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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/3/2010 11:42:41 AM

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Anyone who is rude, regardless of gender or orientation, is nothing but a rude person and therefore someone that I would not be interested in.

I prefer people who use good manners, a male who is a gentleman and a woman who is a lady are particulary attractive in my view.

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/10/2010 9:10:47 AM

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i dont like rude behavior from anyone. i certainly do not think it to be an attribute when considering a sub. rudeness, ego, arrogance are not things i look for in a sub really.

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/10/2010 10:24:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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do you find rude behavior by submissive women attractive?

If they are talking to you, yes.

That is not a snarky answer. I am much more interested in brains and fire than I am in domme or sub. And I like it when a woman can assess a situation correctly and realize it is time to verbally kick someone's ass.

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/10/2010 11:04:39 AM

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when i find someone i'll not be around much so if you all help out a poor dom, i'll go away lolololololololol

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/12/2010 4:44:03 AM

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If its a submissive being rude to her/his Dom/me then there should be a bloody good reason but if its a submissive being rude to people on here that are just trying to chat to her, well all I can say is, she is not thinking of herself as a submissive to the person she is being rude to. You are nothing to do with her and as such she stands as your equal. She may well still be a rude little bitch but she's not being a rude submissive!

The problem on sites such as this if your a women is that if your a Domme your bamboozled with mail and if your a sub your bamboozled with mail. If your not careful then you start to get whats called 'precious syndrome' and the first symptoms of that are being outwardly rude to people!! The second symptom is to write a profile complaining bitterly about everyone and if you don't get it sorted out then its too late............ you will eventually implode!

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/12/2010 5:45:17 AM

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its got nothing to do with subs or doms really, it boils down to personality.

if someones personality is such that they derive pleasure out of making someone feel embarrassed, uncomfortable or hurt then who wants them as a friend or lover

a girl i know gets laughs from being a bitch. people hang on her wit and smart mouth comments because it sounds clever, but it isnt, its just rude and unpleasant. she plays games with her friends, pushing them away by being a bitch and then pulling them back in, yo yo crappola and they keep buying into it. why? - its school ground bully tactics and she admits that she was.

here i just click 'hide' or i ignore.

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/12/2010 11:41:55 AM

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i have seen and had one sub that would break down in tears before they would insult some one

it's like being unable to hit someone wit a whip, it's just not in them

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/12/2010 2:21:34 PM

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Hmmmmmmm. I note that funny frequently equals rude to those who don't find the funny funny . .. . . .

So. If the 'rudeness' is funny to me but not to those seriously lacking in a sense of humor? No problemo . . . . .

Some 'rudeness' is a matter of some 'objective social metric' & some of it is purely subjective. It becomes the case that the offense is as much in the taking as in the giving, & one has the power to not take offense where it's meant, thus depriving the offender of the desired reaction. Or not . .. .

& since I laugh rather easily at myself & all the other silliness of the universe, it's not like someone poking fun at me is gonna get me too terribly bent. If they're clever I appreciate their insight, even (especially) if it stings some. (I know the stuff that stings is the stuff that has some hold on me; the stuff that doesn't apply usually leaves me indifferent. See how that works?)

&, see, for me a sympatico sense of humor is more important than scads & scads of other characteristics, skills, labels, etc, etc . .. . Think of it as Jessica-Rabbit syndrome -- 'cuz he makes me laugh' . .. . . .

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ORIGINAL: osf

do you find rude behavior by submissive women attractive?

i've heard some say it doesn't matter and the dom that would judge them by their online behavior isn't much of a dom

have any others heard this?

what are you reactions to this?

would you make such a submissive your first choice?

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/13/2010 4:47:04 PM

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Hmmmmmmm. I note that funny frequently equals rude to those who don't find the funny funny . .. . . .

So. If the 'rudeness' is funny to me but not to those seriously lacking in a sense of humor? No problemo . . . . .

Some 'rudeness' is a matter of some 'objective social metric' & some of it is purely subjective. It becomes the case that the offense is as much in the taking as in the giving, & one has the power to not take offense where it's meant, thus depriving the offender of the desired reaction. Or not . .. .

& since I laugh rather easily at myself & all the other silliness of the universe, it's not like someone poking fun at me is gonna get me too terribly bent. If they're clever I appreciate their insight, even (especially) if it stings some. (I know the stuff that stings is the stuff that has some hold on me; the stuff that doesn't apply usually leaves me indifferent. See how that works?)

&, see, for me a sympatico sense of humor is more important than scads & scads of other characteristics, skills, labels, etc, etc . .. . Think of it as Jessica-Rabbit syndrome -- 'cuz he makes me laugh' . .. . . .

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ORIGINAL: osf

do you find rude behavior by submissive women attractive?

i've heard some say it doesn't matter and the dom that would judge them by their online behavior isn't much of a dom

have any others heard this?

what are you reactions to this?

would you make such a submissive your first choice?

i'm not speaking of humor, if it's slightly outside my understanding i'll let remarks directed at me slide

but some i've had were downright vile, not even close to humor

and no someone that acted like that wouldn't even be any where near a list of women that interested me

in fact i like to make them even more polite than when i met them, i think a womans graciousness reflects well on her owner

it seems that even a dominant becomes shall we say more civilized with a good woman, why is that, she whispering orders to him in his sleep?

and i think that also is one of her purposes

how can any man be proud of a shrill shrew

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/13/2010 5:33:06 PM

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But one man's shrill shrew is another man's feisty broad, again, we're left with that this is subjective. It all depends, depends on the people in question . . . . .

& humor is as subjective as offensiveness, in fact the two are interrelated. Ditto humor & rudeness.

For instance, I adore South Park, American Dad!, & Moral Orel, but there's plenty who'd find those programs, individually or en toto, to be rude, offensive, immoral, unethical, a symptom of how we're all goin' to hell in a handbasket, & etc etc etc . . .. . . No biggie, it's yet another compatibility issue.

I get along with most everyone & I don't really care whether people are 'rude' to me or not, mostly. I tend to laugh when people do stuff to irritate, annoy, or otherwise button-push me. It both feels way better than gettin' pissed, worked up, or whathaveyou, & it tends to piss off the would be 'offenders' more than anything else. A win all the way 'round . . ... .

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RE: do other doms consider the words submissives use - 1/13/2010 5:47:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: osf

do you find rude behavior by submissive women attractive?

i've heard some say it doesn't matter and the dom that would judge them by their online behavior isn't much of a dom

have any others heard this?

what are you reactions to this?

would you make such a submissive your first choice?

As others have said... wtf do you find rude, dude?

I would hope that most people only want to be with others they find to have couth and self respect.. what does submissiveness or dominance have to do with desiring politeness in a partner? Or perhaps this is just a conversation starting post.

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