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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 4:56:33 AM   
AquaticSub


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Depends. How are they approaching me?

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 8:04:08 AM   
AnimusRex


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Depends. How are they approaching me?


In my case, it would be downwind, from behind, with the sun at my back. I would have a net in one hand, a taser in the other.

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 11:06:39 AM   
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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 11:24:50 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Emails need to indicate that they have read my profile - else how could they possibly know that we may be in the least compatible. They need to be polite, informative, maybe funny, and show some intelligence. All else is gravy.

I tend to think that anyone who hasn't read my profile is sending out cut-'n-paste mail, which is an automatic no-no.

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 11:50:40 AM   
Dominasola


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12


I tend to think that anyone who hasn't read my profile is sending out cut-'n-paste mail, which is an automatic no-no.


And some messages are very CLEARLY cut and paste.  On more than one occasion have I received a message from someone to which I politely decline, but discover a few weeks later the very same message in my inbox again...

ETA:  I try to be as respectful and polite to anyone who contacts me, but spamming identical messages in one week intervals won't generally elicit a positive reply from me.

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 12:11:32 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		To the OP,common sense would say what many have stated, that they would respond appropos to the way they were approached..How do you think you should be responded to? Did you think the response is any different than in life in general?..Tempting

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 12:40:37 PM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: Dominasola

And some messages are very CLEARLY cut and paste. On more than one occasion have I received a message from someone to which I politely decline, but discover a few weeks later the very same message in my inbox again...

ETA: I try to be as respectful and polite to anyone who contacts me, but spamming identical messages in one week intervals won't generally elicit a positive reply from me.

I got the same 3 paragraph long email from someone 4 times in a two week period. It said that he wanted to take of me (the guy doesn't know me at all) and also detailed all the things he wanted to do to me sexually. I was polite at first and just kept saying no but I finally asked him if he was delusional and couldn't remember sending it to me the other times. I mean you can check to see who you contact in your sent mail...if you're looking for someone to sub to you don't you think you'd want to look as though you knew what you were doing?

Another person sent me a (very long) cut and paste message with his personal take on D/s in very lofty, flowery terms. I politely said no thanks and fyi, cut and paste isn't the way to go for finding a potential partner. He replied that he wanted to put out his philosophy right away so there could be some discussion about it.

Sigh...I tried but he really didn't get my point which was that if you're trying to get to know someone try something short and personal to see if there's anything there to start with. The sharing of ideals and potential activities comes later. I understand that you don't want to wait too long before figuring out if you match with someone else on basic relationship needs but it might be better to say hi and let me know a few things about you first and then discuss the rest if we get that far. Put the philosophy in your profile or journal.

*Edited for spelling

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 1:06:22 PM   
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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 1:59:18 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If you are a male dom, approaching female subs then it is suggested you act in the exact same manner you would if at a party and saw someone you would like to know. Would you go up to someone and tell them to bend over so you could give it to them in the ass? No, you would introduce yourself and tell them what about them attracted you.

In this case is there something in the profile that interests you? Some commonality? If there's a picture of her dog catching a frisbee and you have fond memories of a dog that loved to play fetch, you should comment on that.

If there are any restrictions about who she wishes to enter into a relationship with, then don't approach. Meaning if you're 52 and she says nobody above 35, believe it. Same for distance, same for commonalities of play.

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 3:07:11 PM   
allthatjaz


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ORIGINAL: hrdmn

How do you respond when aproached by a dom male all types


It depends how he approaches me. If its for a friendly introduction then I am always polite but if its a come on then I tell him to get on his fucking knees and apologize.

P.S. To the naughty boy that tried to whip me away from right under my mans nose on NYE (you know who you are!) I just wanted to say that you got away lightly

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 3:20:45 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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Depends. How are they approaching me?


In my case, it would be downwind, from behind, with the sun at my back. I would have a net in one hand, a taser in the other.


You say such sweet, sweet things. Ditch the taser and make it a Star Trek phaser set to stun and I can work with this...

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It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 5:11:40 PM   
AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
You say such sweet, sweet things. Ditch the taser and make it a Star Trek phaser set to stun and I can work with this...



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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 5:14:55 PM   
AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
You say such sweet, sweet things. Ditch the taser and make it a Star Trek phaser set to stun and I can work with this...


I have no idea what you mean.




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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 5:18:23 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		In the beginning I tried to answer all my mail but after time I found it too time consuming and not sincere. I mean no disrespect by not answering each and every email I get like I used to.

The ones that are copy/paste that arrive like a monthly bill, I delete and then block so I dont need to get it again. It is funny how some of them come off so sincere but it is a form letter so not personal just more of a hook.



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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 5:57:40 PM   
AquaticSub


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I need that outfit... Looks like I just need some spirit gum and tinfoil...

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 5:59:17 PM   
UniqueRaven


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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 6:01:25 PM   
EbonyWood


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Why is Captain Kirk wearing earrings?


They didn't fit Spock.

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 6:07:18 PM   
UniqueRaven


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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

Why is Captain Kirk wearing earrings?


They didn't fit Spock.


Ohhhhhhhh.........wait.  *blinks*


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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 6:11:23 PM   
LadyChallene


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Status: offline 		Maybe Spock is out of frame with the ever-present phaser? Or holding a spare roll of foil?

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RE: approach - 1/2/2010 6:55:43 PM   
AnimusRex


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Status: offline 		A better question is why is Kirk wearing a collar?




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