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RE: Scenes that are not sexual? - 9/6/2004 3:26:54 PM

wetrope

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My scenes are always non sexual for me, but my sub (s), have always been wet, always wanted to cum, begging, but as part of the play they are many times aroused, sometimes with toys sometimes with fingers, sometimes I just let her arouse herself, but a sub has to do something special for me to let her experience a real cum, or to let them arouse me. I guess it is a little teasing, but it is the control that dom's crave and the sexual satisfaction of the sub is alwys in his hands.

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RE: Scenes that are not sexual? - 9/6/2004 5:13:40 PM

SherriA

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ORIGINAL: subbiejenn
It is good to know these jealousy feelings will go away once i get more settled in my relationship with Him and settled in the lifestyle...

They won't necessarily go away. They don't for everyone. Some people just aren't wired to share their partners in any kind of intimate way, and there's nothing wrong with that. If, as your relationship progresses, you find that you're still feeling jealous/uncertain/insecure regarding bringing other people into your play, then make that clear to your partner.

Ultimately, you need to find someone who has the same needs/wants in this regard as you do (but first you need to find out where you stand personally on the issue!)

Don't let anyone pressure you into thinking that you MUST include other people in your play, or you're not "trusting" enough. Especially if BDSM is always inherently sexual for you, you may NEVER feel good about adding others to your play, and that's ok. If it doesn't work for you, then it doesn't work for you, and that's ok too.

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RE: Scenes that are not sexual? - 9/7/2004 1:13:44 PM

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My Dom friend is wonderful about that, W/we talk a lot on my feelings and He wouldn't pressure me or make me do anything i am not comfortable with. i have been bi-curious for a long time and have been talking to a girl online in which i plan to meet and explore that with someday soon. The subject come up when I was talking to my Dom about it and He thinks it is a great idea to explore more but then W/we talked about later doing it with Him included. It is something He has done previously with His subs before but once i told Him of my feelings on it He said right away that it is nothing that He has to have. It was more less something for me to think about...

When i have thought about my first bi experience i have always thought of it with a Dom being involved. When i talked to Him about this other sub coming over alone, i wasn't sure if it was something i wanted to do one on one rather then with a Dom being present. i am really comfortable online with this sub and we have been talking for about a year online. My Dom friend and i are still at the early stage of O/our relationship but my emotional feelings for Him are so strong and until Him thinking of playing with previous Dom friends and making it a 3some never bothered me. i wanted another girl to join in scenes i have been in. i do not see any other Doms now, just the one and right now not sure if i could handle having another female sharing a scene with U/us.

i feel like E/everyone else is so much more open then i am when it comes to this. When i think of the lifestyle, i think it is what E/everyone does. I know W/we all have O/our kinks, likes and dislikes. i felt completely differently until i developed feelings for a Dom other then just feelings submissive. I never thought I would have a problem with this until now. Jealousy isn’t a easy feeling to overcome…

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