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lally2 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 4:41:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyldHrt I know, the caveat I posted is because this board has a lot of lurkers who come here to read and learn. Pointing out that some things are mostly wank fodder helps those who are interested in moving from fantasy to real life dynamics [;)] oh if that were true. i do get the impression that there are many many lurkers on here and other sites who do not bother to read the threads or learn anything at all. edited to add: i love the post script under youre messages 'motherfucker is not a safe word' - im laughing my head off here.

lally2 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 4:55:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I'm submissive and the same question turned on its head is interesting to me. If I found a man I really liked but he wouldn't/could't dominate me, would I pursue the relationship? The answer is no. I can't submit if he won't dominate, and I need to submit. i kinda explored this a couple of days ago. faced with the possibility of a non Ds relationship did i actually want it. the answer was no. DesFip actually rounded that discussion off perfectly by saying that whilst a submissive can submit herself to a dominant personality, if he is not a Dominant, ie., he does not understand the psyche and intricacies of a submissive then it was likely that she would be misunderstood as a doormat and her giving/accepting/acquiescent nature would be taken advantage of. for me personally i realised that i need to submit to someone who knows thats what im doing and that he will respond accordingly in a way that engages my submission further and so on.

lally2 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 4:59:41 PM)
to the OP i dont know about the Dominant angle, but i would imagine its possibe to temper dominance toward a non-submissive if everything else feels fab. but, then again. if he craves control, if he craves that feeling of ownership and the pride of owning her heart, mind and body to do with as he wishes and her absolute submission to his will then i would have to say no. there is way more to Ds than BDSM.

Level -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 5:07:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: vtara Hypothetically, you meet an attractive lady whose personality you like (or man, if you swing that way), she really wants you, you really want her, but she's not into D/s as much as you are or even not at all. At what point is she not submissive/obedient enough for you to not pursue her? If, for example, you're the type who wants to chain a nude slave to a post in your backyard and leave her there, would you settle for her only wearing handcuffs when you have sex sometimes? For the right woman would you have a completely vanilla relationship? Assuming of course, that you know how submissive she is. I'm sure many of you would at least try to bring out an undiscovered desire of hers. A thread I found when searching through old ones gave me the impression that some doms don't like subs expressing their own preferences in a partner (sexual and otherwise) in their profiles, and want a sub's only desire to be pleasing their master- it made me curious how the horny instinct fares against the dominant. She doesn't have to be submissive; if every other aspect of relationship falls into place, then that is something I can work with; vanilla isn't the worst thing in the world. However... for any D/s relationship to happen with me, she would have to be extremely submissive.

CarrieO -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 5:19:17 PM)
Hey Level, look.....he's offering you 4.5 million USD!!!!! All you have to do is be honest...like him[8\|]

vtara -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 5:42:31 PM)
Perfect! I could use a couple million bucks. As for the question, the way I wrote it came out sounding like it was all about sex, but I am interested in hearing about the non-sexual aspect as well! If my question is missing anything you feel is relevant, feel free to expand on what is and what is not important to you.

Level -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 6:23:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarrieO Hey Level, look.....he's offering you 4.5 million USD!!!!! All you have to do is be honest...like him[8\|] I've sent my new friend instructions (via carrier pigeon) on how to get the moolah to me. Hmm. I hope he didn't think I said "send me the mullah"...

sweetsub1957 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/18/2009 10:34:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I'm submissive and the same question turned on its head is interesting to me. If I found a man I really liked but he wouldn't/could't dominate me, would I pursue the relationship? The answer is no. I can't submit if he won't dominate, and I need to submit. i kinda explored this a couple of days ago. faced with the possibility of a non Ds relationship did i actually want it. the answer was no. DesFip actually rounded that discussion off perfectly by saying that whilst a submissive can submit herself to a dominant personality, if he is not a Dominant, ie., he does not understand the psyche and intricacies of a submissive then it was likely that she would be misunderstood as a doormat and her giving/accepting/acquiescent nature would be taken advantage of. for me personally i realised that i need to submit to someone who knows thats what im doing and that he will respond accordingly in a way that engages my submission further and so on. What she said.

NihilusZero -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/19/2009 6:52:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23 Because missionary every night is fucking boring. Or boring fucking, I guess. 10 points for the play on words alone.

Underumam -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/19/2009 6:50:43 PM)
"How much submission do I need?" If I knew that, I wouldn't need a Domme...lol.

osf -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/19/2009 7:00:02 PM)
how much do i need? none how much do i want is another question, all i can get

MasterUchiha -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/24/2009 7:37:23 PM)
Yes I would consider it however being a Dom I am sure the D/s relationship may play out in other areas of our relationship

Justme696 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/24/2009 8:26:12 PM)
quote: How much submission do you NEED? approx 20 grams per square inch IF I met someone here...that is less in the "lifestyle" then me and we really like eachother...I will try and see how long it lasts. I won't push my feelings aside.

NuevaVida -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/25/2009 10:54:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: vtara Hypothetically, you meet an attractive lady whose personality you like (or man, if you swing that way), she really wants you, you really want her, but she's not into D/s as much as you are or even not at all. At what point is she not submissive/obedient enough for you to not pursue her? If, for example, you're the type who wants to chain a nude slave to a post in your backyard and leave her there, would you settle for her only wearing handcuffs when you have sex sometimes? For the right woman would you have a completely vanilla relationship? Assuming of course, that you know how submissive she is. I'm sure many of you would at least try to bring out an undiscovered desire of hers. A thread I found when searching through old ones gave me the impression that some doms don't like subs expressing their own preferences in a partner (sexual and otherwise) in their profiles, and want a sub's only desire to be pleasing their master- it made me curious how the horny instinct fares against the dominant. As I read this I think it's more of "how much submission does someone want/need WHEN?" I mean, if the Man was looking for someone who would give everything over, right away, then I wouldn't have been the right woman for him. It's a gradual process for me, and we evolve together as to "how much." For me, there was no saying how much I would submit until I came to know and trust the man. That's why we took time getting to know each other, to see if this was something we both wanted to pursue. And for us, there was no rush in doing that. But this man, being who he is, brings me to want to do more and more for him, and me, being who I am, brings him to want more and more from me - all at a gradual pace. We're only 9 months into this, but we haven't even touched on many many things we see ourselves doing in the years to come - sexual, domestic, and otherwise. Then again, we both want a well rounded relationship that carries over into all facets of life, and that's a pretty broad scope. These things take time (for us, anyway).

leadership527 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/25/2009 2:18:28 PM)
I don't need any... not sexually and not any other way. What I NEED is a good partner. Specifically that means one that meshes well with me. And I happen to think of myself as a broad personality with a great many possible fits. I could easily see myself meeting some woman and falling in love with her and it being an entirely different relationship than that which Carol and I have. In fact, I'd be very surprised were it not. I like owning Carol, not owning "slaves" or dominating "subs". Honestly, my suspicion is that the vast majority of women would not be worth the burden of responsibility that I associate with ownership.

tiemeupSir02 -> RE: How much submission do you NEED? (12/25/2009 6:10:35 PM)
i know this post is for the Masters to anwer, but if the scenario was flipped i could no way do vanilla. if i were connected to the man and had everything else going physically, emotionally and sexually i have to be able to submit.

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