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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

I apologize in advance to anyone reading this if they're irritated that I'm basically soliciting wank material. Here's the dealio, I've got a newbie on my hands. He's normally the sort that likes to be in control in the bedroom, but with me it's more of a switch dynamic. He starts out and ends up in charge, but in between is my time to do "filthy" things to his cock/ass region. I'm relatively new to this myself, but am fairly excited by the opportunity.

I won't try to sort out the exact nature of the dynamic, other than to say that in the middle he's perhaps best described as a non-specific do-me sub. He wants me to do (things he considers) dirty to him, but either due to lack of porn research or insecurity (he's from a macho background) he doesn't share any specifics. I know, talk to him, present a kink checklist, blah blah blah. But the mystery and adventure is part of what excites him. We've been at this enough, that I've had him on all fours with digital and oral contact with his ass. It's basically been a "better to apologize than ask permission" set up, which requires hyper-sensitivity to his responses and cessation at the first sign of discomfort. I'd like to take it to the next level, give the boy a safeword, and have the freedom to work through his initial hesitance without him having to give verbal oks. I suspect he will surprise me.

So, given that introduction... I'm looking for ideas of things to do to him. He responds better to discrete sensations (rather than something like a spanking). I read something here about a ball tapping routine (with prostate stimulation) that I'd like to try. But I wanted to hear from the male subs what worked for them. When you were first starting out, what sorts of actions led you down the garden path?

Sorry if this seems like a stupid and obvious question, but I've been gleaning the boards for awhile and I figured it was time to just straight out ask. I suppose I should clarify that my relationship with this young man is friendly and respectful, sexual, but not romantic.

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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

Both of you reading the messages posted on here, should give you plenty of ideas. Besides, if he is the submissive one, he should submit to your desires, at least most of the time

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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

C'mon She specifically asked for things to do to him as a sub. Is there a better place to learn than here? Reality wise! I thought the sub was to submit to anothers demands

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ORIGINAL: Sfortzando
Are you working your way up towards pegging?

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ORIGINAL: IBused

Introduce him to an ennema...make him hold in hot water as you fill his ass up...and then roll him over and play with his cock as he suffers and experiences the best orgasim he has ever experienced.