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DesFIP -> RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use (1/2/2010 1:54:59 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Doesn't matter how many unpartnered socalled dominants whine about rude subs turning them down, we don't have to kowtow around your massive insecurities because we wouldn't ever submit to you.
I'm not interested in idiots whose first response is to punch somebody. I wouldn't spend my time soothing feathers he ruffled because he has no self control. No self control = no control of others. That's how it works, you must demonstrate your control before you get to try it on us.
So as far as people like me, if we can scare off you terribly insecure types, then that's a blessing. I'm not rude to him because he isn't an idiot. And he has no problem with me being rude to idiots. I submit to one, and none of the online whiners is that one.
Who are you talking about?
There seems to be different standards of what it means to be rude going on in this thread. Several people are talking about "standing up for yourself," and I don't see how that has anything to do with being rude.
In my view, rude is this message here from DesFIP. Because I was talking about people being punched in the face earlier (though the way she is talking about it, she either totally failed to comprehend what I was saying or is intentionally distorting the meaning into a straw man), I get the sense that she's taking a potshot at me. Maybe she is, maybe she isn't. I can't tell because it's all cloaked in this gross, passive-aggressive mealy-mouthed nonsense and she doesn't actually name the person she's attacking.
That is what I call being rude. It's craven, disgusting and extremely unattractive. It paints DesFIP as a person who is fundamentally dishonest and cowardly, hiding behind soft language and weasel words. It's not standing up for yourself, it's not facing down a bully, and it's not a sign of strength or character.
It's just craven bullshit.
Was that you? I remembered a posting saying he hit people in the nose and wanted a sub to clean up after him. I apologise if I misremembered or misinterpreted.
But if you don't do this and were using the example as hyperbole, then why did you get your knickers in a twist if it doesn't apply?
It was an example of a behavior that causes subs to run far away and not submit to the person who acts in this manner. If you don't act in this manner, then calm down as my subsequent posting has nothing to do with you. If you do act in this manner, then I would suggest you dealing with your issues before entering into a relationship as this kind of behavior as a first response is unhealthy.
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