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Lockit -> RE: I seem like a passive Domme?!? (11/30/2009 7:34:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
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cloudboy... This is the whole post that Underumam made. Taking one sentence out of a whole comment can lead to using that one bit of the comment in a way that suggests the poster meant something far different than what their whole post meant. I find this does a disservice to us all and undermines credibility of those choosing to push an agenda of miscontent and in this case, that would be you.
Upon review, I stand by my original post which questioned Underumam's lead sentence of: Queen Penelope, YOU ARE THE DOMME. Why question yourself?
It was not my goal to go into his whole post and the "young and inexperienced" thing. Plus, if you connect the "young and inexperienced" line of thinking to the lead sentence, the implication is that only youth and inexperience cause Dommes to engage in growing pains, self doubts, and relationship issues. To me this is a bit ageist and stereotypical as well.
It seems that you are projecting a bit there. Underumam did not state anywhere that youth and inexperience were the ONLY (your word) reasons for self doubts, growing pains or anything else. He has read a number of the op's posts, just as we all have and find that youth and inexperince have something to do with the troubles she is having with submissive men, etc. It is a subject that has been well documented if you care to research it, but older women tend to be troubled less than younger women when it comes to self image, etc. So his saying this wasn't unreasonable.
To state that these are the only reasons a woman could struggle with these things would be out of line and he did not say that... you projected that word, only into it and therefore took his words to mean something more than they meant.
In your first post bringing this up you said...
quote: Underumam
Queen Penelope, YOU ARE THE DOMME. Why question yourself?
Cloudboy:
This kind of implies that feedback and self examination don't apply to dominants.
Lockit: Where did Underumam say anything of the like cloudboy? You said it implies that meaning. He also said in his post that she should ask questions of those more expereinced and that is a part of accountablity in learning what you can from other's with more experience. Underumam was encouraging a young woman in hopes that she wouldn't go to insecure places and would ground herself in a comfortable place and not let people waylay her with what they were doing according to her posts. Knowing Underumam and his posting style besides his light hearted stuff... speaks loudly of self accountablity. So your assuming, projecting and implications are mostly your take on what he said and isn't grounded in his words or the intent of Underumam.
You are putting words in someone's mouth from most likely your own experiences and the proof is in the words that were actually spoken and then you projecting a far different meaning to them. Not a good idea when everyone can see what was really said.
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