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Underumam -> RE: Reasons for rejection.... (12/15/2009 8:31:58 AM)
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Having recently passed through a rejection myself, all I can offer is that like most other things in life, there are two sides to every conflict. I realize most people have certain criteria that needs to be met before even meeting, and they are often varied over a wide range of needs/demands. Some say it's all about the Dommes, some subs say it's all about them, others say their dominance is about helping the subs. The list goes on and on.....
No matter what, (except for slavery of course) a D/s relationship will most often times gravitate towards a mutual understanding of needing, and filling those needs. They won't last too long unless both sides become one in function and purpose, which will only come about through mutual respect, tolerance, devotion, patience and lots of time spent together. Just like any other relationship, things are built up in levels through trust as it hopefully grows with each passing day. Being "emotionally able/available" seems to apply to both D and s.
Rejection is a bitch. But in reality when it's all said and done, rejection happens for a reason, and both sides are better off in the long run for the subsequent split up. Some of us ask ourselves-what was my role in this? What could I have done better and etc. I believe that rejection fuels the fire of introspection, and there's really no need to do anything but apply the lessons learned and move on, causing as little harm to the other as possible.
Ain't life grand? lol.
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