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Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:04:30 PM   
brenda47


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Status: offline 		Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:08:23 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		If you have waited until you are 50 or 60 to figure that out i'd say you are screwed!.....most people plan ahead, make provisions, have jobs with retirement plans, or buy life insurance, or save, or.........What does wearing, or not wearing a collar have to do with it?

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:10:12 PM   
subtlebutterfly


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If you get dumped then you continue to live your life. Everybody should have some funds and/or pensions.

and in worst case scenario...you try to get a job.


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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:17:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		A collared slave is no less a person with human needs like any other. Especially in the case where an Owner has taken the slave as a life partner, spouse or not, the Owner should make sure that the slave is provided for, and in instances where this is not the case, the slave owes it to their own self to be proactive enough to make sure of their own safety net, just as any other grownup can and should do, and as is every human being's irrevocable birthright by virtue of their very existence.
Being owned does not negate any of this. you are a person, and never let another living soul tell you any different.
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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:22:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: brenda47

Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
thanks  very serious about this
brenda



The same thing that happens to any 50 or 60 year old person who marriage breaks up. What do they do to prepare for that possiblity?

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:33:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: brenda47

Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
thanks  very serious about this
brenda



Why do you assume that one will be released because of age? lifestyle aside, your financial situation is your responsibility. If your Dominant has desired for you to be kept, a homemaker it you will, then he's needs to have made provisions for this

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 3:41:14 PM   
NYLass


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Status: offline 		Hopefully you haven't signed a prenup....

Like the others have said- look for employment.  Go back to school, become computer proficient (Excel, MS Office, etc) and check out agencies, craigslist, carreerbuilder, etc.  If need be, ask relatives if they know of anyone hiring.  Hell, nepotism got me hired after a 20 year marriage failed.


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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 4:07:08 PM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		Well hopefully, you would not hook up with someone who is going to send you away. But shit happens so I am not counting on anyone to take care of my retirement, that's why I have a 401K. I don't see that being a sub has anything to do with it. If your single and vanilla at that point, your still going to have to be responsible for getting things taken care of.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 4:39:43 PM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: brenda47
Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
thanks  very serious about this
brenda
*chuckles* Carol got around that by marrying me. More seriously, why on earth would you make such a commitment to ANY man for whom you did not have a great deal of trust and respect? And if you have the requisite trust and respect, then the whole thing isn't a problem.


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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 5:19:34 PM   
Underumam


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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 5:28:05 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

*chuckles* Carol got around that by marrying me. More seriously, why on earth would you make such a commitment to ANY man for whom you did not have a great deal of trust and respect? And if you have the requisite trust and respect, then the whole thing isn't a problem.



Actually it is. Several of my gay friends who were partnered with older men were shocked to discover their partners had not updated their wills. Possessions including the home went to relatives and these men lost all but their own clothing. That includes gifts, artwork purchased together etc as there was no proof of ownership. Lots of trust and respect but no planning for the future.

However being a slave doesn't mean you automatically do housework in the nude all day. Most couples in this country are dual income. Many dominants don't want their partners money beyond shared expenses. Everyone should have savings and safety nets in case of emergencies.

Before that, how about health care. If you aren't married, you can't be on his, if his job even offers it anymore. These are all things to talk about and plan for. And someone who won't think about it and doesn't care about what happens to you is not someone you should be partnered with.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 5:30:04 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		This is one of my bugbears. ANYONE who isn't retirement age should be contributing something to a retirement account. It doesn't matter if it is just $5 a month - something is better than nothing.

And if you, as a slave give up your job, and rely on your master for sustenance, then you should also negotiate funds deposited into a retirement account. If he loves you and wants your service, then he needs to make provisions for you. At the very least, he needs to have a will that names you ( obviously this is for a long term relationship). heck if you are in a long term relationship, and he releases you after 20 years, you should be able to rely on the fact that you aren't coming away from the relationship empty handed.

and if this sounds mercenary, then yes, it is. No-one can take better care of you than you! As a 52 year old woman it is important - especially since women for the most part live longer than men.

Its one of the things i tell new nurses - start as soon as you get a job saving for retirement. No-one told me this, and i didn't do it, until i was slapped in the face at the age of 40, divorced with nothing saved for retirement. Very scary - all the good bridges are already taken, so i shall have to live under an inferior one. *sigh* Maybe i shall win the lottery.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/29/2009 6:26:14 PM   
brenda47


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Status: offline 		OK thank you all, i got the answers that i hoped i would get. Nice to see ! thank you

brenda

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 1:38:43 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		Well, I am owned and collared. I am 46, almost 47 years old. I'm saving for retirement just as if I weren't owned. Automatic deposits from my paycheck to my 401K every pay period.


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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 2:01:53 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Most of us really do think of these things when it comes down to long term relationships. It starts with taking a good long time getting to know each other and having a great deal of love, trust, and respect for each other. After that, it gets into such things as how we will live and run our household. Then we get into future planning such as wills, life insurance, retirement/savings funds, and anything else that is needed to ensure we are taking the best care of each other. My partner and I are putting these things in place right now. We have to plan contingently based upon my current marriage too, so it gets even more complicated. We have back up plans in case the marriage would fail, as some things we are not setting up at this time are things my husband has taken care of. My husband and I went through similiar processes prior to getting married. We went through them again when we have had major life changes such as the birth of children, changes in health status, changes in life plans, and more. My partner and I will do the same. We as a unit will also have to discuss such things on a regular basis.

I don't think this is really a lifestyle thing. It is just a basic of real life in the real world that plenty of vanilla couples overlook as well. I think it is also something a lot of people don't consider when they enter into a season of life that places them dependent on others. Homemakers, those caring for elderly parents, those who become ill or disabled, and many more need more provision than others. They are also much more likely to trust that they are appreciated enough to be looked after when they have a need. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. I have multiple of those strikes against me already and a few on the horizon, so I know I have to be with someone who is actively seeing to my future along with me. My husband and my partner both know this. That is why we have all been careful to keep the future in mind.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 2:36:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have set up a fund that my girl will be given upon my death or release. She has been owned for 18, almost 19 months and currently has close to $1900 in it. It is interest bearing, and soon will be put into things that bring a little more interest. During the time she is owned, she is also receiving training in several things that should allow her to retain employment in several different areas.



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ORIGINAL: brenda47

Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
thanks  very serious about this
brenda



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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 3:15:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: brenda47
Ok, so you decide to be collared and owned.  So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!  How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?  Am i missing sometihng here
thanks  very serious about this
brenda
*chuckles* Carol got around that by marrying me. More seriously, why on earth would you make such a commitment to ANY man for whom you did not have a great deal of trust and respect? And if you have the requisite trust and respect, then the whole thing isn't a problem.



Disagree completely.

I don't think the reason 50% of marriages break up is because when they originally got married they didn't trust and respect each other.

And that's just marriages. The percentage of long term relationships that don't last is much higher.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 4:02:07 PM   
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...So what happens when you are in your 50s or 60s and you are relaaesed oor sent away!...


it's not in the plans, so this slave would have to cross that bridge if and when she comes to it.

quote:

...How do you plan for your retirement or life afterwrds, or do you?...


this slave doesn't and hasn't, however, Master does and has.  for example, 3 years into our Master/slave relationship, He chose to make this slave His wife for all the protections and benefits allowed a "spouse", "next of kin" and/or "surviving spouse".  He has included this slave in His retirement plans...but this slave has no plan to retire from being His slave.

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RE: Real World Questions? for a slave - 11/30/2009 9:03:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I owe it to myself to work, and keep my skills up so that I can compete in the modern world, with people who are half my age. Breaking up might hurt me emotionally, but it would be my own stupidity that would make me incapable of surviving.


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