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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 11:00:45 AM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		Although slavejali posted some of the OP's profile...the entire thing is disturbing imo.

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 11:03:54 AM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

I don’t think that any slave/submissive or masochist hops up and says, “beat the shit out of me.” Ok, maybe I’m wrong but in my experience it’s a game of cat & mouse where intrigue and passion entangle.


Oh, I absolutely do! Quite often in fact. ::chuckles:: If I'd like a beating, I straight out ask for one and Himself will beat me or not depending on his mood and what's going on at any given time. There is a time and place for 'please beat the shit outta me' a time and place for passion and a time and place for intrigue. Sometimes they all happen together, sometimes any one element is the only element involved but I like knowing that I can 'ask' and sometimes get what I'm asking for and we have a grand time with it.

Celeste

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 11:12:05 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

I don’t think that any slave/submissive or masochist hops up and says, “beat the shit out of me.” Ok, maybe I’m wrong but in my experience it’s a game of cat & mouse where intrigue and passion entangle.


Oh, I absolutely do! Quite often in fact. ::chuckles:: If I'd like a beating, I straight out ask for one and Himself will beat me or not depending on his mood and what's going on at any given time. There is a time and place for 'please beat the shit outta me' a time and place for passion and a time and place for intrigue. Sometimes they all happen together, sometimes any one element is the only element involved but I like knowing that I can 'ask' and sometimes get what I'm asking for and we have a grand time with it.


I've only been involved with one girl who needed more than I will go of my own accord and she asked me for what she wanted..... and got it. I like to push my own bounderys on occassion too.

Her reactions and her gratitude definatly made it about ME getting something out of it too. Fun fun fun

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 11:21:00 AM   
truesub4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

I've only been involved with one girl who needed more than I will go of my own accord and she asked me for what she wanted..... and got it. I like to push my own bounderys on occassion too.

Her reactions and her gratitude definatly made it about ME getting something out of it too. Fun fun fun


RavenMuse.. before I made a post about a friend who is learning to adore his Dom side. Though things (scared is not the right word) worried him. His sub that was he was allowed to train with liked to on occasions be fisted. He tried it... freaked him out!!! Up one side down the other. I talked to him a couple days ago, and this time he decided to try it again, with no word to her at all. He said it was more enjoyable the 2nd time around. And not near as freaked out no more. He explained the pleasure of it... exactly as you just did.

It amazes me sometimes... how even as adults... being able to experiance... new things... we are like kids on Christmas morning or let loose in a candy store... I do so love the look on others faces.... and knowing it's there on mine as well.

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 3:23:58 PM   
MichMasochist


Posts: 234
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Status: offline 		Sounds to me like you are looking for, and to be, loved. And I mean love, not sex, not bdsm.

While reading your add, it seemed that you know what you want. While what you want seems far too intense, and hard core. Or maybe it's just what you think some one wants to read. However my overall impression was twenty year old, psyco pro on PMS, << click next >>.

For myself, my submission to a dominating lady is far more than her beating the crap out of me. Often tends more toward the sensual, with a side of pain and humiliation. Personally I'm here in hopes of finding a partner for a personal LTR.

By-the-way, what the tatoo on your ass? You have a better picture?

Mich



quote:

ORIGINAL: jessykapower

I know that many of you just like to get the crap beaten out of you. Well if you are having fun, why not. But it it really fun?

I cannot be kind to a slave that just wants me to torture him, he would take me for a fool and run to another more sadistic domme.

But even if I am not suppose to say this because it will probably destroy my reputation as a DOMINATRIX. But I really just want to hold you all in my arms and make your pain go away. Well, call me soft, call me what you wish. I just call myself the:

LOVE GODDESS

JESSYKA.



< Message edited by MichMasochist -- 3/15/2006 3:31:46 PM >

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 6:41:00 PM   
jocelyn


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Status: offline 		Just out of curiosity I read through this member’s previous posts. He/she never responds to the boards once the initial post has been put up. Reading through the website that's listed on one of them shows a fairly hefty dose of text. It's just a thought, but the best way to encourage someone who just doesn't "get" the concept of how the boards work (conversation, exchange of ideas, etc.,) might be to either be direct with a message or, if that fails, just ignoring him/her.

It takes a while to form an opinion of the people we read. I'm always willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt, but conversations take two. Perhaps this person is just trying on attitude/gender/dom or domme-ness/age? Hmmmm.

jocelyn


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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/15/2006 8:37:13 PM   
artglfr


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Status: offline 		Your attitude on Your profile is very different than the post you made. On your profile you are extremely Militant to the point of wishing to have Your own army so You could Force all Men to obey YOU. the alphas living in CAGES!

Your profile makes You appear to be extremely non consensual, and demanding Women be elected even if they aren't good! Either You have a unique sense of humor or something is not right.

Which are You? The male hating ,militant dictator wanna be or the"Love Goddess"?





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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/16/2006 10:28:29 AM   
jessykapower


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Status: offline 		THank you for responding to my post

I've been lonely
I've been waiting for you
And pretending cause that's all I can do
The love I'm sending
Ain't making it through to your heart
You've been hiding, never letting it show
Always trying to keep it under control
You got it down and you're well
On your way to the top
But there's something that you forgot

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you
You might need it someday

I can't tell you what you're feeling inside
And I can't sell you what you don't want to buy
Something's missing you got to
Look back on your life
You know something here just ain't right

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you

Oh love
Oh oh what about love
Yeah
What about love
Love love love
What about what about love
Oh love

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/16/2006 11:17:27 AM   
IndigoDadesi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
There is a time and place for 'please beat the shit outta me' a time and place for passion and a time and place for intrigue. Sometimes they all happen together, sometimes any one element is the only element involved but I like knowing that I can 'ask' and sometimes get what I'm asking for and we have a grand time with it.

Celeste


To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose.....

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/16/2006 11:51:41 AM   
truesub4u


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Status: offline 		Add this song here... but start a new thread with same song?

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/17/2006 4:19:47 PM   
MissDeb


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Status: offline 		This is Madam Jade. I have been taught and fully believe that the submissive and the Dom/me are two parts of the same whole; so if one is receives pain, it is both who weep. In My opinion, and I have been in the lifestyle for nearly half a century, a true Dom/me's kindness will temper His or Her judgement in the use of pain. If you have more questions, I am here as are We all. xx

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/17/2006 4:52:19 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		That is an ass that would require at least 45 safewords, before I quit beating it. Is that yours?

Unfortunately, I would not look so good by the time you get what YOU want.

I think that female feelings of nurturing and tenderness are not uncommon.

There is: (at the very least)
heavy whipping cream
whipping cream
whole milk
2% milk
1% milk
whey........
creatine.

That is just milk......
how many more constituent parts could be made from humans?

LOL,
Ron

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/17/2006 5:12:14 PM   
scratchingpost


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Status: offline 		i applaud you for that actually. i feel that aftercare is so important and sometimes just care is important without the beating. There is a time and a place for sadism ask my toy then there are other times when we just need to talk to cuddle to let him watch the steelers (though i really would prefer he do that in a cherrleader outfit)

just cause i am an edge player doesnt mean i dont have a heart.

this might make me lose ALOT of pro domina work but even with the people who come to me for that know i am available to help them with their emotional needs. i take a whole submissive approach even at work and try for however long they are with me for that scene to make them feel they belong soley to me i dont set a clock up and say ready set beat you pay me bye....its just not my style....then again it pleases me to be the way i am so why fight it

be safe and smile

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/18/2006 10:07:22 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		It was just an advertisement, folks.

Jessy, hon, whatcha been smokin' today?

Texas Maam

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/24/2006 6:54:20 AM   
BeachMystress


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From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jocelyn

Just out of curiosity I read through this member’s previous posts. He/she never responds to the boards once the initial post has been put up. Reading through the website that's listed on one of them shows a fairly hefty dose of text. It's just a thought, but the best way to encourage someone who just doesn't "get" the concept of how the boards work (conversation, exchange of ideas, etc.,) might be to either be direct with a message or, if that fails, just ignoring him/her.

It takes a while to form an opinion of the people we read. I'm always willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt, but conversations take two. Perhaps this person is just trying on attitude/gender/dom or domme-ness/age? Hmmmm.

jocelyn


The op does read the boards. She wrote to me after one of my posts telling me that she didn't understand my profile. I eventually blocked her mails because she seemed to be willfully misunderstanding what I'd said to the point of being insulting. I use the word session and scene interchangeably; she seemed to feel this made me a Pro.  If this person is new, the terminology being used in different ways than expected might confuse them. They also, as you suggest, not really understand how a forum works. I've not been paying close enough attention to the boards lately to have a good feel for if this person is as much of a troll as has been implied, but.. the benefit of the doubt is always nice. Perhaps the person is, as you suggest, just new and clueless.

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/24/2006 7:17:21 AM   
IronBear


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From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		A question for the MODs....

Will I get into deep doodoo, if  I am kind to the CM Family and just use the Pest Control Agency to eradicate this  jessykapower cockroach???? 

Huh? Huh? Huh?

(Thinking PCA...CIA... Damn! I know there is a connection there somewhere......)

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/24/2006 7:49:02 AM   
ownedgirlie


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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/24/2006 8:20:44 AM   
EvilGeoff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: jessykapower

I know that many of you just like to get the crap beaten out of you. Well if you are having fun, why not. But it it really fun?


I am quite willing to beat the crap out of anyone who is looking for that for fun.  After all, if you're having fun, it's all good.  And yes, for me, it's REALLY fun!

quote:


I cannot be kind to a slave that just wants me to torture him, he would take me for a fool and run to another more sadistic domme.


I can be unkind, or kind, that can be worked out in negotiating the scene.  I'm a sadistic summonabeach.  Oh, and I don't care if you identify as a slave or not.  For SERVICE I want a slave.  If all you want is a beating, masochists, bottoms, subs, slaves...  I will beat ALL with gleeful abandon, male, female, tranny.... It's all good.


quote:


But even if I am not suppose to say this because it will probably destroy my reputation as a DOMINATRIX. But I really just want to hold you all in my arms and make your pain go away. Well, call me soft, call me what you wish. I just call myself the:

LOVE GODDESS

JESSYKA.


After care is negotiable.  You want cuddles, hugs, a nice drink, something to eat?  Wrapped up in a nice blankey and left in the corner until you come down?  Be dressed and stuffed out the door?  Whatever works for you, I can supply.

I just call myself:

The old, fat, balding, ugly, tattoed, pierced, evil, sadistic, hung-like-a-stud-field-mouse, bastard.

YIK,
- Geoff

No, I'm not a pro.  But I'm willing to become one.  Have toybag, will travel. No scene too extreme, no fee to high!

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RE: CRUEL TO BE KIND - 3/24/2006 8:33:28 AM   
ravn


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Status: offline 		you'll have to add me too. And don't think for a second i'm flamig you, it's not my place. But if you're going to say on thing and then another, you really can't get angry for someone telling you that you're be contradictory and adding you to their blocked list...adios thread

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