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wykkidesire2plsU -> Chat Requests (12/21/2009 9:05:52 PM)

i am curious, i get a chat request from someone about 6 times a week. Almost 100% have not asked in email if i would like to chat, or even emailed me before.

Do you all consider a chat request on here just like yahoo or something where a little bit of conversation is exchanged and agreement made to chat?

i block em and all, so not a big deal, i just think it is a bit rude and wondered if i it is more accepted here.



numuncular -> RE: Chat Requests (12/21/2009 9:13:36 PM)

its rude simple as that, not least because it opens a java thing and that can play havoc with some peoples computers.



wykkidesire2plsU -> RE: Chat Requests (12/21/2009 9:17:09 PM)

True, this guy cussed me out when i said i didn't accept because it was blind so i wondered if maybe rules were different here....glad to know rude is rude. :)



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Chat Requests (12/21/2009 10:03:11 PM)

I don't chat on here, as the collarme chat function freezes up my computer.  I used to try, but it would usually just turn into Them wanting chat sex so I quit.  Ugh.



susie -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 1:41:45 AM)

For some people they find the immediate response they get from chat as an easier way to communicate. The email back and forward takes time and can be more stilted than chat. I know one Dom that emails saying they would like to chat on yahoo or msn. He goes straight into chat because for him that is the way he feels comfortable.



lally2 -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 3:15:18 AM)

i tend never to chat to strangers, 90% of the time theyre just looking for a wank anyway. the other 10% are genuine but i really dont have that much time to invest in chatting to everyone who wants to chat.

as you say, some of these people can get really obnoxious and unpleasant.

the worst is when youre chatting to a total stranger and they try to Dom you - youre put in the invidious position of telling them 'no' knowing theyre going to get arsey when you do. all sorts of comments go off, but the most annoying i think is 'but we were getting on so well' - well of course, im not gonna bitch at them and make the conversation shite for them.

i might well be wrong here but my observation so far is that it tends to follow that instant chat requests are usually from people who want instant everything. i was told once, after an hours conversation that i was now theyre sub and that i wasnt to talk to anyone else.

so i now dont chat.



atypicalsub -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 3:36:56 AM)

I don't mind chat request if someone is actualy interested in talking to me.  What I hate are when people chat me up without bothering to read my profile first.  Why chat up someone you know nothing about?




thishereboi -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 4:23:36 AM)

If they are not asking you to chat in email, how are they asking you?



DesFIP -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 4:48:42 AM)

I also find that those who want to go straight to chat are only looking for wank material. Since I don't do sex with strangers, never did, I always blocked and deleted. Don't even bother to decline, just delete the email.



honeygirl -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 7:05:09 AM)

99.99999% of the time, I ignore any requests to chat. I don't think someone who asks to chat with me is being unacceptably rude. I think of it like spam though and (mostly) ignore it altogether.

I'm not certain that there are necessarily any norms in sending/accepting chat requests. I do (mostly!) as I please when someone offers [:)]



AquaticSub -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 7:13:43 AM)

~Fast Reply~

I get them all the time and I ignore them. They used to really screw with my computer and people ALWAYS bitched me out when I politely informed that I couldn't accept their chat requests and I was happy exchange c-mails with them. Every now and then, when I feel confident my computer can handle it, I'll accept one and I've yet to be impressed.



osf -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 8:32:53 AM)

rudeness is someone engaging in activity or speech that is not the accepted norm in that time and place

someone doing or saying something not knowing it is not accepted speech or activity is not rude

just because you perceive something as rude does't make it so, it may be just inappropriate

if you have spelled it out in your profile that is another matter



wykkidesire2plsU -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 3:05:54 PM)

quote:

If they are not asking you to chat in email, how are they asking you


The chat request thing will turn red saying i have a chat request. Then i click it and it is someone i have never heard of lol.



lally2 -> RE: Chat Requests (12/22/2009 3:14:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

If they are not asking you to chat in email, how are they asking you?



i think the easiest way to explain is to show you. so ill send you a chat request. darn i cant work out how to...

im such a smuck - on the left hand side of youre profile page theres the usual menu. when the 'chat request' turns red you click on that and youll get an offer to accept or reject the invite. no email necessary.



tiemeupSir02 -> RE: Chat Requests (12/25/2009 6:48:13 PM)

i feel it is rude to immediately invite a request for me to chat without sending an email first.



LostBabyDoll -> RE: Chat Requests (12/27/2009 7:49:37 PM)

I don't like chat requests either. I say that I don't chat in my profile and I still get chat requests!!!!



CaringandReal -> RE: Chat Requests (12/28/2009 12:37:41 PM)

If you don't like those requests, click Edit Account on the left menu, then check the "Block all Chat Requests" box.



wykkidesire2plsU -> RE: Chat Requests (12/28/2009 2:22:55 PM)

you are so smart! thanks!



CaringandReal -> RE: Chat Requests (12/28/2009 6:17:39 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: wykkidesire2plsU

you are so smart! thanks!


Glad to help!



thishereboi -> RE: Chat Requests (12/28/2009 7:36:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

If they are not asking you to chat in email, how are they asking you?



i think the easiest way to explain is to show you. so ill send you a chat request. darn i cant work out how to...

im such a smuck - on the left hand side of youre profile page theres the usual menu. when the 'chat request' turns red you click on that and youll get an offer to accept or reject the invite. no email necessary.


Ok thanks, I see it now. Some seem to be turned off, maybe there is a setting somewhere.



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