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UniqueRaven -> RE: Debasement (1/5/2010 6:40:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
I traditionally pass on threads about humilation and debasement simply because I don't believe in it. But maybe that's worth a post anyway....
If I've got the girl all naked, bound and kneeling doing a bit of forced oral service (for eg), I'm NOT doing it to debase or humilate her. My motivation is about asserting control and ownership rights etc and, frankly, I'd be quite alarmed about where her own headspace is if *she* felt humiliated or debased. Such a situation would require a complete halt and much discussion, including where our entire relationship is....
That said, if some nosey nilla happened to be peeking through a window at the time, I can see how they might find our... errr...., Power Exchange might be of humiliation and debasement of the girl.
But the opinions of the ignorant and uninitiated ain't worth a cracker and certainly not worth modelling *MY* relationships or personal business on.
Focus.
Well said.
i've often said it's hard for me to be debased or humiliated for the same reasons. The judgment of the actions i'm being ordered to perform are in his mind, not mine. If i'm not judging my actions, they're not humiliating - and they're often quite fun instead.
A sub/slave could be put into a physical position of debasement, i.e. ignored, locked in the basement (sideways glance at EbonyWood) or a closet, kept soiled, fed low quality or pet food, etc. etc. etc. - but i view that as more situational than mental.
Reminds me of a quote that i like:
"Why, then 'tis none to you; for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."~William Shakespeare
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