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MaamJay -> RE: From the "Reasons for Rejection' Idea (12/25/2009 11:40:47 PM)
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I am not rejection oriented, I will explore areas of compatability wherever possible. That said, there are some basics, which, if they don't match up, will result in "rejection" before it gets too far. Above all, they have to be willing to accept the relationship between the sub side of myself and Master. However, other basics include:
1. A smoker, excessive alcohol drinker, taking illicit drugs
2. Someone who is not physically capable of doing what I want from a sub (NB I can work around some physical incapacity, and will take each case on its own merit)
3. Someone who is selfish, self-centred, for whom it is all about him and what I will do to him
4. Someone who does not pay attention to what I say and who doesn't learn quickly from errors that I correct
5. Someone who dislikes or is seriously allergic to pets
6. Someone who has such a fear of rejection that he likes to get in first and do the rejecting, then bleats when the person he rejected ultimately leaves. For this reason I like to explore their past relationships and look for patterns
7. Someone who refuses to obey a command that will not physically or mentally harm them but which will be at least momentarily uncomfortable or challenging to them
8. Someone who wants to serve Me in the ways he wants to serve instead of serving Me in the ways I want him to serve (eg someone who believes in the eyes down rule and won't look Me in the eye - I will give him time to relearn or get out of bad habits but he has to show willing and make effort to do that)
9. Someone who won't honestly share his thoughts and feelings, especially can't stand the "anything You say Ma'am" types
10. There has to be a certain level of intelligence, interests in common and capacity to articulate their ideas clearly for Me to stay interested.
I have been rejected as a Domme because:
1. Of My physique
2. Of My age
3. Of My good manners (I don't equate Domliness with rudeness but then some don't see Me as Dommly enough)
4. Of My loving and affectionate ways (doesn't suit those who want the cold bitch type)
5. Of My need to give aftercare (doesn't suit those who don't like aftercare)
6. Of My desire to talk a lot at the beginning and to probe their inner thoughts instead of just Dominating them
7. Of My lack of interest in humiliation play, degradation play, and views on punishment
8. Of My wariness about the motivations behind their desire to cross-dress (due to My experiences in this area)
9. Of My ultimate desire for sex with them (no, not straight off, but yes, ultimately, I'm going to keep a cock I want to use it! I'm not into keeping a cuckold or one in chastity devices all the time. I've been told that "real Dommes don't have sex with their subs!")
10. Of My desire to challenge them physically and mentally, to encourage them to step outside of their comfort zones and engage in personal growth (they wanted to stay in their ruts!)
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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