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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 7:09:33 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Tell him that you hate eating chocolate.  Worth a try.


DarkSteven,
Obviously, our way of thinking is far too similar.  Your response is exactly what i thought of when i read the original question. 

Here are some of the things that i would say that i hate if asked by a Domme:
-Ice cream
-Monetary gifts
-Blowjobs
-Snickers bars
-Massages

"Please Mistress, don't subject me to any of those items on my list.  i couldn't bear the punishment". 

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 7:40:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.

Did he ask this of you to devise future punishments, or is he just wanting to know more about you?
Certainly, open communication is the key, and answering a direct question is something that you need to do whether you like it or not as you say.  Surely he is wanting to know the things that you dont like even if you may do them.  Examples.....being ignored, being denied any play, shoveling snow, cabbage, watching basketball, not allowed to watch a favorite show for a month, not being taken out, watching him play with someone else while you watch.....
I am sure there are many things you could come up with if you really put some thought in it and had the mindset to do it "whether you like it or not".

DarkSteven....I think if Eve existed today, chocolate would have sent her to damnation rather than an apple!   

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 8:30:35 AM   
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Who is your master? Mike Brady? "Marcia you have been naughty, what do you think would be a good punishment for you?"



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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 8:40:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: nubianmuscle

I am wondering why everyone is automatically assuming he is looking for a list of punishments. 




Because of the title of the thread maybe?

To the op:

Look, we can't tell you what you hate.  You know that.  I can tell you what I hate, but that doesn't do any good - some people actually LIKE the cold, coconut, tickling, going through paperwork, bondage.  But I sure don't.

You're allowed to have preferences.  What is the one thing you would procrastinate with if you could?  That is probably something you don't like.

Instead of looking at something you hate, since you are having an issue with the semantics of that, why not make a list of druther nots?

If given the choice, I'd rather not (I 'druther not)

I"m betting you can do this.  It ain't rocket science.  Really.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 10:41:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.

It appears your Master is looking for tasks that will correct a behavior or ellimiate that he deems as unacceptible rather than relying on some of the more common. It is my belief at a discipline or punishment must reflect the nature of the infraction. The submissive needs to know what they have done wrong, realize why it was wrong and what to do in the future. Making a hate to do list as a sort of a blanket may not neccessarily achieve that. One must ask themself " What discipline will achieve the desired results. For some, just the knowledge that they have displeased and being forced to own up to this may be enough, while others may seek phyical punishments. Being denied the opportunity to seve may work, but then that does punish the dominant to some degree. Loss of privilage may also work for some. To truly know what will work for you, you must truly know yourself.


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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 12:20:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tell him you hate shopping for shoes. And you especially hate Jimmy Choo's.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 1:09:36 PM   
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Tell him you hate shopping for shoes. And you especially hate Jimmy Choo's.


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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 1:10:27 PM   
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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 2:11:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nubianmuscle

I am wondering why everyone is automatically assuming he is looking for a list of punishments.  He may just be trying to get a sense of what she does or does not like and, in general, get inside her head in order to understand her better.  I asked pixie that when we first got together and it had nothing to do with punishment, I was checking compatibility as well as learning about certain incidents in her past and how certain requests and/or behaviors would trigger certain reactions.   

lilpet, did he specifically state he was looking for a list of punishments?  And if there is not anything that you hate to do, let him know.





A) Title of the thread

B) "How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior?"

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 2:12:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I didn't understand the question to be does she deserve to be punished, but rather when it is deserved, how to punish. That is also highly individual. What is "punishment" to one person may be bliss to another. One sub may intensely dislike the cane while another truly gets off on it. So, only the sub/slave can really define what they personally don't like but that does not violate their hard limits.

Either Lilpet4Master has an extremely wide tolerance for virtually anything her Master does, they have a very limited area of play, she is trying to avoid identifying those things that would be punishment, or she isn't giving it a lot of thought. Certainly there must be some things, emotional, physical, or psychological she isn't too happy about having done by her Master, and that is all that is necessary for her to identify.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 4:29:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I still can help but thinking he is being a bit lazy about this.  If he doesn't know her well enough to know what would be effective, then perhaps he shouldn't be punishing her at all. 

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 7:46:12 PM   
Lilpet4Master


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Status: offline 		Thank you Dark Steven for the reply. Seems someone out there has a funny side....
:)

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 8:09:49 PM   
Underumam


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Status: offline 		I'd ike to offer some suggestions, but I really have no idea about this. I don't do anything to be punished for..*smirk*

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 12/1/2009 11:50:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.

Hi, to answer your question about what to list, you would probably do best to go with the stuff you like LEAST, at first. You say there isn't anything you don't like doing, to be obedient though, you need to come up with something that is honest, and from YOU.


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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 12/1/2009 5:53:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nubianmuscle

I am wondering why everyone is automatically assuming he is looking for a list of punishments.  He may just be trying to get a sense of what she does or does not like and, in general, get inside her head in order to understand her better.  I asked pixie that when we first got together and it had nothing to do with punishment, I was checking compatibility as well as learning about certain incidents in her past and how certain requests and/or behaviors would trigger certain reactions.   

lilpet, did he specifically state he was looking for a list of punishments?  And if there is not anything that you hate to do, let him know.





I agree with nubianmuscle, he could just be trying to figure out the OPs likes and dislikes. I'm making my sub write an essay on what it is he likes to do, not so I can figure out what to make him do as punishment, but because I'm curious as to what his likes and dislikes are. To me it's more like a "getting to know you" type of exercise.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 12/1/2009 11:00:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Again, I think most people are respond that way 'cause the OP specifically said "list of punishments" so I'm guessing that is what her owner said to her.

Edited to add: That was Aqua... Ugh, I need to switch back to the other one.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 12/2/2009 2:14:49 AM   
ranja


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Once i had manipulated a situation with Him very badly and He hit me with a wooden spoon on my bare bottom until i understood exactly what His problem with me was... it was extremely humiliating... not the pain... the conversation about the misdemeanor while in such a position... in the end i understood Him perfectly and it will not happen again.

Also i do regulary accidentally annoy Him, and for these situations we have solutions in place.

if He wants me to shut up He will say: "Be quiet"  it thrills me and i will obey
if i get upset with Him and lose my sense of humor He might slap, pinch or tickle me... it thrills me and i respond positive.
If He needs time to 'deal' with things and i need His attention He will say "sit there and be still" and i will remain exactly as ordered untill He pleases to address me.
If He thinks i am disrespectful He might force my head back by my hair, exposing my throat to Him and make me say that He is the boss.

If i need Him to be nicer or more patient or if i think He is mistaken about something (tricky business) i might politely and respectfully raise any issue... He is a very reasonable man.

These things work very well for us in any setting.

Eta obviously he would not hit my bare bottom with a spoon in public... hmmm

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