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Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 7:16:02 AM

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Ok so heres the deal, a while ago (at least 5-7 months ago) I met this guy on a role playing website (non kinky btw) and we really sort of clicked together. We played together privately and sort of got attached to one another. He lives up in canada so he's not to far away. Now being the sweetheart he is he told me that until such a time that we can meet in person (next year for anime north in toronto) I should be searching for someone else to make me happy and be with instead of simply placing all my hopes for happiness in him.

In any case he is a budding dom but he has a very unique take on the whole thing. He really abhors violence and instead our play sessions tend to rely more on a type of physical hypnosis, him knowing exactly which buttons to push he influences my behavior to suit his needs subtly rather than using force or outright aggression. I came to learn that this type of play can be known as sensual domination, one which focuses on positive feelings of pleasure or cooercion rather than aggression or force. So do any of you have any expereicnes in this unique kind of play? Whats you're whole take on this force of domination?

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 8:30:16 AM

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I'm sure a lot of people aren't into pain play. As slave I was very much a pain slut, but now that I'm on the dom side, my kinks are control, humiliation and objectification. The idea of doling out pain bores me. It was yummy to receive, when I was slave- and I did crave it then.

But as a dom I enjoy my slave suffering for me in ways that involve little to no real pain, but a level of discomfort instead.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 8:41:14 AM

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I've experienced it. Wow, woo and bloody hell. That is one powerful voodoo! I'd love to add it to my arsenal.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 6:15:30 PM

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We don't do pain play. He's not a sadist and I'm not a masochist. We're big into bondage and sens dep.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 7:29:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: geomease

In any case he is a budding dom but he has a very unique take on the whole thing. He really abhors violence and instead our play sessions tend to rely more on a type of physical hypnosis, him knowing exactly which buttons to push he influences my behavior to suit his needs subtly rather than using force or outright aggression. I came to learn that this type of play can be known as sensual domination, one which focuses on positive feelings of pleasure or cooercion rather than aggression or force. So do any of you have any expereicnes in this unique kind of play? Whats you're whole take on this force of domination?

It sounds intriguing but I am not sure about what you are describing. I've never heard the phrase "physical hypnosis" before. What does it involve?

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 7:47:16 PM

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Well here's the whole thing....Did YOU enjoy it? It seems to me that if you enjoyed it, and he enjoyed it, no one else's opinions matter much. Sounds like an extremely positive experience.

Based on your statements, it sounds as though this was all cyber, would that be correct? His telling you to find someone who you can be with that will make you happy is kind of a red flag for me. I realize that on one hand, it is nice of him to want you to be happy because the two of you can't be together for whatever reason. On the other hand, he's obviously ok with the very real possibility that if you find someone who makes you happy until you can see each other means that by the time you two CAN be together, you will be otherwise involved, and no longer available to him. So how do you feel about THAT possibility?

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 8:23:06 PM

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physical hypnosis

There is no such thing as hypnosis in cybering. It's all between your virtual ears. There is also no such thing as "physical" hypnosis. Or vegetarian hypnosis... or... but you get my drift, I hope.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/2/2009 9:50:14 PM

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Well, I'm gonna sound like a smartass, so lemme say first I can't actually do it and I'm not pretending I know how. But I do have an odd background on the topic, so maybe I can help.

While I agree classical hypnosis can't occur online, it doesn't mean hypnotic inductions can't occur. The theory behind it is fairly simple. The concious mind can only "track" so many information objects at a time., but the subconcious absorbs and processes all information and input. This is important because only the concious mind is capeable of rejecting information and assertions, or labelling something as false. So, if one can overload the concious mind with stimulous, everything you insert into a subject's thoughts will be sort of recognised as their own, and automatically true and valid, and also without any sort of censorship for emotional defense. You circumvent the defenses and barriers, so to speak. I figure this is pretty related to alot of profound submissive experiences.

So can you do it online? I have no idea. I can't. Not on purpose, anyway. Does it happen irl. Yes, definately, and I think often not even conciously.

But all that said, D/s doesn't have toi involve pain at all. Everyone needs to work out what sort of discipline or consequence works for the particular subjects. Alot of very well done D/s can look perfectly vanilla to the casual onlooker.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/3/2009 11:09:18 AM

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yes it's mostly online, when I say physical hypnosis, a word which I broadly use to describe the kind of play session we do, I mean where he knows my body well enough where he knows just what areas at affect to get me to give in. I know it sounds silly seeing as it's all done over the internet but I swear I can feel the areas mentioned when we play together. I actually didn't know that the kind of play session we were having had an actual term until quite some time after we had gotten used to one another. Another female dom friend of mine has mentioned that she knows how to do sensual domination as well so theres always the chance that she could show me.

As for red flags you don't have to tell me twice, I'm automatically skeptical about online relationships due to some past bad experiences with them. Thats why we're choosing to meet first at a public event regularly attended by a lot of Minnesotants. So even if we don't hit it off it's not like I'd be out the travel money seeing as an anime con is always fun. In any case that female dom I've been talking to and him are both aware of each other and the agreement to meet me and him made. In the event that i do find someone I click with I'd tell them of my situation and see if it would be ok if I go to at least meet him. What'd be nice if my potential future partner meet him seeing as he is still a budding dom and any tip he/she could give him would be benificial to him as well. But at this point theres really nothing we can do to meet one another given our current living situations so for now we're just online buddies/play partners. And most of the stuff we do is fantasy type role playing so it's not like he's telling me what he wants me to do to myself. At heart were both role players having even met on a role playing website.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/3/2009 11:13:13 AM

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Hypnosis is a mental state (state theory) or set of attitudes (non-state theory) usually induced by a procedure known as a hypnotic induction, which is commonly composed of a series of preliminary instructions and suggestions.

There is no such thing as physical hypnosis.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/3/2009 11:26:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: geomease

he has a very unique take on the whole thing. He really abhors violence and instead our play sessions tend to rely more on a type of physical hypnosisis

I came to learn that this type of play can be known as sensual domination, one which focuses on positive feelings of pleasure or cooercion rather than

geo...

It is not that unique..it seems unique to those with misconceptions..
SENSUAL domination can mean many things to many ppl..just as DADDY D or MOmmy D sissy///or other such phrases...
BDSM WITHOUT pain is not unique...it is one type or aspect.

TO ME..and I used the term sensual a lot...
it means
I incorperate ALL SENSES in my domination AND AM INTERESTED in the POWER
I have with the s...through minds...then kniittng together a mind..body.spirit experience.

I come to know his MIND first and foremost and then incorperate body and spirit
experience for a holistic surrender to me.
I still am sadistic( cruel sensualist) as well while being sensual..I do not call it violence..
I love my boy enough to flog him silly.
I love him enough to cuddle and cover him in lavender and play soft music while whispering in his ear.

I love to persuade...invite...coax ...boyz to open forbidden doors and come along with me..on a mysterious magical journey.........

***HYPNOSIS on line..I dont think so...but I think it can be most intriguing experience with the right combo.
A DOM from my area has this in his profile ..it is all he does...on line "hypnosis."
It does nto matter if it is :real: to anyone else if it is enhancing YOUR life.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/3/2009 4:16:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: geomease

yes it's mostly online, when I say physical hypnosis, a word which I broadly use to describe the kind of play session we do, I mean where he knows my body well enough where he knows just what areas at affect to get me to give in. I know it sounds silly seeing as it's all done over the internet but I swear I can feel the areas mentioned when we play together. I actually didn't know that the kind of play session we were having had an actual term until quite some time after we had gotten used to one another. Another female dom friend of mine has mentioned that she knows how to do sensual domination as well so theres always the chance that she could show me.

Nods. That's what I thought you were talking about. I have an extremely vivid imagination, and I usually feel right there, physically there, when I cyber with someone. I feel it all too. It's just my memory of sensations filling in, probably, but it still feels real. I have a dear friend that I sometimes take the active (typing) role with; I find it a great way to serve her. She loves it, because since I am right there (feeling and imaginng it as if it were real in every little detail), I can easily take her there as well. It sounds like your dominant takes you into his sphere of imagination, too. I've had platonic friends who could do this as well. You just imagine something, very vividly, and when you do, you can sometimes share it with others. This sort of relating is a very good way to get to know the inner qualities of a person, and I'm glad to hear you're enjoying the experience. It'll make meeting in person so much better. There will be an initial disconnect: this person doesn't "feel" like the person I know online, but it'll pass within a very short time, probably minutes, and your online view of them will blend with their real-life reality.

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RE: Sensual Domination, your take on the issue - 12/4/2009 3:06:27 AM

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i tend to like more of a sensual experience sans pain as well... there is a local profile that sums up what would be the ideal relationship for me... AnnaofAramis. The profile and her life as a slave to her Master is perfect, or so it seems. i deal with the waves of pain that he gives me, but it is not what i desire in large doses. i am more of a Daddys girl, liking to feel good and safe and cared for. Hard for me to wrap my head around someone really caring if they are hurting me for long periods of time.

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