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ShrewWhisperer -> RE: Where does Yyour deepest pride come from? (9/9/2004 9:04:45 AM)
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Hey Wetrope,
Man, never let other people's opinion of the life shape your own...and most espcially don't let their opinions color your opinion of yourself. A couple of reasons, first, most people are too stupid to give that kind of influence, the second is it don't matter, if you know, KNOW, you are oding things the right way then you are....you might lose subs because your way isn't her way, but there are equal numbers of subs out there who will find your way of doing things just about perfect.
with poaching...and I suspect this is a worn-out thread (don't bother looking it up folks) there should be some sort of honor between doms and I'm told someplaces there are....but most times its like eaglelets in a nest, the big ones eat the small ones, it's nasty but it's the way of eagles. All you can do is let it be known you'll take it personal like if someone tries and when it comes down to it, win the fight even if it's with a sock of pennies.
and of course keep your sub happy & too busy to notice someone trying to poach her, this isn't absolute cuz of the sub-ego factor, so many of them come from this place they want male-attention (okay dom/me attention, my innate sexism is goin' end me up on a lughnasad altar one day) the flattery of being chased makes them open to it and they'll jump ship short sightedly without considering they maybe leaving a good dom for a bad one.
small story: I had a guy trying to take one of my girls back a few years ago, this was at the infancy of the mainstream internet, so it was at long distance, so I packed her up and took her across the country to where he lived, got to the right address and explained to him face to face in real life, if he wanted her he had to knock me down...well needless to say he back-downed, all 5'2" of him. Dunno if he ever learned some manners but the trip home with her was a roller coaster ride of good sex and proper submission (much better than the trip out) so defending what is yours can have grand results on occasion.
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