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ordinary -> How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 3:26:14 PM)
I was a member here last year while still living in Texas, but I've recently moved to SC and haven't been able to attend any munches. I work a full time job in the evenings M-F, unfortunately, and all the munches have been during the week. I had no problem meeting interesting people in TX, but then I wasn't working either. I keep getting a colorful array of typical emails from men that I'd rather never hear from, and I'm curious how you managed to find someone interesting on this website, how you went about contacting them or keeping conversations alive, and eventually meeting.

Acer49 -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 3:38:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ordinary I was a member here last year while still living in Texas, but I've recently moved to SC and haven't been able to attend any munches. I work a full time job in the evenings M-F, unfortunately, and all the munches have been during the week. I had no problem meeting interesting people in TX, but then I wasn't working either. I keep getting a colorful array of typical emails from men that I'd rather never hear from, and I'm curious how you managed to find someone interesting on this website, how you went about contacting them or keeping conversations alive, and eventually meeting. http://www.carolinabdsm.com/calendar.php

devilishpixie -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 4:04:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ordinary I was a member here last year while still living in Texas, but I've recently moved to SC and haven't been able to attend any munches. I work a full time job in the evenings M-F, unfortunately, and all the munches have been during the week. I had no problem meeting interesting people in TX, but then I wasn't working either. I keep getting a colorful array of typical emails from men that I'd rather never hear from, and I'm curious how you managed to find someone interesting on this website, how you went about contacting them or keeping conversations alive, and eventually meeting. Be patient and don't be afriad to approach people. After talking (exchanging a few emails) don't be afraid to ask them to meet you for coffee or lunch. It's not that different than meeting people outside the lifestyle.

DarkSteven -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 4:17:51 PM)
First step, you relocate to Colorado... [8D]

lovingpet -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 4:23:53 PM)
If DS had his way, Colorado would have a 99.9999% fem sub population.[&:] Let's see: 1. Patience. 2. Be interesting. 3. Patience. 4. Be willing to cast the net first. 5. Patience. 6. Did I mention patience? lovingpet

GreedyTop -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 5:04:11 PM)
what pet said.

QuirkyAnne -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 6:06:58 PM)
If only that were the answer to ALL of lifes problems! Anne

CaringandReal -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 8:58:57 PM)
A few suggestions for this website: set your general search parameters to all states, not just your own don't limit your search with things like height, weight, age do a text search for some activity or idea that really interests you, doesn't have to be bdsm. click the recent journals button on the left and try to find some that interest you * browse photos (also on the left) In general, mix it up. Don't do the same old searches every day. Keep looking for profiles that are well written & sexy & that astound you will how good they are. Write those guys. Try not to get jaded by all the bad emails. If you get too jaded or burned, you'll stop reading certain types of emails because you think they represent a pattern. That's not always the case and you may miss out on someone good if you do that. And yeah, the people who tend to write you are mostly not that interesting, although you can occasionally be pleasantly surprised. So you write the ones that intrigue you. Don't worry about conversation control: if you two hit it off, it'll take care of itself.

theRose4U -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 9:30:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven First step, you relocate to Colorado... [8D] There are enough wierd kinksters with odd schedules here [:D] quote: If DS had his way, Colorado would have a 99.9999% fem sub population.[&:] If Colorado men PERIOD had their way the population would be 99% fem subs all smoking hot (to fit the males preferences), 22-26, trust fund, can't get pregnant without permission, no teeth, mute and a strong desire towards domestic discipline. Think June Cleaver on crack with leather [:@]

ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 11:44:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theRose4U If Colorado men PERIOD had their way the population would be 99% fem subs all smoking hot (to fit the males preferences), 22-26, trust fund, can't get pregnant without permission, no teeth, mute and a strong desire towards domestic discipline. Think June Cleaver on crack with leather [:@] Not to mention only 3 feet tall with a flat spot on the tops of their heads. To set a beer on, of course.

ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/28/2009 11:46:06 PM)
To answer the OP, there are two basic steps. 1.) Be an interesting person yourself. 2.) Meet lots of people. That's about it.

Tinkerer -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 2:17:36 AM)
I'm from SC, as is my mate, and we can be interesting. I sent you a PM.

DarkSteven -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 3:04:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theRose4U quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven First step, you relocate to Colorado... [8D] There are enough wierd kinksters with odd schedules here [:D] ARE NOT!!!! quote: quote: If DS had his way, Colorado would have a 99.9999% fem sub population.[&:] If Colorado men PERIOD had their way the population would be 99% fem subs all smoking hot (to fit the males preferences), 22-26, trust fund, can't get pregnant without permission, no teeth, mute and a strong desire towards domestic discipline. Think June Cleaver on crack with leather [:@] Rose, I'm perfectly willing to hedge a bit on the age. And you yourself seem pretty desirable - have you considered becomeing a submissive lately? [8D]

ordinary -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 6:24:17 AM)
I laughed at the description of Colorado women. It was kind of scary! Thanks for the advice.

Underumam -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 7:06:11 AM)
As with any other thing in life, meetings happen as a result of carefully planned searches, as well as the occasional "met her in the laundromat". lol. In meeting people here(and I've met some VERY good people), I tend to peruse the profiles, and look for another who has words that speak to me, then send them a quick note. Humor is one of the best things to use in composing an intro-letter, as well as a genuine desire to know more about the one I might be contacting. I guess people are people, and it's not good to think of bdsm people as something different. W/we just have other needs and other ways of expressing O/ourselves...lol.

theRose4U -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 7:33:02 AM)
quote: Rose, I'm perfectly willing to hedge a bit on the age. And you yourself seem pretty desirable - have you considered becomeing a submissive lately? [8D] Not in this life... even for you hot stuff [8D]

theRose4U -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 7:35:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda quote: ORIGINAL: theRose4U If Colorado men PERIOD had their way the population would be 99% fem subs all smoking hot (to fit the males preferences), 22-26, trust fund, can't get pregnant without permission, no teeth, mute and a strong desire towards domestic discipline. Think June Cleaver on crack with leather [:@] Not to mention only 3 feet tall with a flat spot on the tops of their heads. To set a beer on, of course. That would only work for a basic model,.you'd have to provide add on legs, giant hooters and teeth so they can be taken out in public...all at additional charge plus shipping and handling

Elisabella -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 12:01:44 PM)
I met my fiance on here a couple of years ago, I liked what he wrote on the forums and I messaged him to tell him so. I was living in Chicago at the time, he was living in Sydney, so I never thought anything would come of it. We started talking intensely, I did All The Wrong Things (said I love you before meeting, bought a one way ticket, went to meet after a month and a half of talking, etc) and wtf that was 2 years ago and we're getting married in January. And yeah to meet someone interesting you have to be someone interesting, more importantly you have to be compatible. And posting on the forums helps, it lets you show if someone's interesting or if they're just looking for a generic girlfriend or sex partner.

sunshinemiss -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 7:35:27 PM)
quote: I'm curious how you managed to find someone interesting on this website, Everyone I know looked up "sunshinemiss" and voila found someone interesting! Seriously, you learn patience, and live an interesting life. Interesting people tend to do that and gather together.

Underumam -> RE: How do you find someone interesting? (11/29/2009 7:49:14 PM)
I also met a very good Domme on this site after perving her pics. lol.

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