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MMagic -> RE: Married People and the Lifestyle (12/27/2009 6:56:13 PM)
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<cracks knuckles>
I've said this often since coming here. I find it a little funny sometimes to hear people here get on a moral high horse about what THEY Think is right when if we were all standing before certain other fundamentalist groups, they'd shoot us both for being in this lifestyle. They'd shoot the gay guy or girl next to me, the arab next to them and so on.
First things first OP, while I completely respect (and even understand) your point of view, I must point out one thing. It's YOUR point of view. Same as some people here like to pee on other peoples feet and some don't. It's your perspective and sorry but to pass judgement (and that's how it's coming across) is just as bad as accusing people of being morally bankrupt.
You also have to keep in mind you have absolutely NO IDEA what's taking place in some people's homes here. One poster mentioned a wife marrying a husband who's vanilla, and coming here to find someone to teach her husband how to dominate her. I am one of those women and as the poster said, I DID NOT marry someone in a vanilla kink sense. I had no idea what BDSM was before a year ago nor what *I* was. I figured it out, and yes was secretive until I understood it because of how MY husband is. He don't get it, unless it's explained. That simple. Did I need to tell YOU that so that you can understand who MY life works. No. But you have taken it upon yourself to interject your opinion into things you may not know about. As do several others here. If you have been lucky enough to have a straight and narrow life and get exactly what you want and get it all right the first time. Ye Gods you're a lucky person, thank whatever entity you believe or don't believe in for the lack of confusion in your own life. But I must stress to you and others, (and I use this phrase a lot, it's from that show Good Times and I think it's pretty damned profound) How you gone know where I'm at, when you haven't been where I've been...understand where I'm coming from?
I'm not telling you anyone who cheats is all good, I'm not telling you every man or woman that comes here should be pardoned for doing right or wrong. I'm saying, how can you say your way is right and if you're dong this then..you're wrong and if you're doing this..you're wrong, without seeing the whole picture? And I'll assume you're christian because of your signature at the end of your post. So I'll go there in this instance. If you believe the passage in the Bible that says Judge not, lest ye be judged...do you understand why it's so? Because assuming there is a god, he/she can already see everything, already KNOWS everything. You as a regular ole human can't see and know everything and to make a snap judgement just based on what you THINK you know...well that gets us all in trouble don't it? Just ask George Bush..Weapons of Mass Destruction anyone?
As beajez said..it's all subjective. I just hope that by coming here it keeps some people from doing something stupid to hurt themselves or someone else physically. Happy people tend to not do those things. Unhappy people physically hurt other people. Just my two cents.
And PS, my husband has now said, look I don't get this, so tell you what, do what you need to be happy and I don't wanna know the rest. Be safe. Yes honesty does work, but not always...not for everyone.
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