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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 3:53:22 PM

slavejali

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I think it would be bad manners not to respond to an email which seemed like it had taken some effort and thought to write however long or short it was.

If an email was just rude, advertising something, begging for money, or totally in disregard for your established relationship which would just amount to the fact that they havent even read your profile...i dont see it as bad manners not to respond.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 4:05:05 PM

HentaiGamerKitty

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

I think it would be bad manners not to respond to an email which seemed like it had taken some effort and thought to write however long or short it was.

If it's short, then it obviously didn't take much thought. "Hi, I'm Bob and I liked your profile. I'm a 30 yr old dominant with 5yrs experience. I work in computers. I'm unmarried and have no children." That's short, probably well thought out, but not getting a response from me because it's boring and doesn't sound any different than 500 other emails I've recieved. He has to catch my attention if he wants a response.

I'd rather see this: "Hi, my names Bob...You and I seem to have a lot in common. I like _____ book that you like and _________ movie that you like. I really loved the way that movie expressed the hidden fears of our society. If you'd like to discuss it sometime, please email me. Oh by the way, do you believe in the loch ness monster?"

Now THAT I would respond to, because it makes me think the person is unusual and quirky.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 4:48:34 PM

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 5:14:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: MstrBinder

Let me start by saying that I was raised in the South and have a certain sense of good manners that were built into me. That being said, I wonder if I am the only one that finds no response to an email as bad manners. Even a "no thanks" or "not interested' would be more polite than no response at all. Any comments?

1. British background here and, consequently, some appreciation for manners.

2. Many years of marketing background, which trumps #1.

Email solicitations are direct marketing, nothing more or less. Direct marketers succeed wildly with a response rate of one percent. They don't cry themselves to sleep over the 99 percent who don't respond.

I'm not bothered by those who don't respond. I'm amused by those who overreact to my inquiries, which are usually so polite that they put people into shock.

If more people online looked at the process as a necessary step to selling themselves, and fewer thought of it as a life and death personal struggle, we'd all have better sleep and digestion.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 5:57:16 PM

karleigh1957

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manners matter...always

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 6:41:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Just curious.... do you send a note to each and every company/individual that puts a business flyer in your mailbox that thanks but your not interested in what they have to offer?

Just curious.... did you stop to consider how many emails and notes individuals get... particularly females from interested males?

Good Manners is one thing... But, receiving unwanted solicitation doesn't require someone to respond! If you didn't recieve a reply... I think it is safe to say... They are not Interest if they do not respond! Now if they recieve a solicitation that interests them... Not only will they respond, but I expect they will do so with good manners.

Stands and applauds....Well said!

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/14/2006 10:19:14 PM

cloudboy

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Sorry, I just couldn't resist the target. Point taken.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/15/2006 8:16:43 AM

OscarHargraves

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I have to agree with you here. When a person, male or female, posts an ad or profile on a place like CM (or ALT, or AFF), I feel they are advertizing their wants or needs. Unless that profile specifically says something like, "Not looking now", or "Collared and just here to meet friends" then I think that person has a moral obligation to reply to someone who writes them. Even if they use the quick replies or just say "No thanks' they should answer them ONCE. If, however, that person does not take the hint and continues to write, then they are fully justified in not answering or even 'blocking' that individual. I would call this common courtesy.

My opinion only. No flames please.

< Message edited by OscarHargraves -- 3/15/2006 8:17:25 AM >

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/15/2006 11:34:23 AM

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The problem is that people don't actually read the profiles well enough to even see if you are looking. A while back, I posted my profile with the first line saying, "Just hear to meet friends...I just got out of a long term M/S relationship and am NOT looking for a dominant right now." BOOM, I got about 200 emails from guys wanting to be my dom! Like, hello, please READ the fricking profile you are responding to!

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/15/2006 9:30:13 PM

classykindasassy

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Please.

Get a life. NO answer IS an answer if you are paying attention, as KoM says.

I'm with HentaiGamerKitty as well. Not only do they not read, sometimes they don't even really speak English, or they write you some unsolicited novel of their lives. Did i ask for this? I don't owe them a damn thing.

Or my personal favorite: "I command you to answer Me now"

Who told you you were entitled to an answer from anyone? Did your mommy also tell you life would be fair?

Spam and third class mail, all of it.

But, then I DO know of a person who answers third-class mail. Otherwise known as not having a life.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 6:22:52 AM

psykocloud

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There is the auto response buttons here and I do use them

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 9:00:43 AM

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 9:17:27 AM

MasterBuckeye

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I have to agree with you, but in todays world, bad manners seems to be the norm. There seems to be a huge lack of respect from todays younger folks, and I think is more from the laws established by the passivists than anything else, in our day, being raised, if we talked back, or something of that nature, we had to go and get a switch or a belt, today that is a thing of the past, the peeps just say I'll call the cops, so parents just look the other way. To bad too, cause these peeps have no clue what life is really like. Good Luck on finding an answer, but when you do, please share it.
Master Buckeye

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrBinder

Let me start by saying that I was raised in the South and have a certain sense of good manners that were built into me. That being said, I wonder if I am the only one that finds no response to an email as bad manners. Even a "no thanks" or "not interested' would be more polite than no response at all. Any comments?

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 10:21:07 AM

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Years ago when I was stuck in some back water airport waiting for storms to clear so my crew and I could get to our target destination, I was up to the eyes with playing poker so found a book to read. I have no idea who wrote it or the title.. The story was set in this millennium and was about the youth generally pissing on the establishment and older folks. This in turned triggered a virtual civil war which spread into numerous countries… In the end the hotheads on both sides killed each other and those who had more sense and balance got together so that a new order was born.. Yep you guessed it, many of the traditional ways were brought back into law giving parents and teachers back the rights to discipline and revoking the kids right to tell all and sundry to go get fucked…..

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 5:01:45 PM

windchymes

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Maybe a new thread category could be created, such as "EMAIL COMPLAINTS", or "I'M MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT TAKING IT ANYMORE", or "RUDENESS EXISTS HERE, DAMMIT!", or something like that, where those with a complaint could go for their initial post. They could vent their anger and frustration and get it out of their systems, they'd see all the other similar threads and realize that they're not alone in their frustration, and they could receive emotional support from the other venters. Those of us who are tired of reading them day after day could just avoid the topic altogether, and we'd all feel better.

I know it wouldn't be 100% effective, but every little bit helps.

< Message edited by windchymes -- 3/18/2006 5:05:02 PM >

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 5:55:34 PM

WantItOhYeah

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Agree there. Have always tried to answer all my mail. There are just some that do not take a nice "Thank you for your interest and Good luck in Your search" well. Have had to block several - unfortunatly.

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RE: Bad manners or not? - 3/18/2006 6:15:27 PM

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the peeps just say I'll call the cops, so parents just look the other way.

Years ago, my step-son said that to me once...I called the cops for him...none of my kids have ever threatened me with that particular action since

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