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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 3:21:08 PM   
LaTigresse


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I don't do the whole trust issue. I just take them for who they are. I know that they will let others down, they will do things that may upset others, etc..

I expect them to be human beings with frailties, egos, problems, imperfections.



Yes! This is exactly the point I was getting at.


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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 3:22:43 PM   
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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

but online the better and faster typist usually wins


Win?



whatever the argument was about

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 3:25:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

I regard trusting someone I don't know as a full glass situation.

Sometimes the glass stays full forever.
Sometimes the glass is shattered rapidly -

but, it always starts full.



I'm new to the BDSM lifestyle and have little experience, but I have to agree will kiwisub12. Personally, i assumed it was a naivity based on my inexperience, but until a person shows a reason to not deserve trust, i have no reason to prejudice them in any way. Granted though, after the first conversation with a person, their education and demeanor can be looked at to an extent, and the extent of the trust deserved can be gauged.

My appologies for randomly inserting myself to the conversation. I hope no one will take offense. *heh*

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 3:28:23 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

I regard trusting someone I don't know as a full glass situation.

Sometimes the glass stays full forever.
Sometimes the glass is shattered rapidly -

but, it always starts full.



I'm new to the BDSM lifestyle and have little experience, but I have to agree will kiwisub12. Personally, i assumed it was a naivity based on my inexperience, but until a person shows a reason to not deserve trust, i have no reason to prejudice them in any way. Granted though, after the first conversation with a person, their education and demeanor can be looked at to an extent, and the extent of the trust deserved can be gauged.

My appologies for randomly inserting myself to the conversation. I hope no one will take offense. *heh*



it doesn't take trust to extend good manners and civility

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 4:02:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I don't do the whole trust issue. I just take them for who they are. I know that they will let others down, they will do things that may upset others, etc..

I expect them to be human beings with frailties, egos, problems, imperfections.



Yes! This is exactly the point I was getting at.


Sometimes, typing speed has nothing to do with it.  You luck into those situations where someone has saved you the keystrokes.


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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 5:48:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Trust comes from having a sufficient history with the other person, seeing that they do what they promised, that their word is their bond. It is earned in increments.

Does he show up for the first meet 20 minutes late with no phone call? No trust earned.
Does he get there a few minutes ahead so as to be where he said he would be? Small amount of trust earned.
Does he call when he says he will? More trust earned. And so on.

You prove yourself trustworthy by keeping your word. It really is that simple.

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:20:58 PM   
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I'm hoping it is possible to eliminate the getting pissed;


a full frontal lobotomy may help


I would think that would hinder the "getting going" part of my plan.

Kim

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:21:58 PM   
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I'm hoping it is possible to eliminate the getting pissed;


a full frontal lobotomy may help


I would think that would hinder the "getting going" part of my plan.

Kim


have someone push your wheelchair or wheelbarrow if that's your kink

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:24:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cpK69


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ORIGINAL: osf

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I'm hoping it is possible to eliminate the getting pissed;


a full frontal lobotomy may help


I would think that would hinder the "getting going" part of my plan.

Kim


have someone push your wheelchair or wheelbarrow if that's your kink


I don't have kinks.

I'm not finding your suggestions very helpful; thanks anyway.

Kim


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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:26:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

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ORIGINAL: cpK69


quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

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I'm hoping it is possible to eliminate the getting pissed;


a full frontal lobotomy may help


I would think that would hinder the "getting going" part of my plan.

Kim


have someone push your wheelchair or wheelbarrow if that's your kink


I don't have kinks.

I'm not finding your suggestions very helpful; thanks anyway.

Kim



maybe after the operation you will, hey, you could be a doormat

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:30:44 PM   
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maybe after the operation you will, hey, you could be a doormat


Perhaps I wasn't clear; no operation.

I enjoy being an exotic pet; why would I want to trade it for being a piece of flooring?

Kim


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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:33:46 PM   
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maybe after the operation you will, hey, you could be a doormat


Perhaps I wasn't clear; no operation.

I enjoy being an exotic pet; why would I want to trade it for being a piece of flooring?

Kim



it's my fantasy, don't ruin it

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:38:41 PM   
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it's my fantasy, don't ruin it


I can't consent to that.

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:39:43 PM   
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it's my fantasy, don't ruin it


I can't consent to that.

KIm


can't you lie to me?

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:41:11 PM   
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can't you lie to me?


And forget myself? I think not.

Kim

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:43:59 PM   
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can't you lie to me?


And forget myself? I think not.

Kim


your being difficult a very unsubmissive trait

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:57:18 PM   
cpK69


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your being difficult a very unsubmissive trait


I never claimed to be Burger King.

Kim

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 7:59:35 PM   
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your being difficult a very unsubmissive trait


I never claimed to be Burger King.

Kim


how about a burger queen?

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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 8:10:38 PM   
cpK69


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how about a burger queen?


I am doubtful that ruling over burgers would hold my interest.

Kim


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RE: why do we trust - 12/22/2009 8:12:24 PM   
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how about a burger queen?


I am doubtful that ruling over burgers would hold my interest.

Kim



there's also the salad bar

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