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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:11:34 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: osf

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What word did I zero in on?


new

Ok, let's take this one step at a time. You wrote:

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You got this brand new pornographic women toy, and she’s willing to make you most dirty erotic fantasy, you know the one that has been developing in you head for ever so long,

now is your big chance to make it reality, you put in a lot of effort to arrange it and the big moment arrives and lo and behold the bitch does it to perfection, couldn’t have gone better.

Now it’s the next day and you’re having second thoughts about what happened and her, now neither seem so desirable anymore.

Now what?

Didn’t think of that did you


Now, you ask us not to concentrate on the word NEW, but you are the one who stated NEW.

Next, why would you have second thoughts if it all went so well?

Are you saying in a roundabout way be careful what you wish for you because once you get it, it is no longer desirable or are you saying that the realization of the fantasy is nowhere close to how fabulous it was in your head?

Why would the woman not be desirable to you simply because she performed to perfection? Do you need someone to blame for your own fantasy gone awry?

Clarify if you will.

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:13:11 AM   
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Now, you ask us not to concentrate on the word NEW, but you are the one who stated NEW.

Next, why would you have second thoughts if it all went so well?

Are you saying in a roundabout way be careful what you wish for you because once you get it, it is no longer desirable or are you saying that the realization of the fantasy is nowhere close to how fabulous it was in your head?

Why would the woman not be desirable to you simply because she performed to perfection? Do you need someone to blame for your own fantasy gone awry?

Clarify if you will.


never mind

you didn't get my meaning

we'll just let it go at that

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:18:49 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		osf, you are a total pisser, truly.

you try to stir shit up and when questioned on clarity you turn into a petulant child.

keep on with your bad self, it is really amusing.

if you cannot participate in debate, then don't start one.

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:23:32 AM   
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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:24:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		it's about wanting something then finding out, it's not what you thought
now you have that on your mind plus the vision of her doing it and self loathing affecting her and your relationship

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:25:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I have not made any judgement, I only judged the posts. I cannot judge you, since I do not know you. Typing has nothing to do with it.

The judgement i pas is that journal of OSF is just to long and vinded to read. Tried to, but skimmed over the most. I can only agree with Sexyred that reading the postings give a much broader wiev of the other posters.
But nothing is better than trying to live with a person for some time. It gives a total different perspective on what you read here. I have tried it a few times and the success rate has been very low to say the least. Ok that was from other sites than CM, but i doubt that makes a difference.

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:27:54 AM   
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it's about wanting something then finding out, it's not what you thought
now you have that on your mind plus the vision of her doing it and self loathing affecting her and your relationship


DAMN, osf.  That must have been one HELLUVA party. 

Maybe you need to go back to the basics;  start out with little baby steps, and just avoid the deep end of extreme all together?

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:28:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: rockspider

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I have not made any judgement, I only judged the posts. I cannot judge you, since I do not know you. Typing has nothing to do with it.

The judgement i pas is that journal of OSF is just to long and vinded to read. Tried to, but skimmed over the most. I can only agree with Sexyred that reading the postings give a much broader wiev of the other posters.
But nothing is better than trying to live with a person for some time. It gives a total different perspective on what you read here. I have tried it a few times and the success rate has been very low to say the least. Ok that was from other sites than CM, but i doubt that makes a difference.


but many say it's a good read and a couple have said so in the threads

so, some like it, some don't, at worst it's a wash

i didn't try to write for every body, i didn't think it would be a best seller

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:28:04 AM   
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it's about wanting something then finding out, it's not what you thought
now you have that on your mind plus the vision of her doing it and self loathing affecting her and your relationship


Isn't that exactly what I said in other words??

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:28:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

it's about wanting something then finding out, it's not what you thought
now you have that on your mind plus the vision of her doing it and self loathing affecting her and your relationship



It's the self loathing part I don't get.  I have done things I wish I had not, but I have never experienced self loathing.

I would not want to be with someone who does.


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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:30:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: osf

it's about wanting something then finding out, it's not what you thought
now you have that on your mind plus the vision of her doing it and self loathing affecting her and your relationship



It's the self loathing part I don't get.  I have done things I wish I had not, but I have never experienced self loathing.

I would not want to be with someone who does.


Jeff



but jeff your a really nice person

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:36:22 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		If you loathe yourself for wanting/doing something, you should refrain from acting upon it until you are more in tune with why you are so self loathing.

I cannot possibly relate to such a thing. I have never experienced self loathing either.

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:42:23 AM   
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but jeff your a really nice person



Kinda depends on who you ask. I am not for everyone...:)



Jeffwey

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:42:46 AM   
osf


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If you loathe yourself for wanting/doing something, you should refrain from acting upon it until you are more in tune with why you are so self loathing.

I cannot possibly relate to such a thing. I have never experienced self loathing either.


it it is an admonition to doms to think first about what they think they want

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:46:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

If you loathe yourself for wanting/doing something, you should refrain from acting upon it until you are more in tune with why you are so self loathing.

I cannot possibly relate to such a thing. I have never experienced self loathing either.


it it is an admonition to doms to think first about what they think they want


Seriously?   Did I miss out on the event where dominants went out and just clubbed their desired victims and dragged them away by their hair to be used and abused?

Damn, I miss out on all the fun...

But, I still don't get where self-loathing comes into play.  Did one Dominant use a bigger club than yours? 


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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:48:40 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: osf
but jeff your a really nice person



Kinda depends on who you ask. I am not for everyone...:)



Jeffwey


i wanna be the universal dom, like a travel iron

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:51:36 AM   
osf


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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 7:57:37 AM   
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Seriously?   Did I miss out on the event where dominants went out and just clubbed their desired victims and dragged them away by their hair to be used and abused?

Damn, I miss out on all the fun...

But, I still don't get where self-loathing comes into play.  Did one Dominant use a bigger club than yours? 


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Well Winsome i could do that to you. Just wonder what you would look like when i have dragged you the 6535 km back to my lair

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 8:00:07 AM   
osf


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But, I still don't get where self-loathing comes into play


it's complicated so complicated, i don't understand it all, sorta like relativity

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RE: the romance v the reality of d/s - 12/31/2009 8:00:41 AM   
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