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sweetsub1957 -> RE: Double standard in respect (1/5/2010 10:02:49 AM)
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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive
A Rant...and not pointed to anyone in particular, since i seen this in others
Me too.
Do you believe there is a double standard in respect when it comes to a Dominant and a submissive?
Yes, in some people's minds there is, unfortunately. It doesn't mean it's right.
Do you think that because someone wears the title of a Dominant that they should come with a name tag, Respect Me?
I think people should be respected because they act respectfully. I respect everyone, regardless of their chosen role, until they give me a reason not to.
Do you think that a Dominant has the right to call submissives who are not their's names like cunt, bitch ..etc?
No. Some seem to think They do, but in my opinion. It really irks me when Someone who is not my Dominant calls me that. I have boundaries and, when Someone who is not my Dominant calls me names like that, They are stepping on them. Not good.
As a Dominant do you use these terms broadly in posting or out in BDSM functions? Do you believe if, while out in one these functions, that if you would go up to a submissive and called them one of those names, their Dominant would welcome it?
I am not a Dom, but I will say that when I was with Sir, He would have been very displeased at Someone calling me that. As a matter of fact, He would have told Them so.....immediately.
Do you angst over how submissives behave yet you can display brattiness, elusiveness and demeaning other submissives, just because you titled yourself a Dominant?
It's not very becoming behavior now, is it.....in anyone.
Can you understand how these behaviors make you look to potential submissives? Can you understand that some submissive will think less of you, and not choose you to control them?
Or do They even care......
You too are being observed,
Yes, They are, just as we are.
and if you believe you have these rights just because you choose to wear the label Dominant, many submissives will look at it just as a label, and nothing else. Labels are a dime a dozen, yet they are judged daily. Some might find this type of behavior welcoming, which would be good for those type of Doms, but some won't.
As a submissive, I definitely don't consider this type of behavior attractive & would not welcome it, and would definitely pass Them over when searching for a Dominant.
Respect is earned and has nothing to do with being polite. I am generally polite by nature, but you will not get respect from me if you do not deserve it.
I agree. I have no problem calling Dominants "Sir" or "Ma'am," but if Someone who doesn't own me treats me like shit and calls me nasty names, They will lose my respect.
You can judge us and our behaviors, which are many and vary in degrees, just remember you as a Dominant might think there is a double standard in respect, but you really are a fool to beleive so. Submissives do not serve everyone as they do the one that controls them, why would we.
Again, I agree.
Dominants do not control submissives they do not own. It boils down to respect doesn't it. Show people respect it will be given to you. Don't demand it, if you cant show respect to submissives.
Thank you!!! Well said. [;)]
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