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flatpat2002 -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 8:30:25 PM)

Hi all,
i had to comment on this. i'm a male bottom and i love trample(facesitting ass and foot worship also). i dont understand the anger men receive here on this subject. It seems spanking, domestic service, and most other things listed here are fine but this subject offends women here. (i know everyone has defferent likes) i like it because i feel serving as a Mistresses floor is the most submissive position there is. You've been reduced to an object, to nothing more important than dirt under your Mistresses feet. You flog people, you walk on floors. To me, trample is always psychologically pleasing, but Mistress with VERY little effort can make it punishing. Thanks for reading this and allowing me to give my thoughts on this.
pat



Lockit -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 8:48:24 PM)

flatpat... go back and read the thread again, slowly. At that point, you can tell US what is wrong here and why he met with some anger. If you can't tell us what the problem is... keep reading it until you can.

There are some things we must learn on our own rather than to have it explained to us. This might be a good thing to figure out.



SweetDommes -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 9:24:29 PM)

Flatpat, you also might want to check out one of the other 3-4 wanker threads this particular OP has started in the last week or so ... that will give you a huge clue as to why he's treated the way that he is on here. If he had come to the board and posted a topic that he actually wanted to learn about rather than jerking off to ... he would not be getting treated like this.



flatpat2002 -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 10:16:42 PM)

Dear Mistresses,
Thank you for the info. i did go back and read his other threads and comments. They were not under the trample thread. It does appear that he is a classless asshole that has no idea how to treat a woman. That's why he so needs a keyboard and his right hand. And why his grammer and spelling suck.
However, my question remains because i and others have consistantly been treated badly on this and other forums/boards for only trying to reach out to others, and the only way is to ask. Even as subs/bottoms it still seems it's the guy that has to put it out there only to be rejected or worse. i know it's hard to weed out the idots from the sincere but thanks for listening.
pat



Andalusite -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 10:53:21 PM)

Other than this thread, due to the OP's poor posting habits, I haven't seen any anger directed at anyone about trampling. There are a couple of threads with several Dommes who said that they enjoy it: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2624668/mpage_1/key_trample/tm.htm#2630070 and http://www.collarchat.com/m_1518531/mpage_1/key_trample/tm.htm#1520884

Personally, my previous submissive loved being walked on, and I've done so to several other guys since, but more as a massage than as a fetish activity per se. My coolest related experience was when a man was lying down in front of me, and I stepped onto his palms, and he pushed his arms straight into the air with me standing balanced in his hands. [:D]

In general, the forums aren't a good place for "reaching out" in terms of overtly looking for a Domme or playpartner. It's good to banter, ask questions, and hopefully impress the ladies with your intellect and wit. [;)] If you start asking for someone to do things to you, your post will get moved or deleted, since outright personal ads are strongly discouraged on this part of the site. Since you only have 3 posts, I'm surprised that you've already stirred up such controversy! I don't recal seeing any posts from you before.



SweetDommes -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 10:56:05 PM)

I'm not interested in trampling because of a combination of my size and the fact that I'm a complete klutz with a bad knee. I'm sure that if I tried it, I'd injure either the boy, or myself ... but as Andulusite stated, I've not seen many negative responses to trampling threads that are brought up respectfully and politely rather than in the "wanker" manner that this one started out in.



Andalusite -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 10:59:33 PM)

SweetDommes, if it is something you're interested in, but are concerned about safety/balance, I think it would be pretty easy to do it more symbolically with one foot lightly on the guy, while you hold onto the couch or even just sit in a chair. Not *exactly* the same, of course, but the visuals and sensations can be quite similar.



SweetDommes -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 11:00:37 PM)

lol, that's wehre the bad knee comes in - if I'm on an uneven surface, it gives me a good deal of pain - I have thought about it, and am still working out the logistics for my size, and other issues lol



Andalusite -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 11:04:26 PM)

That's why I suggested the chair - you're sitting with your weight off your feet/knees entirely, and can step on him with as much or as little pressure as you like, with only the good leg, or both if you're comfortable.



SweetDommes -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 11:07:18 PM)

Yeah, I know - like I said, still working on it [:)]



LadyPact -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 11:17:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: flatpat2002

Dear Mistresses,
Thank you for the info. i did go back and read his other threads and comments. They were not under the trample thread. It does appear that he is a classless asshole that has no idea how to treat a woman. That's why he so needs a keyboard and his right hand. And why his grammer and spelling suck.
However, my question remains because i and others have consistantly been treated badly on this and other forums/boards for only trying to reach out to others, and the only way is to ask. Even as subs/bottoms it still seems it's the guy that has to put it out there only to be rejected or worse. i know it's hard to weed out the idots from the sincere but thanks for listening.
pat


Maybe you're just not seeing it, even though you spelled it out in the above.

Let's say that you go to the same place for lunch each day.  The first four days of the week, someone else is at the same establishment, and he is basically a jerk to you and everyone within his ear shot.  On the last day of the week, after he's already offended you and others around him all of those times prior, he decides that he wants to strike up a conversation about the weather.  Are you really going to be enthusiastic talking about the weather with him or are you going to know him for the jerk that he is from all the prior times he's offended you?


These boards are very much like that.  It is a social area where people get to know one another and discuss things.  If a person has a crude way of presenting themselves right out of the gate, they aren't going to be taken seriously.  People don't think their prior post history comes back to bite them, but it really does.  Personality shines through and it's either a good light or a bad light.

This is pretty much the same advice I give when folks are contacting each other on the other side.  (The personal's side.)  More often than not, some fool will write an introductory email, talking about their sexual preferences or fetishes.  Would you walk up to someone in the grocery store with the same kind of introduction?  Of course you wouldn't, but people seem to think that it's fine here, and have no need for manners whatsoever.

If you want to get to know people, get to know them.  Do it in the same way that you would in any other social situation.  Those who treat this place like it was anywhere else, tend to do better.



flatpat2002 -> RE: Trample (1/5/2010 11:25:27 PM)

Mistress Andalusite, Maybe i picked the wrong thread to speak up and i saw the other ones. And i was also talking about other sites as well. Thank you for sharing some of your experiences. i do understand this is'nt a personals forum. Just stating my issues/problems. As for my lack of posts, my motto is : It is better to remain silent and thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt. Also , You cant learn anything with your mouth open.

Miss Karen/Holly,
Sorry about your knee. As for your size, i actually prefer larger dommes and i'm sure you would'nt damage me. Some rugs are just better quality than others.
As for trampling in general, i just wish it was a more common fetish and disscussed more.
pat



WyldHrt -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 1:50:41 AM)

Sorry, but the OP being on moderation is making me giggle [8D]



wandersalone -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 1:54:57 AM)

bloody hell that didn't take him long....guess he decided not to listen to our advice 



SweetDommes -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 2:03:49 AM)

You honestly thought he would? wow, you're optimistic lol



Ladynslave -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 3:49:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: walkonme10

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3 of these wasn't a hint?



flatpat2002 -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 11:00:02 AM)

Sweet Dommes,
May i offer a solution. Several years ago i built a platform for a Mistress. It looks like parallel bars. They're about 5' long, 30" apart and about 3' high. The slave lies between them and gives the Mistress perfect balance and also she can dismount quickly and salely if needed. She has used it for years and never had a problem. i've had as many as 5 women on me at the same time and they had no issues with balance. i can send you more details on construction if you like.
pat



CarrieO -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 11:57:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: flatpat2002
However, my question remains because i and others have consistantly been treated badly on this and other forums/boards for only trying to reach out to others, and the only way is to ask. Even as subs/bottoms it still seems it's the guy that has to put it out there only to be rejected or worse. i know it's hard to weed out the idots from the sincere but thanks for listening.
pat


I'd like to help you understand why it could be that you seem to be having adifficult time concerning "reaching out" about your fetishes.
I was exchanging emails with a young man on CM recently and even though he seemed a bit too focused on his one kink, we were able to discuss common mainstream mutual interests...music, movies and such.  I sent him an email just before New Year's Eve letting him know I would be very busy the next 4 days but that he should feel free to ask me any questions or bring up anything he'd like to discuss (non-kink) and I'd reply as soon as I could find time.
His response?  "Is there any chance of me getting to ****** you because I really don't want to waste my time otherwise?"
His sole focus was his kink and anything else was a waste of time, even getting to know the person he claimed to be interested in. 

You'll find most women don't mind discussing your desires once a friendly rapport has been established.  All too often, it's "Hi...yes, yes...I'm so very interested in you...yes, yes...I like to get to know a person first too...how soon can we play?"  It is frustrating, annoying and requires lots of patience to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Just my $0.02...take it or leave it and good luck in your search.



Lockit -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 12:01:39 PM)

Okay... you asked... you read again and you learned what you needed to see about someone else. You still ask some questions, so I will try to bring this to a more personal place.

quote:

ORIGINAL: flatpat2002

Hi all,
i had to comment on this. i'm a male bottom and i love trample(facesitting ass and foot worship also). i dont understand the anger men receive here on this subject.

Sometimes some attitude can be found here becasue of how someone says something. Someone announcing what they want or seek comes off as a selfish thing, sexually or kink motivated and as if a person just wants someone to service them, not presenting as though they see us dominant's as a person. Some of us could have had a rough day in email or something and will respond from that rough place. Some will simply be tired of wanker threads. lol

It seems spanking, domestic service, and most other things listed here are fine but this subject offends women here. (i know everyone has defferent likes)

I am not sure that is is that we take offense to certain kinks. I think there is someone out there that likes whatever it is. We are not offended, but may have an opinion on whatever it is whether we like it or not, bringing in to things... safety, realistic expectations and presentation.
 
i like it because i feel serving as a Mistresses floor is the most submissive position there is.

This would be your personal feelings on the most submissive position. Many would agree with you I am sure, but some would not.
 
You've been reduced to an object, to nothing more important than dirt under your Mistresses feet.

This too is a personal thing, but many of us do not want a submissive/slave to be reduced to an object and dirt below our feet. Some of us can get a bit impatient with this because many have some idea that this is what they wish to be and many are unrealistic in their expectations and some unhealthy in wanting to be nothing more. While some want this and it is a kink or whatever that they are involved in, many here are more interested in other things. Keep in mind that many try to force their kink or whatever in a way that isn't acceptable to many of us and many will believe that we all are the same and this is what a dominant woman does.
 
You flog people, you walk on floors. To me, trample is always psychologically pleasing, but Mistress with VERY little effort can make it punishing. Thanks for reading this and allowing me to give my thoughts on this.
pat

I do believe that most of us wish to know how people feel and what they think about things and you are as welcome to post these things as anyone else. How you do that is perceived as an individual thing (your's and other's) and might be how some respond to whatever is said by anyone. Stick around... you may see more reasons for some of what happens around here.. then again... there are many things that have no reasoning! lol



flatpat2002 -> RE: Trample (1/6/2010 2:13:21 PM)

WOW!!!!
Thank you for listening and putting YOUR feelings to my concerns. I do want to say i have several domme friends, yes , most are pro-dommes but i also know them as people and love each one. We tell each other about work, family and other vanilla issues we all have. We supply a need and connection for each other on both the fetish and real worlds. They are in many ways my closest friends.
Thanks again for your time. Hopefully we opened some eyes on both sides of this disscussion.
pat



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