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SissyChrissy2 -> When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:49:21 PM)
Curtseys to you all, I'm just looking for a little advice. From February to September this year i was emailing a Domme on a daily basis and she pushed my boundaries massively. I now sleep with a butt plug in , have undergone long periods (47 days max) in chastity, gone to a fetish shop and worn womens clothes out in front of the whole shop and even masturbated in a wooded area, all on her command, yet after returning from holiday in October i have only heard from her only once asking if i've missed her. It has now been over two months since i've heard anything. I would think she has had her fun and left me but she hasn't even been on the site and the last time she was she asked if i missed her. Should i move on or is this a test? How long do i wait until i do move on? Curtseys, sissy chrissy

mnottertail -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:51:22 PM)
what do you want, what does she want, try to communicate with her, if she isn't all that into you, just wanted to toy around.........well there you have it, non? Ron(ne)

MistressEllen444 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:55:41 PM)
Do you have an agreement with her as to your "relationship" status? Were you just playing? Do you believe that you are an item or connected more than email play? Did you ever meet in person? Does "moving on" mean you cannot ever speak to her again if she shows up again? These are questions normally reserved for a 13 year old who has had their first crush end.

MistressEllen444 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:56:49 PM)
Oops, just don't have this reply stuff down, my post above was for OP not mnottertail as it states automatically when I posted

domiguy -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:59:27 PM)
I would think that many dommes would give up on you at about the same time that your atm account is empty.

AAkasha -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 1:59:57 PM)
Call her on the phone? If you never spoke to her verbally, are you sure she is really a "she"? Akasha

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:01:56 PM)
By move on i mean get involved with another Domme. You see as a sub it is very difficult to have more than one Mistress, as their commands / tasks would likely clash. For example one may order chastity whilst the other does not.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:02:58 PM)
In 7 months i was never asked for anything other than my obedience. Which i always gave.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:04:22 PM)
Yeah i thought about that. Perhaps she is a guy. Hope not.

Lockit -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:06:33 PM)
I would say you have been abandoned and you can freely move on. I mean, really... no dominant leaves for two months with no contact. I would have given up on that within a week if that. Respect isn't just a one way street.

DrkJourney -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:12:09 PM)
If you've done nothing but exchange emails "she" might be a group of guys playing around, they might be on winter break now. How long was your holiday? and how did you answer her when she asked if you missed her? If it was long she might have just moved on. Maybe your answer ticked her off. If she hasn't returned to the site since you sent your last email, maybe she had a death in the family or something else in life happened where coming back to this site is the last thing on her mind, especially if you had nothing more with her than she tells you to do something in emails and you supposedly go and do it. There are millions of reasons....that's the chance you take when you have just an internet relationship with someone. Since the loss of this kind of arrangement seems to be upsetting you, maybe the next time you might want to shoot for a deeper kind of relationship. sorry to hear of your troubles, but maybe the new year will be better.

DrkJourney -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:14:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 By move on i mean get involved with another Domme. You see as a sub it is very difficult to have more than one Mistress, as their commands / tasks would likely clash. For example one may order chastity whilst the other does not. But if she hasn't contacted you in two months, how can you say that she is still your Domme. You are free to find another

domiguy -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:15:48 PM)
You do look quite stunning in that lil' blue number....Those Dommes can be such buzzkills. I would have never kicked you to the curb. Come to Domiguy.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 2:21:03 PM)
Thank you

SomethingCatchy -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 4:22:43 PM)
Ok, I have to ask. Where does someone buy a dress like the blue one? It's cute, and I want one.

LadyPact -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/28/2009 5:05:24 PM)
Really good answers on this thread. I'm with those who have said that I'd be wondering if you really were dealing with a female in the first place, if you've never heard her voice or met in person. That's quite a long time to not even warrant a phone call. If you haven't heard anything from this person over the course of two months, move on. The other person obviously has.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/29/2009 2:16:20 PM)
It was from a fancy dress website. Called joker believe

ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/29/2009 7:15:21 PM)
What is it you want from this? You don't mention that. Do you want to continue contact with her? I just noticed, you don't say. If you don't, then write her an e-mail and tell her you're wondering how she's doing. Who knows what could be going on in her world? Tell her what the time you spent getting to know her meant to you (I hear chicks dig that). If you do want to continue with her, ask her if she's interested in maintaining contact. That's about all you can do, and one way or another you'll wind up knowing exactly where things stand. Either way, good luck to you.

UniqueRaven -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/29/2009 7:50:40 PM)
Honestly i'm with DrkJourney when she says something might have happened - she may have had a death in the family, an accident, her cat might have spontaneously combusted, who knows. Honestly, if you'd like to have closure you really should just message her and inquire about her status, and express your desire to keep serving her, as other have said. If she doesn't respond, you have your answer. If she does, then you definitely have your answer. Clarity and honesty are good qualities in a slave. If she rebuts you for seeking the information you need, it is time to serve another, and know that you did your absolute best until the end. [:)]

osf -> RE: When to give up on someone? (12/29/2009 9:54:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 Curtseys to you all, I'm just looking for a little advice. From February to September this year i was emailing a Domme on a daily basis and she pushed my boundaries massively. I now sleep with a butt plug in , have undergone long periods (47 days max) in chastity, gone to a fetish shop and worn womens clothes out in front of the whole shop and even masturbated in a wooded area, all on her command, yet after returning from holiday in October i have only heard from her only once asking if i've missed her. It has now been over two months since i've heard anything. I would think she has had her fun and left me but she hasn't even been on the site and the last time she was she asked if i missed her. Should i move on or is this a test? How long do i wait until i do move on? Curtseys, sissy chrissy and all this online? have you learned anything?

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