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Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 2:35:42 PM   
MikeyMikes


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Status: offline 		Hello there i have been on the site a while now
and i have not yet found a Mistress

I would like to no what is the right way in contacting the mistress you think you like
and you 2 would may a perfect pair

i hope you can help

Slave Mike

Ps does my profile look ok or does it need improving
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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 3:48:27 PM   
devilishpixie


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Status: offline 		Mike,
This is a pretty regular topic here on the forums. I read your profile and I personally found it a little hard to read (how you broke it up into parts). When approaching a Domme be sure to read their profile and when approaching them remember they are women not simply kink. Perhaps mention what caught your attention in their profile. Also remember they are not obligated to respond back to you. But above all be patient.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 6:37:07 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		If the profile has the type of errors in it as the question that you posed, that may be part of the reason.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 8:47:57 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I don't know how to say this, but your writing style is very juvenile.

"Is unowned did not work out with the person i was seeing so if you interested please please get in touch thank you"

Why did you write like that without using proper sentences?  Try "I'm unowned".  It says the exact same information without the extra words and the begging.

Another snippet:  "
Hello there im Michael but I prefer Mike

I'm 24 and living in South Yorkshire I’m currently Unemployed and looking for work but at the moment it is hard

I have had girlfriends in the past but I am currently Single"

Try:  "Pleased to meet you!  My name is Mike, and I'm single.

I'm 24 and live in South Yorkshire but am available for relocation."

This leaves off a lot of extraneous stuff, such as the whine about it being hard to find work, and the fact that you have had girlfriends before.

Be very careful about saying you'll relocate when it's implied that you don't have a job.  It makes the impression that you'll be living off your Mistress.




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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 8:59:31 PM   
EbonyWood


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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 9:04:45 PM   
slvemike4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MikeyMikes

Hello there i have been on the site a while now
and i have not yet found a Mistress

I would like to no what is the right way in contacting the mistress you think you like
and you 2 would may a perfect pair

i hope you can help

Slave Mike

Ps does my profile look ok or does it need improving

First off get a new name...I'm slave mike and we wouldn't want any confusion.(where could I get one of those hats?)
Other than that ,based solely on the picture,I have every confidence you know your way around a conversation with a female.....thats it,there is nothing more you need to know.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/28/2009 9:13:25 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		All I can add is, well maybe it's just my pet peeve, but spell out your words.  The word is to, too, or two...not 2. 

As Steven stated, write complete sentences at least make it look like you care.

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If I was search and looked at your profile I would think that you were in no way shape or form serious. 

On an up note, it was a good thing that you told about vanilla you and D/s you....some people want to know more about the person to see if they click and not the slave...or whatever your role is.

Just be patient and hang in there.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 11/30/2009 12:03:34 AM   
thaprincess


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

All I can add is, well maybe it's just my pet peeve, but spell out your words.  The word is to, too, or two...not 2. 


This is one of my pet peeves as well. To me a man with good grammar is very alluring. So proofread your profile, take out the "text speech", and try to condense some of the sentences into being shorter and more precise and I think you will be good to go.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/8/2010 2:35:37 PM   
sheffieldslave01


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Status: offline 		Thank you everybody for the help and advise I have now changed my name just working on the information will take eveything into consideration

Thank you again

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/8/2010 2:52:42 PM   
AlexandraLynch


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Status: offline 		You've got a lot of different interests checked. I'd be more inclined to write you if you viewed me (and met my conditions of location and roughly shared kinks)  if you wrote a little bit more about your likes and interests. What do you do with your time? I don't need your employer's name (of course) but most of the time you can say something like "I have been working in IT and greatly enjoy the challenges of that field. When I'm not working, I enjoy taking long bike rides and checking out the local antique shops." This lets a dominant strike up a conversation with you, such as, "What sort of bike do you ride?" You respond, and you have a NON-FETISH, NON-SEXUAL (this is important) conversation about shared interests. Can you talk about kink? Probably. Especially if you share a kink and can ask questions about how they go about it from the other side without sounding like you're asking for them to make you up a kinky story.  Think about it this way; at this point you're standing in the pub chatting. We've all accidentally wound up in conversation with someone who took an opening and ran off on their pet topic to the point our eyes glazed over and you were going, "Uh, actually, uh, I just remembered, I need to go home and feed my goldfish. I'll, ah, see you later..." haven't we? Yes. Don't do that. Desperation and obsession have a stink that turns women off.  Build the relationship starting mostly non-fetish and non sexual, and season with shared kink lightly, and you'll likely have success. 

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/8/2010 3:00:30 PM   
sheffieldslave01


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Status: offline 		Thank you Mistress very happy for all the help profile will be updated and hopefully will look and sound good

thank you again

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/8/2010 3:09:24 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		I feel your pain. Im much the same
It s you and me
Without so much as a Mistress
On this TV
it is such a pain
To be so lame
But to be without
Is part of the game
If you get my drift
All the same
Listen Dood , it s hard. I m without a Mistress too. And I go to a BDSM group. And still nobody wants me as their slave. I mean I just dont understand it. All these Mistresses on here saying they wont support their sub. What do they exactly mean? Do they really think that there are guys out there who will support them. They need to get with the program. The vast majority of guys out there are without a job and an income. And that should make them much more attractive. After all where is the joy  or the challenge of having a sub capable of providing for your every need. There is no joy in it. Thats so fake. But then some of the Mistresses here are only after one thing- Money. And thats where I draw the line.
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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/9/2010 6:08:57 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		This subject comes up a lot.  There are many ways to find a Mistress.  This site is one of them.  There are dominant, or potentially dominant women all around you.  You have to learn how to gauge their Mistress potential.  Go to all the fetish events and parties you can also.

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RE: Finding a Mistress - 1/9/2010 6:45:08 AM   
CarrieO


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sheffieldslave01

Thank you everybody for the help and advise I have now changed my name just working on the information will take eveything into consideration

Thank you again


Well, the name change was for the good.  The only things I would suggest in regards to your profile is to drop all the "beginner" and "expert" labels (how does one become an expert in newspapers and sitcoms?).  You might be better off just listing the things that interest you...kink and mainstream...and some of your limits.  Right now it seems a bit cluttered.
Try to write more about who you are, what interests you (not just kink) and what you could offer in a relationship, if that's what you're looking for. Be original and give a person a reason to be attracted to you.
The photo is cute but I wonder if the guy in the background knows he's on CM too (he doesn't look to happy about it).

Best of luck in your search...

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