I'm likely to answer you.

5) It takes into account the preferences that I have listed within my profile about geographical area and age range. If I've already stated that I won't be interested, I really don't feel the need to e-mail you and tell you again that I'm not intersted.

That's just my two cents about a good e-mail. Of the nearly 100 I've gotten, I think maybe two have met those characteristics. Not surprisingly, there are three people from this site who I speak to on private IM. Those two and one who I e-mailed using those guidelines.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 2:19:19 PM

justatoy2

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with courtesy and respect...remember would be slaves are people to...i think that gets forgotten somewhere....

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 2:52:07 PM

IronBear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justatoy2

with courtesy and respect...remember would be slaves are people to...i think that gets forgotten somewhere....

I don't disagree with you, but remember that this is a lifestyle. There are a nujmber of both subs and slaves I know who would probably want to FOFLTAO if a Master approached them with too much courtesy and respect. They seem to have the quaint idea which I find quite charming that a Master (once they kow him) should take command. But I'm guessing that yuou refer to the first meeting.. Frankly, face to face first time, I'd probably kiss the girls hand and still be firm and in command but not commanding her if you understand my meaning. Wouild I treat her like she was royalty? No i wouldn't even do thet if she were royalty and slave or sub oriented. Would I respect her? yes with as much respect as she has warranted untill I get to know her. All things in their place and unto all things/people their measure of respect.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 3:55:22 PM

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Well seeing as how I'm a person looking for a mostly vanilla partner (with weekend bdsm playtime), he better damn well treat me like royalty when he meets me! He won't even get vanilla sex from me until he proves he can treat me like a lady and worship the ground I walk on. Once I decide he's worth my time, THEN we can talk about sex...and if he's good at that, then after a while we can talk about him tying me up and beating me. However, that's definately a privelege he has to earn, lol....

< Message edited by HentaiGamerKitty -- 3/14/2006 3:56:41 PM >

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 5:27:07 PM

IronBear

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Point taken and it will probably work for you but for me, the only people I treat like royalty are royalty.. end of story as far as that goes...

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 5:35:36 PM

Belladonna82

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GREETINGS IRON BEAR SIR :)

Your thoughts are always well thought...:)

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 7:24:15 PM

subrob1967

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quote:

ORIGINAL: collegebeauty

The e-mails that capture my attention and recieve a reply that amounts to more than "thanks but no thanks" have several characteristics:

1) It's polite and remembers that I'm A sub, not YOUR sub - I don't think this needs explanation.

2) It uses good English - usage, spelling and grammar. If you can't take care of the English language, how can I trust you to take care of me?

3) It tells me why you liked my profile. This way, I know you haven't just e-mailed every submissive woman within 100 miles of you, I know you're interested in me.

4) It tells me why I should be interested in you. I have never gotten fewer than three e-mails in one day. Most days, it's more like ten or fifteen. If you don't stand out, you're likely to get a "Sorry, but I don't have time to respond to you personally but thank you for your interest" e-mail.

5) It is attached to a profile that is filled out. Collarme has a great list of things that you can rate. Rate them all, it only takes about half an hour, and you don't have to do it all at once. If I see we have common interests in the lifestyle and outside the lifestyle, I'm likely to answer you.

5) It takes into account the preferences that I have listed within my profile about geographical area and age range. If I've already stated that I won't be interested, I really don't feel the need to e-mail you and tell you again that I'm not intersted.

That's just my two cents about a good e-mail. Of the nearly 100 I've gotten, I think maybe two have met those characteristics. Not surprisingly, there are three people from this site who I speak to on private IM. Those two and one who I e-mailed using those guidelines.

This is all excellent advice, and I'd only add...
An explination on why you feel a sub/slave would be a match for you, what you think you two have in common.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 8:26:59 PM

Slaveless1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: barelynangel

Also, what i never reply to lol is the ones that lecture as a last sentence of "Please reply even with a no thank you, it is only polite." or something along those lines. It is a major turn off because it comes across as either lecturing or whining.

Really now, because one may use a form of this repsonse in their introduction, you consider it lecturing or whinning? How exactly do you see that from that one sentence? Most that have taken the time to at least have written a decent introduction would like some sort of response even though it might be, "no thank you." I see it as cordial and decent to let one know you have no interest in them.

You honestly sound like one of my kids when it wasn't something they wanted to do....I would hear, "Dad, stop lecturing me." (in a whinning tone)

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 8:36:21 PM

Slaveless1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HentaiGamerKitty

Well seeing as how I'm a person looking for a mostly vanilla partner (with weekend bdsm playtime), he better damn well treat me like royalty when he meets me! He won't even get vanilla sex from me until he proves he can treat me like a lady and worship the ground I walk on. Once I decide he's worth my time, THEN we can talk about sex...and if he's good at that, then after a while we can talk about him tying me up and beating me. However, that's definately a privelege he has to earn, lol....

I will never worship anyone at any time not even you. You are not on stable ground. Good lord get a grip..............

I do not care if you are the queen of england, you are nothing more than a human being with an attitude that needs adjustment. As human beings, we are all equal and to be treated with the same dignity.

la tee da!!!

< Message edited by Slaveless1 -- 3/14/2006 8:39:01 PM >

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 9:18:48 PM

harmony3709

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

How to approach a slave on the net?

Good question…..

First you causally saunter around the net surreptitiously checking all the lifting ropes are attached.

You toss hers bag of chocolates to keep her occupied.

You gather the ropes and attach them to a large iron ring.

The ring is then quickly placed on a hook dandling from a suitably placed crane.

Whistle the signal code.

The crane driver lifts the hook.

Hey presto you have captured a slave….. Well netted her really and now you approach cautiously incase she tries to chew her way to freedom.. What you do next is entirely up to you.

Thank you very much for giving me a much needed laugh at the end of a really rotten day!!

Cute......very cute.........lol.

Blessed be,
Harmony
Proud Slave of Pyro

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 10:28:28 PM

MarinaBlack

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"Hello" is a good start. LOL!
Seriously, I have heard from some sub friends that people often bypass the greeting and try to top them IN AN APPROACH.
Seriously.

The same way subs should not presume upon Dom/mes, we should not presume upon them.

Just because someone is a submissive, they are not your submissive until a relationship has been negotiated.
Until then, begin with "Hello", explain what moved you about their profile and invite them to have a look at yours. Politely ask them to respond if they find your profile interesting.

Manners go far - even for Tops.:)

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/15/2006 12:54:36 AM

slavejali

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I had a thought on this one.

You could introduce yourself by not actually introducing yourself. What I mean by that is, if online is the way you think you need to go to meet someone for whatever reason, you could simply *be seen* online. Share who you are, your thoughts and experiences through participation in forums and chatrooms and not actually ever approach anyone. Let your self advertising by *being seen* attract someone to you.

Note: When I say self advertising I dont mean to join a chat or forum and say "Im Joe Blow, Im looking for a slave and Im a great Master"..what I mean is...participating without the thought of looking, just sharing yuor opinions and thoughts and stuff. People do take notice, you never know who could be watching.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/15/2006 1:58:27 AM

RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: slavejali
You could introduce yourself by not actually introducing yourself. What I mean by that is, if online is the way you think you need to go to meet someone for whatever reason, you could simply *be seen* online. Share who you are, your thoughts and experiences through participation in forums and chatrooms and not actually ever approach anyone. Let your self advertising by *being seen* attract someone to you.

Not going to work very well for a lot of folks. For instance, whilst there are a goodly number of Brits on the site, most seem never to come near the forums.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/15/2006 2:00:21 AM

slavejali

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dang..foiled again~ and i thought it was such a good plan Sir! grin

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/15/2006 2:06:25 AM

mystiquenz

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Greetings,

I think that the others have encapsulated the response well, with good manners, a pleasant attitude, as opposed to direct, and assuming that there will be a certain chemistry between you and the submissive/slave.

I think that my bugbear mostly with online communication, is that even without meeting the person, the Dominant can convey through a poor choice of words, and an inconsiderate approach that because the submissive/slave is that "classification" that they should bow to their dominance. Therefore, in my opinion, you should not be that presumptuous because although we may be submissives and/or slaves, it does not necessarily mean that we will be your submissive and/or slave.

I prefer a well, thought out, and well composed email. Maybe a low key introduction works best for me. Pictures of mens "private parts" generally do not get responded to, as for me, i'm not interested in seeing an erection, when I don't know the person, and, equally, i'm sure that a respectable Dominant wouldn't be interested in seeing how widely the labia lips part without first, knowing that there is a relationship to which those essential organs will one day unite.

So, tread carefully amongst the garden of submissive/slaves, and treat each on you meet, as a delicate seedling, for if it is not for you, then it may very well be for another.

Take care and enjoy your journey, and as the widsoms unfold, may your journey be fruitful.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/15/2006 2:21:43 AM

slavejali

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You know, I still stand behind what I said basically for one reason, "Its what would attract me..and Im a slave, so I should know"... *grin*..but wait..hey other slaves and submissives have told you what would work for them too...so..hey your getting some good advice here

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