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Dilema - 11/29/2009 4:42:41 AM   
trebor50


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Status: offline 		Wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this issue.  I currently have my 28 year old daughter statying with me(which is curtailing my interests a little).  I enjoy wearing female underwear at all times, is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.
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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 4:48:50 AM   
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Since I'm assuming you wouldn't let your daughter, adult or otherwise, see you wandering around in your undies, I don't see why not.    Just make sure you keep your trouser snake addendums covered, which can be an issue with girly panties.


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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 4:49:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		....well if you want to get rid of her, by all means do it, she will most likely move out very quickly.
I don't believe it's right to impose ones fantasy upon another person. It would be different if you were transgender.

...I understood the way that you'd be wandering around..wearing nothing but the undies..don't care if you have it covered then she wouldn't know.


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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 5:18:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		If it makes you uncomfortable (not in the good, squirmy way) to be wearing panties while she's around, don't do it. If she's not going to see it, and you can interact with her normally while wearing women's underwear, whether it's "right" or not is completely up to you and your own moral compass.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 5:31:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: trebor50

Wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this issue.  I currently have my 28 year old daughter statying with me(which is curtailing my interests a little).  I enjoy wearing female underwear at all times, is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.


Are you planning on involving your daughter in your underwear wearing? Steal her underwear? No?

Then I don't see what the big deal is. She won't magically know and as long as you aren't getting off on the fact that you are wearing the underwear around her, it isn't any different than enjoying going commando.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 5:36:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see a problem as long as you are not running around in your underwear when she's around and I think that would be a problem regardless of what style of underwear you had on.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 5:38:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: trebor50

Wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this issue.  I currently have my 28 year old daughter statying with me(which is curtailing my interests a little).  I enjoy wearing female underwear at all times, is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.


Oh dude, the very fact that you have to ask this question just squicks me out.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 5:46:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Do you restrict your thoughts in the presence of your offspring? How ashamed are you of your private choices?

If you feel ashamed of your choice, then either enjoy your shame, or make a different choice.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 6:14:15 AM   
trebor50


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all your comments, the underwear would be concealed when she was around, jut wanted to know what others thought.

Thanks again

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 6:16:50 AM   
Underumam


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Status: offline 		There are some questions that I have a difficult time understanding, when being asked by adults..........

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 6:26:55 AM   
WyckedIndulgence


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Status: offline 		Some adults find it difficult to make simple decisions without input from others. Annoying to some but oftentimes to the asker, it feeds his/her fantasy to know what others think about their particular "dilema".

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 6:33:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am a weekendfather to a 14 year old. I don't run around naked when she is here. But i do sleep naked so if i do get up in the night for a leak i don't really think about it and would often go to the bathroom as is. It has happened she has been awake at the same time and we bump in to each other. None of us think much about it. If we decide we need the insomniacs nightcap i would put on a house coat. The whole thing is that it is no big deal at all. The same as when i was a kid i often saw my folks changing clothes. Everybody treated it as normal. No sexual inference was ever put in to it, neither would anybody show any form of embarasment. Nudity and sexuality don't necessary have any connection, unless you make that connection in your own head. I have been to nudist camps quite a few times in my life. At first it feels quite strange being naked among a lot of strangers. But give it a day or so and it is just the most natural thing in the world. Nudist camps is not sexy in any way and promiscuity is probably lower than anywhere else. The ones i have been to it was quite normal for families to bring their kids. To the OP. It is not the wearing of the lingerie which is the issue, but rather that you have this fetish which is. The only thing i can say that you have to look back on how much tolerance you taught her in her formative years. If you decide you can then break it to her with a litlle tact. A good heart to heart talk is better than suddenly being confronted by the all male fatherfigure in female lingerie. Try and think what you would say if she suddenly turned up on your doorstep with her lesbian girlfriend.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 7:37:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


quote:

ORIGINAL: trebor50

Wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this issue.  I currently have my 28 year old daughter statying with me(which is curtailing my interests a little).  I enjoy wearing female underwear at all times, is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.


Oh dude, the very fact that you have to ask this question just squicks me out.


Very much so.


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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 9:33:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: trebor50

Thanks for all your comments, the underwear would be concealed when she was around, jut wanted to know what others thought.

Thanks again

It seems as if it shouldn't be a problem if you are wearing clothing over your underwear in front of your grown daughter like any normal person would....unless you actually plan on getting "caught" with your pants down so to speak (which is my first impression of why you're even asking this question). If that's the case then I would think you were a sick fuck for involving your daughter in a nonconsensual arrangement. Not to mention borderline incestuous. My opinion, of course.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 9:58:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to say that both my parents were gay. But I never saw my dad in anything other than "normal" clothes until I was an adult, when I ran into him just before he went on stage at a drag show. And it was an incredibly weird experience.

There were a couple of years I moved in with my dad and we shared a house some years later. I didn't go in his bedroom or bathroom, and he stayed out of mine. I never saw any of his toys or clothes or sex partners, and he likewise saw none of mine. And that's the way adult parent and child relationships probably should be.

But OP, you could have figured this out on your own. Consider how YOU would have felt at the same age had you come across your mom packing a dildo. Or your dad in bondage gear. I believe that 99.99999% of all children (adult or teens) would make a face at the very idea and say EEEEEEEWWWWWW and be totally squicked -- most of us don't even want to imagine that our parents ever HAD sex. I prefer to believe in the immaculate turkey baster, myself.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 10:53:17 AM   
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quote:

is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.


She's 28, so what's the problem? I don't think this is a "right" or "wrong" issue.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 11:36:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Slave nearly always wears women's panties.  As long as it's under clothes, what's the problem?  

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 11:38:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: trebor50

Wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this issue.  I currently have my 28 year old daughter statying with me(which is curtailing my interests a little).  I enjoy wearing female underwear at all times, is it right to be wearing it when my daughter is around.

Assuming she will never see you in them, I do not see why not

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 11:40:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		It shouldn't be an issue if you don't show it.  Make sure to keep your laundry separate though, and insist on you doing your own.  Good luck.

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RE: Dilema - 11/29/2009 1:04:21 PM   
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Think wayyyyyy back and these words might ring a bell;

"Always wear clean underwear because you never know when you'll be in an accident."

From what you wear under your 501 blues, to that secret stash box hidden way back in the closet.

Someday, should you meet your demise suddenly, all those little nuances about you will be front page news.

Unless you're satisfied being referred to in future family conversations as, "That Uncle we call Auntie",
you might want to do some self-examination on just how comfortable you yourself are about those panties.

chia* (the pet)


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