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Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you to b... - 12/15/2009 7:24:04 AM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		Hi all, I am thrilled to announce that in three weeks, I will be starting graduate school.  It's something I considered doing for a long time, but there was always a reason it was not a good time, job, money, etc.  Since my relationship with Master began, He has encouraged me to improve my life in many ways, self discipline, not being hard on myself emotionally, being more forthright with my emotions, things like that, but He has also supported and encouraged me in this decision.  I'm so excited and happy! 

I thought I would start a positive thread about these things, giving others the opportunity to share similar life improvements as a result of your relationship.  Aside from a feel good happy thread, I thought it would also be a good example to others of some of the perhaps less obvious positive aspects of a true D/s relationship. 



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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 9:27:23 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Before my Master entered my life there was a lot of chaos and disorder.
It isn't all tamed, and "battling the Darkness" as he puts it, is an everyday goal.
But it is achievable and forward progress is made most days.
Things are so much better than they were 9 or so months ago, both within and without.


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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 9:39:14 AM   
slaveToKnight


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Status: offline 		What a great thread, thank you 

Master has encouraged me to continue to grow, meditate and work towards goals I would probably have given up on. I have lost weight and got fitter because of our relationship.

Most of all he has enouraged me to open and bare my soul to him in a way I know I could not do with anyone else. I have felt a kind of intimacy I didn't know was possible before and I am unafraid to look at the darker aspects of my personality with him by my side.

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 9:58:47 AM   
HimNbabygirl


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Status: offline 		When my Master entered my life, i was at a particularly low point in it. He has become my "calm in the storm". He has shown me that to be a submissive doesn't mean i am a doormat. He has helped me become a stronger, more confident woman. Because of Him, i am eating better and exercising and am feeling better about myself physically and mentally. Because of Him, i am learning i AM a beautiful, sexy, intelligent woman who is a force worth being, worth loving, and worth being reckoned with when you cross me.

It's hard to explain, but it's like the "me" that i was was this hurt, scared, dark little person cowering in the corner of a forgotten, locked closed deep in a basement who had given up on life and herself. To be honest, before Master came along, i was seriously entertaining thoughts about how much better life would be for those i loved if i no longer existed to be a burden to them. i don't think Master knows how for down in that pit of dispare i actually was. Suddenly he was just there 1 day, and from the begining, He didn't put up with my bullshit. He didn't let me be that dark little person. He gave me hope, light and life. He doesn't make me want to be a better person, He makes me stand up and be a better person (and feel pretty darn good about myself in the process).

i'm not sure i explained it very well, but this is what my Master has done for me.


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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 11:12:58 AM   
bluefireeyez


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Status: offline 		my Master has done a lot for me, a lot of which doesn't quite fit into words. He has taught me that there isn't any shame in having physical or mental health problems. He encourages me to talk when i can, but gives me the space to mourn over things like i need to...He didn't pressure me to talk about my Mom's breast cancer but was more than available when i needed someone to talk to. He has also shown me what a great person i am, and refuses to let anyone treat me poorly.

He has also shown me that i deserve to be treated much better than what i was in the past.

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 11:17:50 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		welll... there is the yoga so I can be a pretzel. 

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 1:23:11 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		He has shown me that i am a beautiful desriable woman, for a long time i did not think i was (long story). He has also helped me be a much calmer person i tend to get very uset over little things. I still do it sometimes , but it is not as much as it used to be. Master will just say "sweetheart are you upset" and give me that look. Usually works.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 1:46:08 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		Most importantly, He has given this slave a relationship partner whom she can trust with her life, who accepts her submissive nature and who she can talk to about anything under the sun...or moon...laugh with, cry with and explore destinations within and outside of ourselves that we always wanted to visit or really enjoyed visiting and we go back again, together.
 
He doesn't "inspire" this slave, but makes her be social...even when she is ALL panicked about it.
 
He not only encourages her major interests but funds her projects in genealogy, costume design & construction, shoe collecting and medicinal horticulture as well as minor hobbies such as scrapbooking.

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 2:05:37 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		thank you for all your posts, it's such a nice thing to read, I love a reason to smile, if I didn't have enough already!! 

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 2:24:38 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		i have learned to become emotionally self-sufficient, and to lean on God more.

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 4:28:44 PM   
sweetsub1957


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My former Sir taught me that I was lovable, desirable and beautiful, AND He taught me how to have a backbone when dealing with other people.  Come to think of it, He was the best thing that ever happened to me. 

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 5:45:50 PM   
yellowroses


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Status: offline 		I agree this is a GREAT thread!

I don't have a way with words as He does but I will give it my best.

In the almost 9 years that I have known Chip (AnimusRex) I have become a much better person. He has inspired me to be a better mother, friend, lover and just overall a better human being. He has encouraged me to continue my education, to do things for myself and has opened my eyes to many new things. What I think that I particularily enjoy most is that sometimes we have separate interests. I don't feel the need to always have to do what He is doing. I enjoy sewing and arts and crafts. He enjoys reading political blogs and watching "Man" movies. In past relationships I thought that each person had to be joined at the hip to each other. That I had to be interested in everything the other person did. I am much more content the way I am now. He brings me peace and contentment everyday.

Thank you again for this wonderful post!

kim

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 6:33:48 PM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Good evening!
Daddy has really done alot of emotional things for me. Too many to list but in practicality, he has taught me to be a better mom. Especially now that my UM's are hitting teens and his are full grown. It is good having someone to advise you on a path you have never traveled. Also, he really got my health back on track. From getting my shoulder checked out after a year of pain, kitty checked after 2 years of pain, to having most of my teeth pulled and fixed after YEARS of chipping and pain.  Things I just put off having diagnosed or treated :: shrugs:: and what makes it even more special is that he got me to do these things when my own hubby used to shrug it off or ignore it. That's why I love him so. I do these things for him and no one else, not even myself. Good luck!
Love,
Zechriel


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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 6:44:06 PM   
Aynne88


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Well this may not be the "proper" answer, but as much as he has taught me, I have also taught him. I don't believe that one is only taught without teaching back.

He has taught me that I don't have to be so aggressive and self-sufficient all the time, and to let down some of my defenses for once and to trust him, which was hard for me. He also taught me to realize that not all people have ulterior motives and that some people actually do just give and love and care for nothing more than altruistic reasons.

He tells me that I have taught him that it is okay to be vulnerable at times, admit fears and insecurities, and that men can find their woman to be the strong place as well as the soft place to fall.


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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 6:57:29 PM   
Hierodule


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Status: offline 		In the short time we have been together he has taught me patience, confidence, and "inspired" me to stop biting my nails!

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/15/2009 9:03:07 PM   
Navina


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Status: offline 		I haven't yelled once the entire time we've been together. I've learned to make my voice carry without raising the volume to the level of "fishwife".

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/16/2009 1:41:08 AM   
Elizabeth666


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Status: offline 		Sir works out daily. I've been wanting to lose some weight and tone up (5'10", 180 lbs) He has never told me I need to lose weight or excersize, but listening to Him talk about how it gives Him extra energy in both body and mind has made me want to do the same. I asked Him to help and He gave me a video that He uses to start out with and if I can do it and stay commited, then we can start on exersizing together. In turn this has made me take a look at my eating and drinking habits. More water, less pop and coffee. etc

Not a deep emotional thing, but it's a start :D

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/16/2009 2:20:32 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		Since meeting my Husband i feel not alone anymore

without me really noticing He taught me so much

He supports me in all aspects of my life
He helped me set up my business... He takes interest my weird art projects...
He allows me to go dancing... He gave me a child
He cares for me when i am sick and He tells me to get on with it and stop moaning when i drag my feet...

if i go about it right i can talk about anything with Him (not to say we agree)

also He is the best lover i ever had

ETA my life is like it is because i am with Him (almost 20 years now)...
i have no clue what would have happened if i had not met Him

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/16/2009 3:25:48 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Gary has quite literally saved my life.  I tend to put off regular doctor visits.  A couple years ago he insisted that I go to the gynecologist.  A tumor was discovered in my uterus.  It was abnormal tissue, however, it had not turned into cancer yet.  A hysterectomy insured that it never would.  Then this year he decided it was time for a colonoscopy.  A large polyp was removed as well as a biopsy on an abnormal area.  The abnormal area is not cancer yet, but doc said it would be if I leave it.  So, in the next few weeks I will have a portion of my colon removed.  It seems that bullets have been dodged twice now, thanks to Gary's insistence that I get some regular check ups.  

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RE: Ways in which your Dom has inspired/encouraged you ... - 12/16/2009 8:45:14 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Congratulations on going back to school!

I was pretty self sufficient when we met and already feeling pretty good about myself.  What he is teaching me, though, simply by being who he is, is what it is to really be loved, and to allow someone to love me this way.  I'm also learning to be more organized, as he sets a good example for that.  And his calm and patient nature rubs off on me more every day.  I have  new sense of peace with him.  I've also been able to enjoy being silly or absent-minded or playful.  I'm finding aspects of my personality coming out, which were always stifled in the past.  We have so much fun, just being ourselves together, and I think that's pretty damn cool. 


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