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Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 11:21:40 AM

NymphetamineGirl

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Good day to those kind enough or crazy enough to read posts here :)

I have derived a great deal of support from these forums over the past three months. I only recently lifted the veil into myself to accept, perhaps even celebrate, being submissive. In my case I had to burn the bridal veil to find out, but my Master and I make each other very happy, most of the time. It's the other times I'm here for help with.

We met online and talk constantly; we will meet face to face on New Year's Eve. I am not yet collared but devoted; I want to learn ways to be a better sub and to connect with others who have been where I am. I have many concerns and would love all the support I can get; I would like to offer support to others as well, such as I can.

Also, my profile is set to seek only friends, but I am getting several emails from Doms, is there a way to prevent it? I don't think this is appropriate, especially being so new.

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 11:52:39 AM

kanina

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ignore or answer: no thanks

Ask you Master how you can be a better sub, only he can tell you...

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 12:37:38 PM

starshineowned

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Greetings..

There are mail controls which allow you to send emails from unwanted directly to your bulk folders where you can at leisure delete them. If they are targeted to enter your bulk folder you won't get that pretty little red "new message sign".

starshine

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 12:39:16 PM

lizi

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Hello and I hope your journey is all you want it to be

About the unwanted email, you might try taking down your picture - you are attractive and unfortunately that will only encourage others from contacting you. Also, you have the statement in your profile about there being only one man you want to be your master- you may consider adding to that or replacing it with something more straight forward and just say you are not looking for anyone period.

The unwanted email thing happens to most female subs/slaves on here so it's not uncommon especially if you are new. Don't let it bother you - use the block and delete buttons for more peace of mind.

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 12:40:25 PM

mnottertail

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Or, just get over yourself, and your mail, most of it is postal patron in the real world, and most of it is here.

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 12:45:33 PM

VampiresLair

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Just because you get email doesnt mean you are obligated to read and/or respond to it. If you feel email from other dominants is inappropriate, then simply delete it unread. Male Dominant email is in dark blue, so it is simple to see who is who. If you do choose to read it, then you still arent required to respond, and definately not required to respond favorably and accept what they offer.
A simple statement of "I am owned, if you are interested in speaking with me, contact my Dominant. No further emails from you will be acknowledged until He gives me permission to do so." Most have no interest in going to your dominant, ad then any time anything else from their name comes up, you can just delete it and move on, since they had been warned already that you would. Make sure to put that caveat (you wont talk to anyone your Master doesnt say you can) in your profile. It has done wonders for Fox in cutting down the stupidity.

As for being a better sub for him, you cant even begin to figure that out until you have met and know what he wants from you in the first place. Dont fix what aint broke yet. Talk to him, and see what he expects. Then, go about learning to be the best at what he wants of you.

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 3:28:32 PM

windchymes

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Or, just get over yourself, and your mail, most of it is postal patron in the real world, and most of it is here.

Ron

You mailed her, didn't ya?

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/29/2009 5:56:49 PM

NymphetamineGirl

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Thanks for the tip about the dark blue messages. I have updated my profile to be quite direct and to reflect how proud I am to be his. Mostly very helpful posts, thank you all.

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RE: Owned and needs help - 11/30/2009 4:39:52 AM

choccywoc

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