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Mercnbeth -> RE: to love One......but adore another...? (3/23/2006 9:23:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: boundgirl
beth hello , thankyou for your message, im sure it is so very easy to be critical of others if you are in a good D/s relationship..........tell me...does Your Master tell you He loves You...........does He show you affection and caring.........does He tell you that You are wonderful and His one and only?..if He does.....your a lucky girl....i have tried for three yrs to have those things and words in my D/s life.......communication..yes of course i have spoken to Master about it..all of it........but....to deaf ears it seems......and while i do love Him.........its tearing me up inside and i must do something about it....hence......the new D.
to hurt His feelings is something that i do not want to do.........so being selfish...or greedy..........i dont think so......just trying to make the best of a bad situation...i do hope this never happens to You beth.......but if it does......i will be here to listen..............but not JUDGE you
boundgirl
first off, you are welcome. constructive criticism is where this slave was going with her response to you, not an attempt to offend or pass judgment on you---remember, you came on this board and asked other subs and slaves to help you understand your confusion, and offer suggestions to your questions: "help me please"..."why is it that i cannot ask for my release?"..."why can't i tell Him of my feelings for another?". this slave speaks from LIFE experience, not necessarily experienced garnered through a good D/s relationship. there have been SO many troubles and heartache that this slave has witnessed or been a part of that could have been avoided altogether had everyone just been HONEST and respectful with themselves, each other, and the commitments they made. it has been this slave's experience that unless you are HONEST with your partner and COMMUNICATE within the parameters that you have previously agreed to, you not only DIShonor yourself but the relationship that you have committed yourself to-D/s, M/s, vanilla, what-have-you.
you can sugarcoat it if you want, blame your Master for not meeting your emotional needs or add in all the romantic fluff you care to, it still won't change the fact that YOU have acted dishonorably. going about behind your Master's back negotiating some sort of fulfillment for yourself (emotional or otherwise) is NOT honorable, in this slave's opinion. Again, this is an OPINION about the situation YOU represented here.
this slave's feelings of LOVE for Master have precious little to do with if it is returned or not. the return of that love is GRAVY, it never was an expectation. this slave has loved many who did not return it to her...still does for that matter---and has also heard "i hate you" or other negative things in response to her professions of love. no matter, because "getting" someone to love and be affectionate to this slave was not her goal.
this "bad situation" that you find yourself in just didn't magically appear out of nowhere. in order to rectify it, this slave stands by her suggestion that you come clean to your Master about all of it~not just your desire for affection and romantic feelings and expression of sentiment, you say that you have already made Him aware of that~this slave is talking about the MOST IMPORTANT stuff you have been leaving out of your conversation~ your desire and pursuit of another behind Master's back~ be prepared for some fallout, including the possibility of your release, begged for or not.
rest assured, if this slave ever screwed up and came on the boards desperately seeking help for a self-created dilemma and asking for advice, she would HOPE that you,(and FULLY rely on LuckyAlbatross[;)], among others), to try to set this slave straight again by encouraging her to honor her commitment to Master and our relationship as Master and slave, by going to HIM with it , ALL of it, WARTS and ALL, irregardless of what that dilemma or its outcome may be.
sometimes the right thing IS the hardest thing to do.
best of luck and warmest of wishes to you!
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