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I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 12:02:42 PM

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How many other sub's find it frustrating when U can't get to be with Ur Dom's?

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 12:21:26 PM

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Well, that's a big yeah here. The first year of our relationship consisted of three visit. There was a gap between visit one and two of 10 count em, 10 months. We both missed each other, but between my illnesses and his and just simply the money issue, we had a very long wait. It was made even harder by people who wanted to mess things up for us telling me (especially) that what we had was not a relationship and that I was being used when we did manage to get together. It was pure bull. We had made the connection in person and knew full well what was going on at the computer screen wasn't some kind of delusion. We grew very close during those months and I don't think we would have gotten so deep had we not had to maintain things by talking all the time just to even remain connected at all. I value those months, though never want to have to repeat that long terrible pause right at the bubbly fresh start of a brand new relationship.

We have had to get creative about seeing each other since then to make doubly sure that never happens again. I have appointments down his way, so I drive the extra hour over and share his lunch break with him. That is usually once or twice a month. Longer visits have been hard to come by, but we sure do make the most of every moment (and no, I don't just mean in the bedroom LOL). This last time, we went Christmas shopping together since neither of us could have sacrificed the time otherwise. We had an absolute ball, especially acting the couple of fools in love when we hit the toy store! We had the absolute BEST foam sword fight EVER!!!! LOL

It is our memories of times past that keep us going when we have to be apart. We have our private jokes we snicker about. We recount some of the most phenomenal moments we have experienced together. We talk about what might happen next time. Memories keep us warm. Plans of the future get us out from under those covers and out to live life. Soon this time of being apart will be over. Obviously I can't wait for that. I hope, though, that we will not forget the lessons of this time. I hope we continue to cherish and remember fondly those times we have had together. I hope we never come to take being together for granted only to find ourselves at the end and filled with regret. I have a beautiful treasure chest in my head of all the times (good and bad) that we have spent together. I turn them over in my mind and discover little glimmers along the way, another truth, or even a lesson that come to mean so much to me.

I know there are those out there on both sides that are far apart from their partners and miss them terribly. My trials probably seem small in comparision and, in fact, they are. I hope I can encourage each of you whenever I am able to just keep going. It is hard to endure sometimes and I know the deep sadness that comes from separation. For those who's partners are deployed, my heart goes out to you doubly. It has to be many nights of selfish just wanting them back, worry, and frustration. Their sacrifice as well as yours are priceless and appreciated beyond measure by so many. My blessings to those of us who will not be with the ones we love this holiday season. My reminder that those who are united in spirit are never truly apart.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 12:58:54 PM

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Well, crap, I'm a Dom and I don't even know who my sub IS yet. Don't expect a whole lotta sympathy from me!

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:01:40 PM

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Well, crap, I'm a Dom and I don't even know who my sub IS yet. Don't expect a whole lotta sympathy from me!

Awwwww!!!! Poor Stevie!!!! I almost feel sorry enough to give you a cookie... almost! LOL

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:03:03 PM

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quote:

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Well, crap, I'm a Dom and I don't even know who my sub IS yet. Don't expect a whole lotta sympathy from me!

Awwwww!!!! Poor Stevie!!!! I almost feel sorry enough to give you a cookie... almost! LOL

*stands shotgun over cookies*

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:05:48 PM

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My sub expresses the time apart as feeling "adrift". I'm the one who usually initiates it. LOL

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:08:14 PM

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Nice shotgun, holly. I don't ever think I've seen one of those make. Can I have a look at it?

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:33:26 PM

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I've known MasterK for 4 1/2 years now, and I still hate it when we have to cancel plans.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 1:35:40 PM

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Nice shotgun, holly. I don't ever think I've seen one of those make. Can I have a look at it?

well sure...

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 2:03:30 PM

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I now have the ability to be with him for days at a time. And it still is never enough.
I won't be satisfied until we are 24/7 living together. And I'll still crave him when he leaves for work and count the minutes until he gets home.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 2:06:34 PM

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How many other sub's find it frustrating when U can't get to be with Ur Dom's?

Most people in this world prefer to be around their partners.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 2:11:20 PM

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Well, crap, I'm a Dom and I don't even know who my sub IS yet. Don't expect a whole lotta sympathy from me!

its me you big silly

- just the atlantic's a bit choppy this time of year - i know, a weak excuse but i can only do breast stroke

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 4:17:42 PM

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How many other sub's find it frustrating when U can't get to be with Ur Dom's?

For me, physical separation from Him is part and parcel of a Long-Distance relationship (I live in New Zealand; and He is in Pennsylvania, US). We do talk every day via phone, but that doesn't stop the pain and longing to be in His arms, at His feet, serving Him and loving Him. We have known eachother about 19 or 20 months now, and we met online. Being over in the States in August/September, being physically WITH Him reaffirmed to me, that He is indeed "the one" i want to serve, love, honor and obey for the rest of my life; and He feels exactly the same way. Which is why i am moving to the US to live in July 2010.

lovingpet, as you said in your post, many people in my life who have not really understood my relationship with Master Charles, telling me that it ould be a wasted journey over to the US; that He wasn't ready to be with anyone, i wasn't really "owned" or in a relationship, to "be careful" etc..... But His loving actions and demonstrations of His commitment over the last year and a bit, has been louder than any interfering words here in NZ.

imber, in answer to your question, yes, i often cry when we have said goodnight over the phone, my arms often feel aching and empty as i go to sleep, not being able to physically touch Him at this time; and while we have phone sex or play with toys with Him hearing me, i long for and imagine His touch.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 4:56:13 PM

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all the time. If I can't be with someone I love I always feel frustrated that i can't be there to help them, spend time with them, tell them eye to eye how much I care for them.

Basic human emotion I would think.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 5:03:33 PM

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Agreed with all of the above. I've been in two LDR relationships, both involved D/s in someway aswell. And I have to say, I don't think anyone who truly cares deeply for their SO wouldn't get frustrated by not being around. However that is only my oppinion, and if someone feels differently, then power to you

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 6:08:19 PM

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Well I am not a sub. But this one sub that I have met tells me he cant wait until we actually get a chance to spend time together. We talk on the phone and he is always tellign me how much he wishes he lived closer to me.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 11/30/2009 6:38:58 PM

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I think I'm lucky in the fact that I see Him almost everyday. He stops by my work on His way home to say Hi. We see eachother overnight either on Friday or Saturday nights. We went through some stuff recently and I didn't get to have an overnight with Him in a couple of weeks, but things are good now. I did see Him this weekend when He had me over to show me how to make bread from scratch :) It was fun being domestic together LOL

If I didn't get to see Him as much as I do, then I would do what I could to deal with that.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 12/1/2009 9:45:15 AM

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I get very frustrated when i can't be with my Master. I see him almost every day though. When i can't be with him i think of our 4(almost) years together and i a m a pack ra so i reread most of the cards he got me over the years. I just wait until i can be in his arms again just thinking of that moment make it eaiser.

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 12/1/2009 9:49:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: lally2

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Well, crap, I'm a Dom and I don't even know who my sub IS yet. Don't expect a whole lotta sympathy from me!

its me you big silly - just the atlantic's a bit choppy this time of year - i know, a weak excuse but i can only do breast stroke

Hang on...

It's me...right???

And yes, unfortunately swimming is not my strength either

Damn pond in between...

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RE: I'm dying to know.... - 12/2/2009 1:37:58 AM

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i used to really get frustrated but as i served longer and longer i became more disciplined

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