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Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 6:47:41 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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Status: offline 		I was on a different BDSM discussion list the other day when a poster (claiming to be an experienced dominant) made a post about how sometimes a dom has to punish a sub by withholding food.

He was refering to sending a sub to bed with no dinner for being rude and snotty(his words).

I've yet to hear of a dominant doing this...what do people think?

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 6:53:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Laughing... I have never considered this, though I suppose some might find it appropriate, personally, not for me...I never sent My children to bed without feeding them...as for changing diet, mine is becoming vegeterian...since I will not have her eating meat in front of Me because of My own diet choice...
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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 6:54:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hummm..interesting concept..I have heard of many ways that Doms use in their punishment of their submissives/slaves..What I have noted is that in most cases the Dom uses that which he knows of that particular submissive.slave.The sub/slaves vulnerabilities,their personalities,what the Dom defines as mild misbehavior to serious misbehavior ,All of these are taken into account by the Dom, and then to his line of thinking he doles his punishment out........be well...tempting

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 6:56:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like a Daddy/daughter relationship to me. Nothing sounds wrong unless he is withholding food for days. Which can be dangerous. But if it's one meal and it was for punishment, nope, doesn't seem wrong to me.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:01:23 PM   
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Sounds like a Daddy/daughter relationship to me. Nothing sounds wrong unless he is withholding food for days. Which can be dangerous. But if it's one meal and it was for punishment, nope, doesn't seem wrong to me.


Damn, now you done gone and done it. And here I thought.... well hell guess that's what I get for thinking to begin with..


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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:26:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, at least she might lose a pound or two if needed.

My Dom and I just started diets today after being on a love fest vacation for two weeks and eating out every night. I think we both gained 20 lbs each and needed to get back to eating healthy and exercising. But, DAMN... pita be a hungry girl right now!!

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:30:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's really not a big deal... we all can go without food for a fairly lengthy period withtout any undue side effects.... Water on the other hand ... well that I would be rather careful on.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:32:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see it as a problem as long as the submissive doesn't have some disorder where they HAVE to eat (such as diabetes or hypoglycemia). It's not something I'd do, but hey...

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:36:33 PM   
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It's really not a big deal... we all can go without food for a fairly lengthy period withtout any undue side effects.... Water on the other hand ... well that I would be rather careful on.


Side effects are part of what concerned me. I'm a big believer in regular sustenance to keep the blood sugar level. I suppose it's not a major issue if the dom knows the sub is healthy, and doesn't have hypoglycemia, or diabetes, or anything similar.

Personally, I would be the crankiest, least pleasant sub to deal with, in this situation. Low blood sugar makes me miserable to be around.

Maybe it was little things in his tone that made me think he was a wannabee...That's why I thought I'd air the issue here.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:50:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds effective and useful in certain situations- especially if they had an age play dynamic going on.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:55:37 PM   
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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 7:58:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would never withhold proper and healthy nurishment for my sub. However, banning sweets and junk food is something I can ban for punishment. If she's really bad, I can bake chocolate chip cookies filling the room with it's smell and then eat them in front of her.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 8:04:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with most of the posters here..withholding a meal isnt gonna kill a slave. Come on I get flogged till I have bruises, cut with knives, etc etc whats missing one little meal going to do to me? grin

Master did threaten me once with no dinner, that was because I forgot to feed our dog. He didnt do it but I believed he would and if he did I woulda have accepted it.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 8:14:53 PM   
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I agree with most of the posters here..withholding a meal isnt gonna kill a slave. Come on I get flogged till I have bruises, cut with knives, etc etc whats missing one little meal going to do to me? grin



lol yep that is my sentiment.  i have gone without dinner before (not because of my Master), and i actually lived to tell about it :)

The question is, did you miss your dinner while getting those cuts and bruises?!  hee hee

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 8:16:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would concider sending my sub to bed if it were a result of her own doing, such as not cooking dinner when told to do so. But otherwise I see no reason to do so.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 10:12:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		If the punishment fits for that particular sub, I see no harm in it. 
Perhaps this was a special time they shared each day, and losing that time, as well as the meal would have a profound effect.  Or, as mentioned, age play would denote that particular response.
I like to fit the consequence to the offense, when possible.  As jali mentioned, forgot to feed the dog, so the threat was no dinner for jali.  Miss your own meal once, and you might not be so quick to forget the animal who also needs attention.
Didn't bother to mop the floor?  Now you can do it on your hands and  knees with a toothbrush...inch by inch.
My first instinct as a solution to a rude and snotty sub, would be a ball gag.  Kinda hard to have a snotty tone of voice while gagged and kneeling in the corner.
To each his own, and being sent to bed without dinner once in a while can be effective.

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 10:15:17 PM   
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I've yet to hear of a dominant doing this...what do people think?

Cin


They do it on Survivor all the time and Jeff Probst isn't even a dominant.. although he 'could' be. ;)

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 10:30:33 PM   
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The question is, did you miss your dinner while getting those cuts and bruises?!  hee hee


lol..umm funny thing..i wouldn't of cared if i did *grin*

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 10:34:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well in an Age play scene I have been sent to bed with just bread and butter  for tea but my Beloved is not keen on me skipping meals as I tend to faint, so I feel in context of a scene it would  fine...
If I was just told I was going to be missing a meal, I would climb out a window and go to Subway...but I a very different relationship dynamic then many people here

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RE: Withholding Food - 3/20/2006 10:43:01 PM   
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The question is, did you miss your dinner while getting those cuts and bruises?!  hee hee


lol..umm funny thing..i wouldn't of cared if i did *grin*


~ smiles ~ Of course not.  If you did, i would question your priorites....

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