Ending relationships, what were your reasons?

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gorlove -> Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 9:09:00 AM)
Hi, seems the majority on here have a few bad stories, and i am not looking for anyone to give me a detailed account, just a quick answer, like things got old, things weren't the way they were promised, turned out He/She/Them were liars or way too sick, or what. My reasons, people lie about who they are, what they want, the way things will be and it gets to the point it's intolerable. So, subs, slaves, former poly parnters, anyone who was in anytype of submissive role in a relationship, why did it end? Thanks!

breatheasone -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 9:17:07 AM)
All of the things you mentioned don't HAVE TO end a relationship, although i realize one, or all of those most likely would. i ended a relationship with a D-type, He and i had talked about, and agreed to, a "one on one" relationship. It was crystal clear i didn't want to share, or be shared. Apparently he thought i had said "one at a time" LOL....He wanted to play the field....so i left him to it.... This was 3 years ago easy, and he STILL pings me every few months to see if i'll respond LOL.

ErikaTate1 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 9:36:53 AM)
Ending a relationship..... Hmmm... as is said 'It's complicated!' We enter into a special place with another. We have hopes! Ideas?! Wants! Needs!! Desires! We try to communicate and enter into anothers life - assuming you want to be close.... Sometimes, words get in the way. Then there are actions.... and sometimes, they're not experienced in the same way, on the same plain! Did both Partners want the same thing, in the same way? When that fit isn't exact, are those involved willing to bend/accommodate? How much do those present want to make a 'relationship' work?! How patient are they to persevere? How devoted?? How forgiving? Does the Domina make the all the decisions in this? Or does a submissive retain an exit clause?! Since hindsight is one hundred percent, I can only smile knowingly..... waiting patiently..... looking forward to what will be.

Missokyst -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 10:28:22 AM)
I ended mine because as long as I was with him he could avoid the issues that had to be faced. I left him for his benefit not mine. Things worked out for him once I was no longer the crutch. I don't regret my action even though things did not work out as well for me. Hmm.. this is the second time I have pulled the plug on a relationship for someone else's benefit. Most other endings just fizzled out so gradually there was barely a ripple.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 10:29:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorlove anyone who was in anytype of submissive role in a relationship, why did it end? I would still be with my last Sir, if He hadn't died. BUT, I did have one relationship end abruptly when He dumped me for my religion. After quite awhile the subject came up and, oh well.

sexyred1 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 10:38:43 AM)
I ended a long term relationship this year for a complex, but in the end, simple reason: The pain of being with him outweighed the pleasure of being with him. It was a case of being in love with someone who was not good for you, on both our parts. We just spent too much time trying to justify our relationship, when clearly it was not good for either of us.

osf -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 11:44:16 AM)
habitual willful disobedience would be a reason

slavekal -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 11:53:39 AM)
Last time I really got dumped was ten years ago. She turned thirty and wanted kids. I had a vasectomy in 1995, and I wouldn't even consider reversing it. She was a fantastic domme, but I did not want to be a father.

gorlove -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:04:04 PM)
i was interested in answers from subs/slaves

Aileen1968 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:05:47 PM)
It ended because he was a dickhead.

Justme696 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:06:08 PM)
he is

sunshinemiss -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:07:07 PM)
You don't get to dictate who answers your posts, gorlove... And if you love gor so much why aren't you asking this over on the Gorean forum? See that, I don't get to dictate where you post your question. [:D] I would think that people end relationships. Sometimes they are kink related but I am betting that usually they are the same as vanilla folks.

hlen5 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:11:47 PM)
Slavekal was speaking from the sub's perspective. I ended a relationship due to a lack of communication between the two of us. I tried to speak of my feelings but there never seemed to be enough time. I got tired of thinking "next time, we'll get this ironed out". Next time never came. I ended up feeling like his weekend ho.

lally2 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:24:11 PM)
um D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses D#2 - he was domineering not dominant D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)

LaTigresse -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:45:12 PM)
I would say that aside from the one death........it's always been a case of unrealistic expectations for them. So I took my expectations elsewhere.

osf -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 12:46:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 um D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses D#2 - he was domineering not dominant D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet) so suffering has it's limits?

DesFIP -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 2:01:08 PM)
He was, and is, a poor father. Mother trumps submissive every day.

lally2 -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 2:06:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 um D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses D#2 - he was domineering not dominant D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet) so suffering has it's limits? everyone has limits

breatheasone -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 2:13:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 um D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses D#2 - he was domineering not dominant D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet) so suffering has it's limits? everyone has limits Man, is this the truth!

osf -> RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? (12/28/2009 2:18:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 um D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses D#2 - he was domineering not dominant D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet) so suffering has it's limits? everyone has limits lolololol

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