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RE: poly slaves - 1/3/2010 10:10:12 PM

lilsub83

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in response to your comment, yes i will have the option to play with others with His permission. but unlike what some assume he only would have 1 or 2 others to play with so its not as if he will be able to just screw whoever he wants...

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RE: poly slaves - 1/3/2010 10:49:16 PM

kikkikat

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so why would the standards in your upbringing automatically become part of your slave life?

Because, while we are changing who we are . . we still are molded by who we were. Your history is a part of what makes/ molds you.

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RE: poly slaves - 1/3/2010 10:55:34 PM

MargueriteV

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((I couldn't answer fully without the info in your new post.))
Well you can think of the benefits of a poly relationship, you could think of this as an awesome oppuortnutiy to learn about a lifestlye, you'll have a new community to relate to. If there is a kink your master likes but you can't do he'll still have his needs met, If there is something you want to explore that is a hard limit for him you have an opportunity to try it still.

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RE: poly slaves - 1/4/2010 7:44:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: InControl754

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ORIGINAL: lilsub83
... i want to work past my raising to be all that he deserves. Is there any way or view that my help?

You hit the nail on the head when you noticed that your views are due to the way you were raised.
It does take some time, but if you take an objective view and rationally look at the situation, a poly family is most likely how the human race survived thousands of years ago. Pooling resources and sharing a loving bond with many in an intimate setting is the ultimate fulfillment in many people's opinion.

Those who cling to their religious upbringing tend to disagree, but they are only blindly following their upbringing without a pros and cons list (Now, I can't say this applies to all of them, and I can't speak for them...but I would bet on it) .

Best of luck in your journey. Remember, question everything (even my advice) and set your own moral compass - don't let others set your moral compass for you.

Actually, I'm going to disagree. Even, situations where religion demands polygamy it rarely works well. Sniping and back biting within Brigham Young's wives has been well documented.

In my opinion it's more about the psyche of the people involved and how they approach it. Situations where communication, decisions and actions are not fully disclosed lead to jealousy and thoughts of conspiracy. In order for a poly situation to work everyone within it needs to feel secure in their position.

And bottom line, poly works for some people and for others it will never work.

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RE: poly slaves - 1/4/2010 10:11:52 AM

LafayetteLady

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I hope you didn't take offense by the question. However, if you search the boards you will find that very often the situation I described occurs and the sub/slave ends up confused and hurt.

Wanting to learn something is never a bad thing, but you might find that over time it isn't something that you want to accept either. That's ok too. As Osidegirl said, it works for some, and for others it won't.

Figuring out if it will work for you doesn't depend simply on learning to "overcome" your upbringing. You obviously already must have some issues with this or you wouldn't be asking the question. So what are the "issues" you feel you need to overcome? Jealousy, insecurity? Those are not issues you will overcome by yourself. Your master will have to work with you to make sure you have no reason to feel jealous or insecure.

I wish you luck.

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RE: poly slaves - 1/4/2010 4:43:48 PM

trueshadow

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It takes openness and a lot of self-analysis to fully embrace a poly situation. However, it is doable, even for those of us raised in a monogamous families. It's really an extension of the idea that one can love more than one at once, which is a common situation for many of us.

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