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humilee -> how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 4:45:41 PM)
I pose this question to all. do we not get into the lifestyle because it is part of who we are ? it is not like picking up darts an a tuesday night. we want to be an active participant. How many of you have Masters/Mistress that you do not see often enough for your liking? My curiosity is high to know if other had/have the same issue i had.

AquaticSub -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 4:51:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: humilee I pose this question to all. do we not get into the lifestyle because it is part of who we are ? Who we are, something we want in our lives... just depends on how you want to look at it. quote: it is not like picking up darts an a tuesday night. we want to be an active participant. I can agree with this more or less. quote: How many of you have Masters/Mistress that you do not see often enough for your liking? Mine lives with me. For awhile we were long distence but we made an effort to see each other every other weekend and talked on the phone a lot. It sucked not to see him all the time then, but we got through it. quote: My curiosity is high to know if other had/have the same issue i had. I would imagine that just about anyone in a long-distence relationship or anyone with a partner who has a demanding job, kinky or vanilla, has experienced this at some point or another.

Underumam -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 5:00:23 PM)
Personally, I would have a very difficult time being in any type of a committed relationship unless we're at least living in close proximity to each other, so seeing "Her" enough would not be an issue. I have needs as far as time spent and availability with any potential Domina/lifemate, so living together after a reasonable amount of time would be paramount to any long term I would consider. I realize others have different needs/requirements, but this is simply how I need it to be for me. I lucked out with D, and time is never an issue for us. Opie- what other "issues" are you referring to?

littlewonder -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 5:30:45 PM)
Yup, I don't see Master anywhere near often enough. I'd be happy if I could see him everyday but that's just not going to happen right now....but someday very soon I'll at least get to see him more often than not. It's the reason I stick around because I know that's in the near future. I would however not get involved with someone that I could not see often ever.

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 6:04:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: humilee I pose this question to all. do we not get into the lifestyle because it is part of who we are ? it is not like picking up darts an a tuesday night. we want to be an active participant. How many of you have Masters/Mistress that you do not see often enough for your liking? My curiosity is high to know if other had/have the same issue i had. Probably anyone in a long-distance relationship would say they aren't together often enough! Example: Right now, my submissive love and I can only be together for a few days every couple months, and the time seems to vanish all too quickly. We talk a couple times a day, and I even bought her a laptop and webcam so we can see each other when we talk. Still, she knows when it's about a month after we've been together, and again a couple weeks before we reunite, I get grumpy and kvetch about the situation. I'm going to do whatever I must to ensure we're together permanently by the end of this year, so there won't be a question of "often enough." "And they lived happily ever after." [sm=chug.gif] Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink

Zadie -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 9:45:22 PM)
I, and I'm sure many others have. Selection is an opportunity we have to ensure our needs are compatible. There's many levels of relationships in this arena, being an addition to ones ego doesn't attract me. I reserve my exclusive attention to one that is at least somewhat as interested and available as I am.

RealSub58 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 9:59:52 PM)
I got involved in a relationship, not a lifestyle. Our relationship is based upon my submission and his dominance which is what I needed/wanted and so he. Our personalities are part of who we are and not based on kinks and a "lifestyle" - - - altho he has much more practice under his cap than I do. quote: ORIGINAL: humilee do we not get into the lifestyle because it is part of who we are ? How many of you have Masters/Mistress that you do not see often enough for your liking? My curiosity is high to know if other had/have the same issue i had. I do not see him as much as I would like...but I cannot because of my living situation. He tries to make it happen for me and us. We live 30 min apart, different cities but its better than 1000 miles or 2 hours. We speak regularly on the phone and it saves my sanity many times.

osf -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 10:23:45 PM)
quote: altho he has much more practice under his cap than I do. real obedience needs no practice

QuirkyAnne -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/3/2010 10:54:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: humilee I pose this question to all. do we not get into the lifestyle because it is part of who we are ? it is not like picking up darts an a tuesday night. we want to be an active participant. How many of you have Masters/Mistress that you do not see often enough for your liking? My curiosity is high to know if other had/have the same issue i had. It is absolutely a part of who I am and have always been and the fact that I currently do not have someone who can be my friend/lover/Dominant and create a relationship where we can both be active participants is painful for me. My former Dom, lived too far away from me and because of that, the relationship was more of a friends with kinky benefits rather than one of mutual love and devotion. I've made up my mind that while, this can be sexually satisfying, the opportunity to have something deeper and lasting with a Dom who is local and can be seen more than once every few months, whose physical and emotional needs I can satisfy and he can do so for me in kind is far more appealing. Anne

choccywoc -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 3:25:11 AM)
Of course i'd love to see my mistress all the time, but it's a fantasy thing and so impractical. Life is so very expensive and it's near impossible to live off the grid. When i'm with her i'm begging for those sessions to never end. It's all too easy to be a "lifestyle mistress" but a "lifestyle slave" not very easy.

Aileen1968 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 5:22:56 AM)
I am lucky in that I get to have him a minimum of two days a week and a max of five days a week, depending on my schedule and when I have my daughters. I won't be satisfied until it's seven days a week. We're working on that...

wisdomtogive -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 6:31:30 AM)
It is very hard. In 2 wks Sir will be here to move me into his home. Moving from Florida to NJ with my kitty. We talk a lot via phone plus emails and ims but just not the same.

VirginPotty -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 6:43:05 AM)
He has alot of personal issues in his life right now so our time together is only about once a week, if I'm lucky twice but that's few & far between. Once this issue has been resolved we'll have more time together but that scares me a bit. I'm used to being on my own, having my own life, being independent & I worry how that's all going to change once he's more involved. Am I ready or am I just playing a part? Who knows, only time will tell.

RealSub58 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 9:06:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: altho he has much more practice under his cap than I do. real obedience needs no practice kick that stupid commomt up your ass

NuevaVida -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 10:45:32 PM)
Right now we're with each other 2-3 days a week, although we just spent that last 10 days or so together. We're about an hour & a half apart so we take turns making the drive - my bathroom has his stuff in it and his bathroom has my stuff in it and we do the best we can. We talk a couple of times a day on the phone and exchange an email or two each day as well. We both envision living under the same roof, but when the time is right for it. Until then, we keep moving forward together, missing each other when apart and enjoying & valuing our time together.

ceebee -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/4/2010 11:36:53 PM)
We both knew venturing into this that we would NEVER have "enough" time together, do to the demands of silly little nuisances like jobs and the demands of families. We simply savor the moments we have, and at times resort to hot nasty phone fantasy sex about what we're going to do the next time we're together. i know- some would consider that a poor substitute. But sometimes stolen moments are better than no moments..............

humilee -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/5/2010 7:22:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive It is very hard. In 2 wks Sir will be here to move me into his home. Moving from Florida to NJ with my kitty. We talk a lot via phone plus emails and ims but just not the same. i am so happy for you !!!!!!

littleone35 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/6/2010 9:48:46 AM)
I see Master 5-6 days a wek but it is still not enough. Like i tell Master i am a greedy sub and want to see him all the time. I know i am lucky to see him as much as i do. Matt's littleone

raj2324 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/6/2010 10:57:15 AM)
i am very lucky to have a Mistress after a very long time, but the only thing is she is very far away from me, but i hope and trust her that i will be with her as soon as possible. i love my Mistress and i am her whipping boy.

raj2324 -> RE: how much is enough?? (1/6/2010 10:59:04 AM)
i wish and know that when i will be with her, i will be used all over and 24/7, i am looking forward to it.

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