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A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 11:32:27 AM

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Well, as I've said before I'm a bit of a newbie at this, and my Master is far more experienced than I, so there have been lots of new frontiers for me since we began our relationship. Just before He left for holiday though, we discovered a new one together which left us both very excited. I wanted to share it with you all, to see if others did similar things.

Master and I were laying in bed together (shocking I know) and He instructed me to lay on my side and face away from Him. I was not to speak, or move. He proceeded to talk to me and touch me in ways He never did before. He would physically move my body, and I was instructed to not resist or volunteer, just stay limp and not look at Him. He talked to me about His feelings, my body, my heart, etc. It was not a conversation, I just absorbed all He shared.

This was such a departure from our usual way of doing things. Normally we are EXTREMELY connected with each other, verbally, eye contact, physically. He commands me to move, I obey. He talks to me, I respond immediately, comments, questions etc. It seemed to evoke a whole other side for us both, I felt objectified and controlled in a way I never had before, and even after He gave me permission to speak again, I found my thoughts to be smaller, calmer. I think more than anything physically we have shared, this activity put me into what people call "subspace".

I don't even know what to call it, or if I need to call it anything really. I had just never heard of this before, and He had never done it before, it was just an outgrowth of our bond. He has in the past done guided meditations for me, and it was similar to that, but more directly dominance oriented.

This has been such an incredible journey of self discovery and exploration, it never ceases to amaze me how at every turn, things move deeper and desire and submission broaden and grow more beautiful within this loving relationship.

Thoughts? Experiences? Please share, I love to read....

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 12:37:30 PM

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Thoughts? Experiences? Please share, I love to read....

Actually, getting to know someone prior to meeting, where you frequently talk on the phone has a similar effect. You build that "bond" because that's all you have at the moment.

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 12:41:12 PM

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I think what you felt is the bond between you and your D.
For outsiders it is hard to judge about that intimate moment.

PErhaps with a few pictures...we can judge better

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 12:43:55 PM

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For me the phone is awkward and weird, I much prefer feeling the energy in person, it's good it works that way for some though!

D, LOL I don't have stills, just a movie, will that suffice?

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 12:47:28 PM

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Will ask the jury :P

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 1:25:37 PM

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- youre post made me smile - thats it really, nothing much to say otherwise.

cept i think that when those times come along when all youre doing is listening to their voice and their intent on something and you just click into the moment and pay attention but passively youre tuning into their rhythem and you kinda fade out. it is a sort of mediation i think, youre focused on something beyond youreself, the brain goes into beta and you float away.

anyway sounds lovely

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 2:33:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

Well, as I've said before I'm a bit of a newbie at this, and my Master is far more experienced than I, so there have been lots of new frontiers for me since we began our relationship. Just before He left for holiday though, we discovered a new one together which left us both very excited. I wanted to share it with you all, to see if others did similar things.

Master and I were laying in bed together (shocking I know) and He instructed me to lay on my side and face away from Him. I was not to speak, or move. He proceeded to talk to me and touch me in ways He never did before. He would physically move my body, and I was instructed to not resist or volunteer, just stay limp and not look at Him. He talked to me about His feelings, my body, my heart, etc. It was not a conversation, I just absorbed all He shared.

This was such a departure from our usual way of doing things. Normally we are EXTREMELY connected with each other, verbally, eye contact, physically. He commands me to move, I obey. He talks to me, I respond immediately, comments, questions etc. It seemed to evoke a whole other side for us both, I felt objectified and controlled in a way I never had before, and even after He gave me permission to speak again, I found my thoughts to be smaller, calmer. I think more than anything physically we have shared, this activity put me into what people call "subspace".

I don't even know what to call it, or if I need to call it anything really. I had just never heard of this before, and He had never done it before, it was just an outgrowth of our bond. He has in the past done guided meditations for me, and it was similar to that, but more directly dominance oriented.

This has been such an incredible journey of self discovery and exploration, it never ceases to amaze me how at every turn, things move deeper and desire and submission broaden and grow more beautiful within this loving relationship.

Thoughts? Experiences? Please share, I love to read....

It sounds like a lovely experience.....You are very fortunate.

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 2:41:47 PM

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- youre post made me smile - thats it really, nothing much to say otherwise.

Thank you, I admit I am sometimes not the greatest conversation starter but I read so much that is negative, or people instigating arguments, I want to bring some positive things to the boards.

I've gotten a lot of great advice and support from the CM community, and I'm blessed with much love in my life and fulfillment, I guess I want to spread it around a little, and if me sharing my experiences a little brings a smile to the face of even one person, I've done some good.

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cept i think that when those times come along when all youre doing is listening to their voice and their intent on something and you just click into the moment and pay attention but passively youre tuning into their rhythem and you kinda fade out. it is a sort of mediation i think, youre focused on something beyond youreself, the brain goes into beta and you float away.

that is exactly how it felt Lally, thank you for summing it up so eloquently! :)

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 2:43:10 PM

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It sounds like a lovely experience.....You are very fortunate.

Thank you Candy, I am very blessed indeed :)

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 4:23:07 PM

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For me the phone is awkward and weird, I much prefer feeling the energy in person, it's good it works that way for some though!

Sometimes you don't have a choice.....

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 4:25:55 PM

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I know windchymes, Master is visiting family this week, and it's all I have at the moment too. I just have trouble without the physical cues in having a conversation, I prefer in person or text to talking on the phone, sometimes even with Him, as I get flustered and confused!

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 4:43:08 PM

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For me the phone is awkward and weird, I much prefer feeling the energy in person, it's good it works that way for some though!

Sometimes you don't have a choice.....

*holding your hand tight, because i understand*

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RE: A new frontier of kinkery for us - 12/23/2009 4:44:47 PM

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It sounds like a lovely experience.....You are very fortunate.

Thank you Candy, I am very blessed indeed :)

my pleasure, i wish for you continued happiness and fulfillment.

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